As a single woman, I will say that I desire hugs and I'm fortunate to be part of a community of people who love to show affection. I grew up in a family with parents that showed affection. They hugged us and kissed us on a regular basis. And I'm part of a community of people now that hug and show affection and throw their arms around you and hold your hand and all that stuff. We're very touchy feely people and we express our love that way
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:22
Ah. Wow. Tanya, I just love your vision, your conviction, your understanding of what it might be like to get so good at being alone that you no longer understand what you're missing and what that island is creating for your soul, which is deep deprivation. I always want to celebrate people who figure it out, who say, I don't have this, I don't have this, I don't have a partner, I don't have love
It. Well, my name is Mike. This is the first time I've tried anything like this, but that video, it was upsetting. This question stunned me just as bad, and I've never been more comfortable by myself, and it is to a fault, I think that it's a slippery slope for me was the type of person that had to be in a relationship or had to be with a woman and feel like a man
She said she would rather me be home and not make so much money and have more time. But if you want to do that, then you can pick up a part time job and take some right off the top. But I wish we could all be together and try to get along. I mean, try to build each other up. I'm looking at a bunch of kids on Instagram telling me what they think my woman needs. I don't have the woman, but a woman needs
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:47
Why don't you stop depending on other people? That's what our society has turned into. And as a result, when women say they don't need a man, don't get mad. When the men actually listen to that and walk away. And then you have women that become touch starved as a result. No man to rub your back, no man to hold you, no man to protect you
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:00
These are the things that oftentimes men don't tell us because they don't want to hurt us, but these are the things that we need to hear. And these things will sober you up really quickly. So thank you so much for your reply. You're very thoughtful reply. Thank you so much
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:37
Hi, this is J l. Oh my gosh, this is a great topic and I wish you would have in the description maybe shared the TikTok URL. I would love to see that video and also to share it in a Facebook group that I am a co admin of for the state I live in. So there is about three women. We are co admin of a Facebook group that we started two years ago. It's an affinity based Facebook group
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 5:00
As a person that wants to be alone and don't want to be bought is misunderstood. It's misunderstood sometimes by the women who has become independent, and sometimes even more so by men who misunderstand a woman's independence. I'm not sure if I'm explaining it clear enough where it can be understood, but that's what I believe that may be part of it. And we are living in a time now where we have become so selfish
Ann-Gela Kaye
@DearAuntyAng · 4:50
18 out on your own, get your own house, get your own car, get everything in your name. And so that independency has led to what you're talking about. My pastor preached the message not too long ago about loneliness, and he let us know it was not related to pandemic. Pandemic only exposed and probably made it worse for so many people. But loneliness is a big deal amongst adults. I want to say 87% of adults in America reported being feeling lonely
Ann-Gela Kaye
@DearAuntyAng · 3:29
And depending on where they work, you work in a daycare with a bunch of other women and kids, well, you're not going to meet nobody, honey. So it's just a good conversation and it's funny. But what's sad is that as much as we can have a conversation here and we're talking very intelligently, there's masses of people that just don't get it, that will say, oh, I didn't want to date him because he's short
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:51
And so women, by us being emotional, we tend to garner more sympathy in the area of being sensory deprived, touch starved, we tend to garner moe sympathy in that area. But men, you guys are expected to be strong, stronger than that. But we all need it. We all need human interaction. We all need love. We all need affection. We all need to feel another person's touch. We need to we need to feel that person's touch
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:46
They want to feel loved. They want to feel cared for. And as I was telling the other respondent, men typically don't garner the same amount of sympathy that women do when it comes to stuff like this. We're emotional. People expect us to want these types of things. But men are thought to be self reliant, and people that can stand on their own and no, you shouldn't be worried about getting a hug. You shouldn't be expecting a hug. You're a man
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:46
We've got people in their 40s still living at home later in life and at the age where typically people are married and have children, but they're still living at home, or they're in their forty s and fifty s, and they just decided, you know what, I don't want to have any kids. And so, yeah, the family is shrinking. Our grandparents had big families
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:29
That's the kind of thing I'm talking about. People want friends, yet they don't go places, they don't want to go anywhere, or they only go to the same places, or they're expecting all their friends to be at church, all their friends to be at work. And in some cases, yeah, you can build up a circle of people in those spaces