@RenaS
Rena Strober
@RenaS · 1:58

Mad does NOT equate Mean

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Hi, it's Rena. I'm a performer, but I'm also an educator. Mostly I teach singing to young girls ages about eight to 18. And lately I've noticed a real strong trend in young girls that they are so scared to be angry and mad and mostly in terms of when they're singing. But I know that what they sing is very much a mirror of how they are in life

Girls meed to be taught that it’s OK to be mad! What do you think? #Feminism #Equality #Children #emotions

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@RenaS

And I'm done handling other people's emotions as if it's my responsibility when it's not. Anyway, just a really important conversation to be had. So thank you for raising it
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Renee 🪬
@RensLens · 1:47

#teengirls #mentalhealth

You. Yeah, everything you said right there, it's just so true. It made me think because my own daughter had been in private voice lessons for years and although she got out of it, which breaks my heart, she's ADHD, so she tends to move on fairly quickly from one thing to the next. And she'll probably always be that way. But for those years she was in voice, I can remember her just being in the shower and just bolting it out
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 3:17

@marklesserart

And I do think women have it harder than men, for sure, because we're called names more. But when you're just among women and there's this thing happening, you see some of the similar name calling and behaviors. We're not immune to not being each other's best friends here. And professionally, there's a lot of backstabbing and a lot of competition and a lot of inappropriate assigning of roles that say, oh, that person is mean
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Kola Shippentower
@Kola · 4:46
And it was deemed that I didn't have very good communication skills. And I was like, what that's? Like? What I do is I communicate with everybody within my position. So this is very interesting that this is being brought up, but I'm going to say something that was really powerful within that moment, is that it was because of my husband. He told me, you need to say something. I got us here
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Renee 🪬
@RensLens · 3:52
He's loud, he's intense, he hyper focuses because of his ADHD. He worked in corporate America just long enough to kind of work the system or learn the system, I should say. And then he knew, I can't work for somebody. I have to work for myself. And he's the type of guy who's going to work all night and don't call him and don't interrupt him because you're going to interfere with his flow and nothing's going to change
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J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:36
Yes. Please do not let your go to or limit your word choice to the only emotion of being angry. There's so many other emotions, and we have the feelings and emotions will and I've expressed to him the importance of especially when it comes to women, to before you assign the emotion to them, ask, hey, I'm feeling a sense of energy or a change in your nonverbal cues
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Rena Strober
@RenaS · 1:51

@Her_Sisu

It's. Wow. I am so grateful for your response. I just took, like, everything you said and put it in my toolbox of being a mom. I'm going to listen to that a thousand times because the emotion wheel and identifying emotions my daughter is six. I don't know how old your son is, but, wow, mama, you are killing it. And I also love you bringing up that stereotype of angry black woman, and I am just an angry Jewish woman
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Rena Strober
@RenaS · 2:50
And if you haven't listened to her response, her way of identifying emotions for her son is something that I think is a good lesson for all of us. So thank you. This has been so surprising and gratifying, and I'm just grateful. This is my first real foray. And as well, besides the amazing conversation I had with Deborah Partis, who's also just so in tune with these ideas. So thank you. Let's keep the conversation going
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Masha Rooh
@Ba-Dastoor · 2:38

Be Crazy, Bold & Unstoppable. Some may treat it as Noise but for many its peace. #itsgoodtobemad #swellmadness

Hey, Rena, it's a great topic to hear about. I just heard that you referred about the music lessons that you teach to the small kids and especially girls. And I believe music itself is a language of expression, but as one picture themselves in the environment or feel of the music. Basically, it's about being in the character of zone
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J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:41

@RenaS

Absolutely. You should swell with pride and emotion and be very proud of yourself. To put such a riveting topic that really has people reflecting and raising awareness, and it is a part of the change. Right. You posed a question back to me of, hey, as a woman of another race and cultural background, what can I do in terms of decreasing and hopefully in the future eliminating? I honestly don't believe there will ever be an elimination of it. Let's start with decreasing that stereotype
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