Not only that, the question, although it's for both men and women, I'm pretty sure I would get more responses from the women. I'm curious to know more so from them, because the so called standard is to find a man that's tall, dark and handsome. There's no standard when it comes to the men finding the women
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 3:21
And it's kind of worse because at least you all a woman can lose weight if she wants to, you know what I'm saying? How you are right now doesn't have to be how you stay. But a man, what can he do about his height? Nothing. So guys are not really they do feel some type of way when you ask them that type of question. And at first I was like, I never seen it like that up until, like, a few years ago
Farika B Redux
@FarikaB_Redux · 4:53
But at the same time, I'm just saying that I think it's just coming down to preference. So it matters in the sense of I've seen men who are tall, who prefer a woman who's tall because they like long legs, et cetera, right? And I've seen men who prefer a woman because they're shorter, because they could dominate her, or they find her cute and feisty. So I think that it does matter for both men and women
Ann-Gela Kaye
@DearAuntyAng · 5:00
But you do bring up interesting points about the whole idea of preference and things like that. So even back in the day when I was in school, because you mentioned the whole light skinned hazel eyes, that was definitely the thing. In the 90s when I was in school, if you were light skinned and had quote unquote, good hair, you was automatically pretty and it didn't matter so much your body or anything else. Light skin kind of trumped dark skin
Ann-Gela Kaye
@DearAuntyAng · 1:00
I think I even did a swell about when people meet me and I'm five four, I often hear, oh, wow, look, you were taller. And these are people that haven't just heard my voice, but they'll see me, like, do a Facebook Live or whatever. And so I get it, because I hear the same in you. Like, five two. Because my mother's five two, and we joke about her
Farika B Redux
@FarikaB_Redux · 4:26
And somebody might say, well, that's men and women, men versus women. But I think really that personality carries you much further than what people physically see. And of course, that's not really an arguable statement that I'm making in regards to this topic, but yeah, I think that it changed for me with that guy and I just didn't see him the same and he didn't show up the same, and it just became too much for me
Ann-Gela Kaye
@DearAuntyAng · 2:07
Should have been red flag number one. But anyway, this cat was 63. And when I say had a thumb for a p****, he had a thumb for a p****, and there was no motion in the ocean because he just couldn't even get it together in no way. So going by those two experiences, which I've now told the whole swell world about some of my sexual proclivities, one really short guy was straight
Farika B Redux
@FarikaB_Redux · 2:37
It's not nothing new, but they have plastic surgeons who perform leg extension surgeries where they find either a bone from another part of the body, I think, or something where they allow for the legs to be lengthened, and then they have to go through a series of physical therapy to learn how to walk and be tall
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:40
But when I talked to the guy that was six four, it was a different kind of feeling. Even when we would walk or we would go on a day, it felt more comforting. And it was just maybe because I felt like he was towering over me, like, I said, like a constant hug. But when I dated the shorter guy, he was very emotional, so I actually got those hugs from him
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 4:02
And that's all we used to do back in the day, going to school, in school, lunch break, coming from school, we used to snap a lot. So even when I go back around my old neighborhood and we start snapping. So anyway, I've never really had an issue with my height. And when it comes to females, just as many females that wouldn't date me because of my height, just as many women would date me regardless of my height
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 3:55
My height never been an issue for me because as I mentioned to Lucy, just as many females that wouldn't date me because of my height, that many more women would have an interest in me regardless of my height. So it really wasn't about me. Even though I am short, I'm five six. My driver's license says five seven, but I say five six because I'm thinking without heel, without anything on my feet
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 4:44
But it's important when I talk about this because these guys do the same and they still doing it the same thing that R. Kelly is accused of, who's locked up for, but because of R. Kelly's status. These are the same guys that want to kill R. Kelly. These are the same women who who have an issue with R. Kelly. But you all are doing the same exact thing. So that same heavy hand that apply on one need to be applied across the board
Farika B Redux
@FarikaB_Redux · 4:25
A lot of and I just want to mention this is that I've learned, as you mentioned, some famous people that you've encountered either personally or an observation, like we all do from TV or something, or concert or something, right. That a lot of celebrity men actually are very diminutive in comparison to what is considered average height. Right. The average height of a man in America is said to be five foot nine. Most of the men in Hollywood are at the tallest five foot nine
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 4:04
I put the swell out there because this was one of the many topics that we've had a discussion about at my job. And I just thought it would be an interesting topic at swell, because I do know that it's one of the requirements that a lot of women have when they're looking to date a man. This is not something new. So whenever bringing up a topic that I think is very relatable, I think it would create a really healthy dialogue
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 2:02
And what was even more funny was the short guy that you spoke about, because I pictured it in my head you being 510 and this guy being shorter than you. It just looks really funny with him having attitude. Anyway, once again, I thank you so much for chiming in, and I look forward to having more healthy dialogue. This topic here I thought would be very relatable because I thought it would be a topic that would be interesting to talk about because it's so relatable
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 0:17
Hey, good evening. That was really nice of you to give a follow, and I do hope that not only do you remind, but I hope that I hear a lot more from you as well, because this is a great networking tool. So I look forward to hearing more of your post
I mean, Floyd Mayweather is five eight, and it's fair to say that brother can handle himself. I've always thought that people who have sons should let their sons learn how to box. This is what keeps a lot of kids from getting bullied. But it just gives a boy a sense of confidence when he knows how to fight things like martial arts and boxing or whatever. It doesn't make you a mean person or resort to violence
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 4:14
And as I also stated, if a woman doesn't date me because of my height, it doesn't make them a mean person. I don't look at it like that. Even if they were a mean person, I don't have time to exercise that, to exert that energy, to look at them as a main person. And I don't think that I'm a bad person
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 2:14
And so that's why I was like, I'm not even going to say that because unless you rich and got it like that, this does not apply to you. And unfortunately, most of us are not rich. And it's a painful recovery, you know what I mean? It's a painful procedure. It's horrible recovery in terms of pain, you know what I mean?
But also, a few of them said that I would like somebody who's taller than me because maybe it's convenient if you can't read something. That's the typical answer. If you can't read something, then they'll help you reach it. And a few of them even said that I'd like somebody shorter, maybe because I'd be able to say that, hey, look who's taller, it's me. Because who doesn't like to show off about their height?
Iya Ye Ye
@lifeofapsychic · 2:25
You does height matter? Well, I am five one and a half. And just to switch it up a bit, you know, being shorter as a woman has, you know, it it can affect my own little dating situation. So I'm picking up what you're laying down on. But I listened to a couple of the responses, and here's the thing. If somebody is so tall that I can see what's up their nose, that is not a preference
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 5:00
So you didn't really know if we were together or not because typically if I'm on a date with somebody, I stand next to them and hold their hand. But this time I was kind of standing in the back of him. And so the next day I was at my hotel and I was just working or whatever and I was talking to a work friend of mine and I was just telling her like, girl, he's shorter than me. I don't know what to do
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 2:00
And if it had never taken place, then you probably wouldn't have been in contact with each other no more, and you may not have gotten to know one another. So at the very least, as of right now, if things don't work out, at at the very least, it seemed like you can maybe be good friends or something like that, but at least you all gave it a shot
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 2:53
When we walking around places, are people going to say something? And so are people going to be looking at us because I'm taller? Right. And so is he going to look like my kid? It just looks crazy stuff that I was thinking. But it was all based around society
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 3:10
Like, women are naturally drawn to that. And yes, it is because of the aesthetic, I think we equate height to almost like protector. If he's taller than me, I feel more secure. So actually, I think it is an aesthetic thing, but I also feel like it's a mental thing, too, in the sense of, like I said, you feel more secure. You feel like, okay, he got me a protector. He's a man's man