@NLOFrank
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 3:17

Asking a trans man if they have periods - is this okay?

I personally have a lot of friends in the sexual health sector, so discussion often moves towards sex periods and conception at some point, but that's within a group of friends that I'm very comfortable with and we all are comfortable with letting each other know for crossing boundaries. But I wouldn't ask a stranger or colleague these questions. So I genuinely wonder why this happens, why people feel it's appropriate to ask questions in one group of people that they wouldn't ask another

#LGBTQIA #transgender #enby #opendiscussion #crossingboundaries

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@PKBriggs
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 5:00

Part one (sorry ran out of time). @NLOFrank

And I don't know if it's good, bad, degenerate or other, but that is what I've really come to believe. Heterosexual people who have no exposure to anybody, but people just like them. When they look at you and you say, you're not heterosexual, they just see sex, and then they want to try it. And that's how they try to understand everything
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@PKBriggs
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 2:05

Part 2 @NLOFrank

It's not fair, but it's a norm, you know, and this is not the norm. With that comes uncomfortable conversations. So I would say my answer is perhaps and with love. But I would want to find out, what would you gain from knowing this information. If there isn't a very thoughtful response to that, then I probably wouldn't be inclined to answer the question. So it's just all complicated, right?
@Professor42
Professor Z
@Professor42 · 1:59
The person asking the question may not realize how offensive or invasive this question seems and therefore are asking out of both ignorance and curiosity on the topic of curiosity. Surprisingly enough, you cannot find everything on the Internet, such as questions that may be related to the subject
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@NLOFrank
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 5:00

@PKBriggs thank you so much as always for interesting points

And it's like, no, it's not. We're in a really boring relationship, but like any other relationship. And actually whether whatever our sex life is is completely between me and my partner. But I found it very interesting when you talk about the evolution of sex. Actually, sex was procration, and then it was kind of men were sexual, but not women and not women
@NLOFrank
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 4:54

Thank you @Professor42

And that's what I find really interesting because these questions are probably, for example, just real stereotype. If a CIS man asked a CIS woman to talk to them openly, just seeing them in the pub, for example. Hey, tell me all about your periods
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@PKBriggs
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 1:02

Thank you for your bravery 🙏🏾 @NLOFrank

Hey, Tasha. No, I you should definitely not apologize for bringing it up. It's important in them. I'm glad you do. Like I always, you know, not always. But I try to also say thank you for being brave because, you know, it it's like, difficult for the Asker and it's difficult for the answer to that question, whatever it may be
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@NLOFrank
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 2:31

@PKBriggs

And I'm also mindful that I don't want to make people uncomfortable in terms of feeling like they might out themselves or put themselves in a difficult situation, which is why I wanted to also say that, hey, I'm monitoring comments if anything becomes a little bit uncomfortable. Do let me know, because I know that this can ignite things like this can ignite difficult feelings for all sorts of reasons for all sorts of people
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@Charlieri
Charlie Olivieri
@Charlieri · 4:13

@NLOFrank @PKBriggs

Hi, Tasha and PK. So you've both brought up some really interesting things for this conversation. And I also think making people uncomfortable is a part of learning is not comfortable, not knowing is not comfortable. So we need a bit of that, I think, especially when it comes to learning about LGBTQIA experiences, which are often uncomfortable themselves. So, yeah, first of all, I wanted to say thank you to PK for just nailing down the idea that heterosexual people do
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@NLOFrank
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 3:15

@Charlieri

It can get quite overwhelming, especially when people I've had before personally, where I've kind of allowed the door open a bit and go, yeah, I'll answer these questions and then there's more and more and then I'm like, Whoa, okay, hang fire. This is a bit much so I think that it's really important to think about when you're asking people questions. Like, what is it?
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@PKBriggs
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 1:19

@NLOFrank@Charlieri

I would say when I was younger, I felt more gracious. And now I will. But when things are getting a little like, it's getting to the kind of personal where that's actually none of your business. That's not going to help your education about the experience and experiences of individuals like myself and people I think kind of know, right? They know when they're getting a little, too. But of course, humans, we're going to try
@PKBriggs
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 0:11

@Charlieri

Oh, and Charlie, Erie. Sorry if I didn't. If it's not Charlie, I just went to your profile. So my bad. If that's the case
@Charlieri
Charlie Olivieri
@Charlieri · 0:48

@PKBriggs

Hi PK. Charlie or Charlieri is fine. Charlieri is just a convenient mesh Tasha of my first and last name. That's fine. I agree with you. I think people do know when they're pushing it too far are, but there is that little demon of curiosity we all have, and we always want to push it a little further than maybe is socially acceptable. Sometimes when we don't necessarily understand how far of a boundary we are pushing
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