But I just wanted to open up the conversation more broader and not just, hey, when did the LGBTQIA people realize that they were in the LGBTQIA community? I also want to hear from those who identify this straight. And was there ever a moment or have you just always felt like that? Yeah, I'm really interested to hear your thoughts. Please do let me know
Melissa Mccarter
@lissahoop · 2:53
So I guess the bottom line of the answer is that for me is that there is a default in our culture, and that if I grew up where it wasn't a default, would there be a definitive moment if it's assumed that everybody is not cisgender? Not everybody isn't heterosexual? And I'm sure that there's children that are growing up that think that that's not the default?
Jessica McMillan
@JLMcMillan · 3:58
Hi, Tasha, thanks for really, really interesting question, because just even by asking it, not even having it answered is a really good way to, I think, diffuse the presumption sometimes we make and to have people over little bit more self aware that there isn't this default. I'm bisexual, and I guess I'm CIS, but I think probably by the time I was in my teens I realized I was much more Fem, like I identify as Fem
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 0:44
Hi, Madisa, thank you so much for your reply. Yeah, it makes total sense. And I think that you are right, that that is the case that we have a default, and then you only kind of realize you're different if you deviate from the default setting. But yeah, I was thinking about it and thinking that is there a moment where people stop and go, yeah, the default setting is right for me. So thank you so much
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 2:41
Obviously, that has quite a lot of debates as to whether that's a good or a bad thing. There is everything that kind of breaks the norm in quotations. But yeah. So I definitely think that, like your daughter, children are being brought up differently to how the older generations were, and even if their parents are not teaching them, they're learning about this more on the playground
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 1:29
Hi, Maddie. Thank you for sharing your own experiences. I think it's really interesting that what you said around that you feel that you may have taken things comes out sooner about your sexuality. If you have the idea that this is a possibility, I just wonder because I am from the UK. So I was brought up in around 628, which was a ruling up until I think 2005