@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:53

Twitter Chronicles: Why do Women Support Degrading Behavior from other Women?

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None of them ever objected to it because they were on this whole kick of, well, I want what makes you happy, and if this makes you happy, then I want what makes you happy. Even though it was so wrong for me to be in this relationship. I mean, it was a red flag from the beginning, the fact that he's married. Yet nobody discouraged it. Nobody

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@DearAuntyAng
Ann-Gela Kaye
@DearAuntyAng · 3:45

The theme is that women are never wrong…🤦🏾‍♀️

They will always turn it around that the woman is right, the men is wrong. And I'm like, this is crazy. And so it's just that prevailing. Women are right, men are wrong. Down with the patriarchy. It's like, that is the theme, the agenda, if you will, and everybody not everybody, but we see so many people falling in line with that, then it's okay to degrade yourself
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@CattCoaches
Catherine Illene Miles
@CattCoaches · 4:55
Ms. Coles, it really depends on the situation, because, yes, this man was still legally married, but if they lived in two different states and they really were officially separate, I would have to probably dive into, well, why haven't they got a divorce yet? What's holding them back? What's the barriers and then go from there? But this was a very good question. I think overall, we just need to be our sister's keeper
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Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15

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@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:33

@DearAuntyAng

The world we live in, the patriarchy is not a bad thing. We have to realize as people, we're flawed people. Nothing's going to be perfect. Nothing that man puts its hands on is going to be perfect. Nothing. We are flawed people. And because we are a flawed people, nothing we touch is going to be 100% perfect or foolproof or any of that stuff. It's not, but thank you, SIS. I agree with all of your points. 100%
@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:23

@CattCoaches

Hey, SIS, thank you so much for chiming in. To answer your question about the relationship that I had with the married guy, he was newly separated. I think him and his wife had been separated for a couple of months and so they were still trying to figure out if they were done done or if they were going to give this another shot. Now, to hear him tell it, whatever was going on, because he never went into explicit detail about what actually caused them to separate
@Swatiselflove
Swati Sharma
@Swatiselflove · 2:27
And it should add some kind of value to the people around you. It's not just you who is living the society, because you are a part of society. And you have to abide by certain norms, certain rules and regulation that you have to strictly adhere to. Otherwise you will be conceived as an abnormal person. So just stop pushing yourself towards these degrading acts. Open up your eyes and you need to have that clarity of thought, clarity of vision in which direction you are taking yourself
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@NeophyteSavant
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 4:48

@MsColes77

And I get what you're saying, I get it. I remember my niece, my mother's boyfriend years ago and asked my niece what does she wanted to be, what does she want to be when she grow up? And she said, I want to be pregnant and all welfare. And this was the mindset of all the females her age. And nobody bet not have said anything. Don't come with this stuff about you can be more than that. No
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@Paulette77
Brandy Turner
@Paulette77 · 4:56
Because at the end of the day, that person, anybody else, is going to make their own decision at the end of the day. Now, let's fast forward. I'm 45 years old, okay? I'm not going to put myself in a position out loud to hold a woman accountable if she chooses to want to degrade herself in whatever she's doing, because what we might consider being degrading, she's not considered being degrading
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@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:41

@Paulette77

So it wasn't that I wasn't being rebellious or hard headed in the sense that I was being rebellious and hard headed and that I continued to have this relationship, but not in the sense that if you told me it was wrong, I didn't want to hear nothing you had to say. I think there was a part of me on the inside that was hoping that somebody would tell me, tanya, what are you doing? You know, you shouldn't be with this guy
@Paulette77
Brandy Turner
@Paulette77 · 5:00

@MsColes77

So it's like all the mistakes that I made, I'm bare for it, because when I had my daughters, because I was a teenage mom, and all the things that I was dealt there, doing, degrading myself and all of that, yeah, that came at a cost. I got pregnant at 15, I have my daughter at 16
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@Paulette77
Brandy Turner
@Paulette77 · 4:43

@MsColes77

It was crazy. I originated from the Bay Area, and it's crazy, and so I had to take my kids up out of that and move to a different state and raise them totally, completely different than how I was raised and take them out of all of that kind of stuff. And so now, yeah, my daughters, like I said, don't operate in that spirit of this is how I'm doing it. This is how I'm getting down
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