@NLOFrank
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 3:34

Should we be raising children as non binary until they choose otherwise?

And there isn't anything kind of thrown on them without agenda. And I've got friends who use the pronouns of the gender assigned at birth, so they are born or boy or girl using the binary gender as that example, and then just again being open minded that it's okay if they play with toys or want to wear things that are very typically in society seen as gendered and allowing them to make their own decisions later on in regards to pronouns

#LGBTQIA #gender #childraising #parenting #nonbinary

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@JLMcMillan
Jessica McMillan
@JLMcMillan · 4:49

@NLOFrank

It's kind of interesting, but there are lots of studies that show putting children dressed in one of the colors pink or blue in a room and observing how the parents are playing that even at the level of play, it's completely different. So the boys, they're more rough and tumble with the girls, they're more gentle
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@bowie
Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 4:56

@JLMcMillan Curiosity & safety

And I know that because that used to be the case for myself as well before I realized I was nonbinary. And it's interesting reflecting on this question because my parents do not have the language or the ability to really engage in, like, a complex discussion around gender. So the assumption when I was a kid was okay, we have a daughter, we have a girl. And so we're going to raise her like one
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@NLOFrank
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 3:54

@JLMcMillan

So, yeah, I totally agree. And thank you as well for highlighting the difficulties in this type of parenting. You put a lot of thought into how you wanted to raise your child and completely valid reasons and obviously completely your choice. It's not anything that's going to cause harm to a child
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@NLOFrank
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 4:26

@bowie

But you also don't know who your child is yet because they haven't figured that out for themselves and saying to them, Well, you need to be like this because this is how it is isn't always it could be useful if a child is like, yeah, you're right. This is exactly what I like. But we learn from trial and error, and a child isn't going to be a major risk from giving them that little bit of space to figure themselves out
@damonnomad
Charlie Floyd
@damonnomad · 3:42
What I'm trying to say is that whenever children are being raised, I think it's often unforeseen that there has to be a larger landscape and infrastructure that they can actually grow into, which I bring that point back around to the end of your first well, in America, the dominant culture is a very Christian culture is extremely violent and antigay antiblack. It's a lot of anti everything
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@NLOFrank
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 4:26

@damonnomad

My personal opinions on this is that actually, I didn't have a problem with my parents referring to me as a girl when I was younger. It's a label that helps people to understand health systems and stuff to support my parents when I'm younger and all of those things, what I feel was needed for myself and is needed in parenting is to allow a child to learn who they are instead of forcing them
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