And so I know that a lot of single women out there have been told they're good women. They've been told that they're going to make someone a wonderful wife. But that's the thing. I'll make someone a wonderful wife, but I want to transition from the place of being just a good woman to being the right woman. I want to be the right woman for a man. I don't want a man to say I'll make someone a good wife
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 4:40
It's all about vibe and just paying attention, and you just get a certain feeling you like a whole lot of women. There's nothing wrong as far as being a good woman. Good women come a dama doesn't. But as far as being a right woman, the right woman come a dime a doesn't. It has nothing to do with you. It's more about the right man
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:49
Obviously no one is going to propose on a first date. That's really creepy. But they look at a woman and say she's a freak, a friend or forever. Some men are saying, yes, it's true, along those lines. And so it's not necessarily a bad thing on the woman because think about it, if he's looking for a freak but he sees you as a forever, then he doesn't want to mess up forever
Some of these women are going through h*** in these relationships, being abused physically, verbally, emotionally, and hentley going through all kind of changes and traumatizing, their children staying in this dysfunctional relationship, trying to keep up with the Joneses or trying to have some social media like and it is phony baloney. And I pray for those sisters. I pray for the brothers, too. And I'm not talking about just black, white
And for this many women who are good women, who are the right women for us to not have husbands, like the brother said, the brother said it's about having the right man. But what I hear God saying is the men are not right. They just ain't right. They're not right in their spirit, in their mind, and in their soul. And if we look at what's going on out here today, you do not want what's out here
Sean Cleveland
@No_Manuals · 4:23
Where a lot of my female friends, sisters, daughter, people like that, they're looking for love in men who don't even understand what love is. They haven't defined the loves they want for themselves. So how can they recognize a good woman and give her love and the life she deserves and make her a wife in a relationship that will last for a long time, not something that's short lived?
DAYDAY Mcclenton
@KINGPOPOFLA · 1:50
You. Hey, Tanya. How you doing? Well, I'm just dropping by because I was invited to this conversation. So I want to say excuse my background if it's a little loud, but I want to say, like, you don't want to just be that perfect woman. You want to be that right woman. That's a deep question, but I just want to sad. What if you have the perfect woman for you? You know what I'm saying?
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:11
And, yes, in chemistry plays a big role in that. How well you connect with someone. And does that person see you as someone that they want to spend the rest of their life with, potentially spend the rest of their life with? Or do they just see you as a friend? And then sometimes I think, okay, well, how am I presenting myself? Am I presenting myself as someone that they want to put in a friend zone? Do I need to present myself differently?
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:45
I've been that woman that guys have said, oh, you were just too good to be true, and you just checked all the boxes and it was kind of like, you were such a great woman, and I didn't have myself together, I didn't have my stuff together. I actually had a conversation with a male friend of mine because he always says that it's us women that always meet the right one and then let them go. I said, but men do the same thing
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:47
I mean, some people are going through abuse and things like that, but you never know what challenges that a couple is dealing with that you won't ever see on Facebook. Because many couples aren't very transparent about their struggles on Facebook. So they could be going through a lot of things that we'll never see and never hear about. But we see what they put on social media and we think, oh my gosh, that's relationship goals that's goals. That's goals
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:44
I think sometimes as single women, we spend so much time trying to perfect everything in our life, because we feel like if we're not getting that forever relationship, then it must be because of something we're lacking or something we need to refine or something we need to work on
Erica d
@brklyn_E22 · 3:02
So they're like, oh, shoot, this is a good woman. They're probably thinking to themselves, d***, I don't know if I'm the right man for her. Again, sometimes it's the boundaries that we set, and sometimes people just can't handle that or they just again, can't deal with it. And you know what? I sad to that. They weren't meant for you
Hey, Erica, I just wanted to say that, you know, I think at some point in dealing with relationships with the opposite sex, we have thought about, well, what my standards are. Are they what up? What's going on? Like, you question it, but if you were to lower your standards and your boundaries, yeah, you could possibly get a man
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:05
And so then you're like, well, dang, if they think I'm such a good woman, then what's stopping me from being a good woman for them? And so you start to question those things. So yeah, it can be very complicated