And then this sense of entitlement comes over us where we feel like, you know what? I deserve it. I have a right to have this type of man. I have a right to have this type of woman. Even though technically they're probably too good for us, they're probably out of our league, but yet we feel like this is what we deserve
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:48
And likewise, who am I willing to help with his cane? Who am I willing to sit with doctors to consult if he has a heart attack? Those kind of things. Tall, dark, and handsome, what does that mean? If I'm alone in the worst or best times of my life, what does that mean? I don't plan to have children with a man. So definitely standards have changed
SOUL MIND
@BEAUTIFULSOULMI · 4:12
But are there good barriers and are there bad barriers? I want to also throw the word boundaries in there with standards. So boundaries are certainly designed to keep my self love preserved in an attempt to prevent manipulation, being violated, being used by another. So not just talking about relationships, romantic relationships, but all of my relationships, I tend to not change myself based on whether it's a friendship or a romantic relationship. Certainly the artifacts of those relationships are different. They certainly differ
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 5:00
And I'm not saying he can't score, but he's 40 years old, he has no children, never been married. He wants to get married, but the right woman for him is someone that has no children. He don't want her to have had no more than three partners in her life. She can't be vaccinated
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 5:00
But there are certain areas that I would respectfully disagree. Most of it I would say that he's on point, but some of it I would respectfully disagree. So he'll speak about a six digit man and a woman that feels that she deserves such a guy, and then he would break it down and explain why that's not going to happen. And he makes sense, but sometimes people make choices that don't seem to make sense
I'm not because it was a negative thing early on, because I couldn't leave a relationship unless I knew I did everything I possibly could because I didn't dig myself. It's like, when am I going to get this opportunity again? Let me make sure you know what I mean. And sometimes it turns into years with somebody that didn't even deserve to ask you what time of day it was but standards are for you, for your life
I always make sure that mentally, physically, emotionally, financially I think it's five mentally, physically, spiritually, spiritually, because I'm really looking forward to being in a relationship where we can sit down and have conversations like this straight up. Me and me and this woman can be we can do the swell thing and not take it personal and be able to listen to her again the same way I listen to somebody else that I agreed with yesterday
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:22
I'm sorry. Yeah, I don't think I can date a man like that that wears tight pants. I don't even I'm talking about even nowadays, the trend now is for these men, they're wearing these tight pants with their suits. I ain't down for that. That's a standard for me. That's the standard, and I ain't letting that standard go. And if that's a wall, a barrier, whatever, it just is what it is