So I'm going to mistreat this next person and just this chain of abuse that people get into, whether or not they realize it or dating somebody and then confessing, oh, well, this is partially because I'm not really over my ex or I'm on this date to make somebody jealous. It's like, what happened to pure intentions? What happens to just trying to be happy with one person?
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 5:00
And they do bring out your best self, and they do bring out this aspect of your personality that makes you feel higher and more confident, more intelligent, more sexy, more attractive. I really want to know, what are your red flags? What bothers you about the opposite sex or even the same sex, if that's who you date? What should you look for in a person? Or should looking for a person not involve looking at all?
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 4:58
And I'm like, in retrospect, I mean, this is eleven years ago, but was this a good thing to just have these things that you have to have in a person if they're missing one thing? Because I dated a girl for two years where it was mostly physical and you know, she was really pretty in most aspects and there was things that I didn't like about her. But we got along and the conversation was pleasant
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 5:00
How they treat people, how they yell at the waiter or how they act in the car. It's kind of like, are you willing to deal with that? And can you deal with it right now until it becomes something that you can't deal with or it's no longer attractive because what they do for you or how they look to proceed with their actions are. And I think that's a problem. That's a serious problem. I'm going to full disclosure
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:54
And because I have no interest in either one of you, I just go up there and introduce myself and try to get the conversation going. And my friend is sitting there in Amazon like, how can you beat that? Because I'm not looking for what you're looking. I'm not looking for my next mistake. I'm not looking for someone for Mr. Right now. I'm not looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with at this moment
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 5:00
And he got big with me. And again, I don't want to fight a Marine. I'm not a Marine. I don't want that kind of smoke. Trust me. Who does? Especially somebody who's not stable. And I'm sorry to overshare to whoever, but I finally held him accountable because I came home right after this interaction. He came in and f***** up my workout. You don't do that. That's my sanctuary
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:38
These people have deep emotional connections, and it's not far fetched because we have already shown as humans, we have deep emotional connections with more than one person. We have that ability to do that as souls, as spirits. We have deep emotional connections with family members, friends, so on and so forth. Anyway, so how to put that out there and get that disclaimer out there? I will say I do concur with you on the part about lazy conversation because I am on dating apps
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:13
I do believe there are a lot of people who are afraid to do the ones that are dating multiple people and are more lascivious and promiscuous. I do believe a lot of them not all of them, but a lot of them do have some deep shadow work that they need to do and some healing
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:55
And she was very good looking. So I was like, d***. And I've seen it on her profile and I talked with her about it a little bit and I found her situation interesting. The guy who she was with was not this really attractive white guy. He wasn't really all that attractive. But I guess they had a love that made it work. And I was thinking about talking to her because she looks so d*** good
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 5:00
At the same time, I didn't really have this problem years ago where I was on and off with this girl who was getting a divorce and expressed that they had just become completely sexually strangers to each other. And that I can understand. But I really think that it comes down to the idea of sharing partners and you get this visual of this other person in your head. At least I do. Where. You know. I had mentioned in another swell cast where this girl that I dated
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 3:45
Or they see you, and they see maybe this higher value target, maybe you were more attractive than this girl's, man. Obviously it sounds like you were. So it's almost like she's got some sugar daddy at home that doesn't sleep with her, but she's not looking for the side piece. And it's like, I don't know
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:51
Sometimes it may not be a person who wants to have commitment and they just want something casual and we're hitting it off and hey, things happen, right? But usually they're good about disclosing. If they are ENM in an ethically non monogamous capacity, they'll make that pretty clear on their profile. There was oh, and sorry, I was talking with a girl. We never went out on a date, though, the one who had the boyfriend or whatever