Ramya V
@Ramya · 1:42

How Our Children Brought Us Up - A Conversation with Author, Life Coach & Counsellor Manoj Bhuraria.

And I feel this is something that is very relevant in the current times and I'm very excited to dive deeper into this conversation with Mr. Manoj Bhuraria to better understand the insights and experiences that he has so beautifully and thoughtfully captured in his book. Hello Mr Bhuraria, thank you so much for joining in

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Ramya V
@Ramya · 0:26

1. Influence of the Indian value system and cultural nuances in your parenting style...

So, Mr.Manoj, your book focuses on the indian value system and the cultural complexities involved in parenting. Based on your own personal experience as a parent, could you talk about how these cultural aspects have influenced your approach to raising your kids and how they are reflected in your book?
Manoj Bhuraria
@ManojBhuraria · 0:33

@Ramya

Hello, Ramya. First of all, thank you so much for having me on this podcast and I'm really honored to be here. And secondly, it's quite encouraging to, you know, hear from you the way you have appreciated the book and you gone about it as welcome remarks. Thank you so much and looking forward to a fruitful conversation with
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15

Welcome to Swell!

Manoj Bhuraria
@ManojBhuraria · 3:02

@Ramya

The second aspect I have touched upon is that even where this might be available, like joint family situation, the handed down approach of our grandparents or parents towards bringing up our children needs recalibration. Now, it cannot be applied verbatim to this Gen Z or millennial or alpha kits, whatever you call them, without modifying it, I would say even customizing it. Fortunately, in our case, presence of elderlies added its flavor
Ramya V
@Ramya · 0:29

2. The concept of parenting as a 2 way learning process.

One aspect of your book that really stands out is how you have presented the concept of parenting as a two way learning process where children also play a role in shaping their parents. This is a recurring theme in your book, so could you talk about this idea and share some examples from your personal experience that showcases this dynamic between parents and children?
Manoj Bhuraria
@ManojBhuraria · 3:25

@Ramya

Actually, this concept of two way learning is something we discovered midway in our parenting journey. You could say that I have quoted an american author, Brigitte Miller, which very aptly summarizes this. She says, and I quote, the point of parenting is not to have all answers before we start out, but to figure it out on the go as our children grow. Because as they grow, so will we. So now you know, let me explain this two way learning using an example
Ramya V
@Ramya · 0:23

3. A reflective memoir rather than a structured parenting manual...

How our children brought us up is more of a reflective memoir rather than a very prescriptive sort of parenting manual. What led you to choose such an approach for your book, and how do you believe this distinguishes your book from other parenting guides that are out there?
Manoj Bhuraria
@ManojBhuraria · 2:17

@Ramya

I said, well, as when I was writing, I felt that the book was inside me, waiting to be written. So don't expect much changes here. In fact, I got the title during one of my morning meditations, which initially perplexed me and my wife. How our children brought us up. We thought, you know, what is this? But slowly the insight dawned and the words came straight from my heart
Ramya V
@Ramya · 0:25

3. Balancing traditional Indian values with modern parenting practices...

I'm also curious to know how you balance traditional indian values with modern parenting practices in your approach to raising children, especially given the challenges indian parents often face in this regard. And how have you brought out this balance in your book?
Manoj Bhuraria
@ManojBhuraria · 3:45

@Ramya

So, I mean, I can stretch this argument in so many different dimensions of life. And if you think through deeply. It should strike any average individual that we have to act in sync with the times. Hence, observe, respond and experience your child without judging or comparing. You will then find your balance as a parent automatically
Ramya V
@Ramya · 1:13

5. What key insights do you hope your readers will takeaway from the book?

This actually brings me to my last question, but before I get into that, I wanted to thank you Mr.Bhuraria, for taking the time out and joining me today and talking about your book. I really appreciate all the insights that you've shared with us today. I read your book and I found it to be super valuable. So many great takeaways for me in it as a parent who works this proverbial tightrope.
Manoj Bhuraria
@ManojBhuraria · 4:19

@Ramya

So if you look closely, the book has multi layered narrative. And again, I am glad and grateful to report that some of the readers, ranging from 18 years to 85 years of age, have told me how different aspects of the book have appealed to them. So parenting is both the backdrop as well as the vehicle in our story. You must have followed that in the entire book, and that is why I have referred to it as a journey