Fear of starting.
Good evening, everyone. My name is Princella Bella. This is my first time using swell. And the topic I chose for tonight is fear of starting. I mean, I don't know if if you all had been paralyzed with fear, beginning a new idea or a new journey, a new task, but I have been wanting to get into public speaking for a very long time. Mind you, I have spoken on a few panels about rising above the stigma against mental health
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:17
Well, that was awesome. You had a great moment with us, and I didn't sense any trepidation, and I just want to welcome you. And for me, sometimes you're in excitement, get confused. Not always, but sometimes I think it's fear, and it's actually just an excitement about something that feels uncomfortable, and I can't find my ground. But I'm looking forward to hearing your voice more. And I fear speed. I don't like speed
And if you trust that, then you'll be okay with just the present moment, just right now. But in the meantime, there's a lot of experience and there is something that's happening that's ruminating inside you that is going to eventually lead you to where you're supposed to be and when you're ready. Emotionally, because I think mentally and intellectually and practically you are ready, but then emotionally, I think you are going to be doing it
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Chelsea Hanawalt
@allowthesun · 2:20
And then afterwards, after I get to do the thing, I'm like, oh, my gosh, why did I freak myself out so much? Why can't I just relax into things? So I am still working on that, but it's getting better. And, yeah, I think a fear for me is the ocean. I love the ocean, though. Like, I love the beach. I always want to be there, but swimming in big waves, it's scary
And I did it along with YouTube videos and motivation from my son's god mom. And she kept getting in my fear and just telling me, you got this. You got this, baby girl. You got this. And that was enough for me to do it. Just like when I started this swell. My uncle was the encourager in the background. So I guess my thing is I need someone to encourage me and motivate me in the background. I need that little cheerleader to help me out
Zara Lisbon
@ZLisbon · 4:42
And how do we do that when we're so afraid? When we're paralyzed by fear? I like that you put it that way. Because I'm a writer and when I'm starting a new project, or even sometimes when I'm in the middle of a project, but especially when I'm starting a project, I can be so afraid. I not even realize how afraid I am
So I say this because sometimes I can be so creative. Like, I'll be working on one project, and then all of a sudden, seven other projects come to my mind, and I'm like, oh, I got to start this, I got to start that. Then I never finished what I started, and I'm trying to get out of that. I'm trying to live a more simple life and be a little bit take more baby steps