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And the other thing that happens when you refer to somebody's relationship when they've told you that their buyer are pansexual and you prefer to the relationship as straight, okay, is you're basically correcting them and telling them what their sexual orientation is and completely ignoring what their sexual identity is that they've told you. Again, this is such a common thing, but every sexuality, every gender is valid. And just by doing using language like that, it raises people's identities
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 1:20
And I think by calling a bisexual or pansexual relationship as gay or straight, by trying to define it in such terms is definitely a sort of observation or a sort of error of the other person's sexual identity. And it's extremely wrong. And a lot of people need to be sensitized regarding this because even I have seen this happening around me a lot. I've seen such ignorant people, even the ones whom you do not expect to be so ignorant, even they at times show such traits
Charlie Floyd
@damonnomad · 3:55
We have produced some of the most vile and violent and brutal people in the history of the world, and I would say that is evidenced by the Peoples that these economic systems, these social economic systems have altered people for as far as I can see, the rest of history. I think that until we tend to the legacy of colonization and slavery, that the gender construct that suppresses others will continue to fruit in the form of citizens
Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 0:44
Hey Charlie, first I just want to say thank you so much for your very intersectional take of how gender and conversations we have around gender, especially in the US, play out in the long, long history there is of how much the construction of gender is tied to capitalistic forces, racism, sexism, all those things. And also too, I think about the history of property and how all of that plays into it as well
Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 3:35
And so that folks question it and think about it before we all engage with one another. And then also I wanted to say, h*** yeah, that you spoke up about it, because I know it's not always comfortable to, in those moments, differentiate and say, hey, actually, the assumptions you're making about me or my partner or how I think about myself in relationship are not correct. And here's why
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Geetanjali Kanate
@Grace_126 · 1:23
First off, thank you so much for sharing your experience. It's really nice to hear people speak out. I guess people fail to understand that labels are not necessary in the boxes that you have to fit in. They are made so that they can include people. They are meant to be a place of belonging. That's what I find a little toxic sometimes even inside the LGBTQ plus community mainly
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 3:42
It's your country and I only get a very small snippet as a brick kind of looking from the outside almost and they need visiting briefly. So I am very mindful that it could just be concentrated views. We only get certain snippets from the news and stuff like that. But it's very interesting to hear from somebody who is American actually similar thought process and similar experiences and observations as to how I have experienced certain kind of ideologies and areas and groups of people in America
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 4:59
So, yeah, I loved the fact you brought it up because I think that was one of my favorite moments from that season, purely because I think it did just crack wide open the whole conversation, not just around a person being nonbinary, but around defining relationships and around who defines those relationships. It shouldn't be from society. It shouldn't be the person that opposite me in an airport telling me, because your relationship looks like this, you must be this sexuality
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