And so I saw where there was family and friends and there was a reception, and there were photos being taken, all of this in the same area. And I was like, wow. I was a little confused as to what was going on until I saw the caption at the end that said, I married myself. So I was like, wow. I was mind blown. So I said, Let me do a little research on this
Yeah, from a personal or even a more abstract notion. I can't even pretend to wrap my head around the various reasons why someone would do this and the importance to them. But I do know that there is so much power in ritual, in symbols, in acts that can really have a huge impact
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:24
I think as single people, you don't get that affirmation the same way you would in a healthy marriage. In a healthy marriage, you have a spouse that's telling you they love you, that is affirming your value and your worth by their provision, their protection, by choosing you to spend the rest of their life with, to have their children with. And that's affirming. That behavior is affirming, their words are affirming. And so you have that in a healthy marriage
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Barbara
@PastorBarbara · 3:28
Marriage is something that one is thoughtful about, that one is prepared for that one becomes actually one becomes a wife before they're married. One becomes a husband before they're married. And a lot of people have it backwards. They wait until they get married with the hopes of becoming a wife or with the hopes of becoming a husband. So they have it backwards. They put the cart before the horse
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:06
And any man that is truly, truly dating them beyond the space of a placeholder or just something to do, they need therapy too, because what is their why? I mean, how does that go down? Hi, my name is Jane Doe and I just got married. You did? To who? To myself. And he still wants a second date. What's his aim? What's his angle? Is he trying to take advantage of her?
Ann-Gela Kaye
@DearAuntyAng · 1:38
I feel like these women are doing the same thing, because you can have the pomp and circumstance. You can marry yourself, you can wear the ring, and then you can wake up the next morning and still not like the person in bed with you. Nothing changes because you spent money and had a ceremony. And so it's sad because, again, like I said, they're looking for outside validation to prove that they love themselves. And if they did, you wouldn't need all that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:22
Hello, Barbara. Thank you so much for chiming in. You know, it's so funny because you're right, there is nothing biblical or legal about these solo weddings, marriages. But the crazy part is, in the video that I was describing in my original post, there was a minister officiating this. I mean, of course he can't sign. There's no marriage license to sign
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:13
Quite a bit of money on her outfit, her hair, her makeup. Quite a bit of money for a minister, quite a bit of money for the little outdoor venue, quite a bit of money for the decorations, for the food, for the photography. She spent a lot of money and even had, like, this marriage certificate, this some type of certificate affirmation thing that she had framed. So she spent quite a bit of money to pull this off
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:56
After all of the quote unquote nuptial honeymoon and all that stuff, you're still waking up in that bed by yourself. You're still going through life pretty much by yourself. So marriage is about joining your life to someone else's in a life altering, life changing event that's going to just alter your destiny from here on out. That's what a marriage does. Not this solo wedding stuff. That's just an ego thing that has nothing to do with anything spiritual