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You try to adjust to see if it's just a moment. And then maybe you realize, hey, this person and I come to the end of our story, and the only next shift is apart. And this happens. Does this happen with friendships? This is the same. So if you think friendships, I think friendships right, they penetrate and they overcome all things. But that's not true. Just still two people still a relationship
Ophelia Johnson
@LadyO · 4:39
I have people who I care about and who I think care about me. But we don't have history. We don't have anything, you know. And I think that's the loneliness that I feel being here and being on swallow kind of helps to get rid of that loneliness sometimes because it's just not the same. You can meet someone and you get together and you laugh and you talk and you talk about your problems, but they don't really know you
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:45
I honestly don't know what is a friend. I mean, I know to a certain extent, and it's not that I don't have friends. I just have a small amount of friends. I guess I'm kind of similar to you in that vein, sontaia, a friend to me is someone I can talk to on or offline
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 2:20
No, I don't know if you remember that me and Janet were traumatized. But anyway, yeah. So to Young point, I don't know. It's like friendship thing. Like, as Dawan said, it can be very strange because we have this idea. I have an idea. Or I had an idea that it was about seeing each other. And if you get shot, who are you going to call?
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 1:07
And they're consistent or something, then they can earn that spot, I suppose. But yeah, it's so tricky. So tricky. I remember when I used to do blogs and there were people like you met your friend on anchor that we would correspond so much with the person you really get to know them. But then, like you said, there's a certain part of the bubble that they don't penetrate because they're someplace else. It's virtual
Clay Lowe
@soulcruzer · 5:00
But say we go to the same Church, I guess, or belong to the same club or we go the fishing club or whatever that is. And then the third kind of friendship is the friendship of characters. So this is the sort of love of the other because of who they are in and of themselves. So the friendship is not dependent upon external things. You just enjoy each other's companies because you recognize yourself in them. In fact, he called it a friend is another self
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 3:00
I've had a situation recently where I had to sort of move on from a friend and it was painful. I know it was painful for her, but it just didn't feel nurturing of me anymore. The nature of it didn't. Also, I've made friends in this last few years that feel old and soulful and full of trust and love and joy. And it's amazing when that happens, especially later in life
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 2:45
So it was very good to be reminded that or sort of, like, affirmed or agree with, like, it's a healthy choice sometimes to say, hey, this has transcended into something else, like acquaintanceship or whatever the case may be. We don't need to put that pressure on it. And I think that's the beautiful point about how it's very easy to be a friend when in crisis, because that is pretty clear
Charlie Floyd
@damonnomad · 3:08
Then there's all these other kinds of other relationships, and I just had to keep thinking to myself what's the whole purpose for having a friend? Then if I have family, I have other acquaintances. What really is a friend. And I concluded that for myself, a friend should be invested in your well being, but they also have a more objectionable eye and being able to tell you the truth
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 1:24
I never know how to say that expression, but there's that going on in that definitely that defines the relationship, even though there's this sort of idea of unconditional love amongst family or parents, I don't think that's true at all. Parents and children. Parents always expect something. There's so many conditions that I love. But yeah, thank you. Have an amazing day. Bye
Charlie Floyd
@damonnomad · 4:23
I was raised with this idea that anyone older than you would be considered an elder. Elders were always to be honored and respected and listened to. And mostly they were to be believed that tutelage actually does serve a purpose. It has a useful purpose, but on the flip side, it also has its disadvantages because the useful purpose is that it allows one to maintain maximum control of children
Andrew Young
@LuckyDreamer206 · 0:08
A friend is someone who listens to you and hopefully has the same interests as you
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