Father’s Day: The Kirk Franklin Story
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And, I mean, that just really hit me in the gut, because we downplay as a society, we downplay the role of fathers so much, and we act like the mother is the one that's really going to nurture a child into their purpose and identity. But fathers are so incredibly important, and I believe if Kirk had a father growing up, he would have been a better father to his son. And he even acknowledges that
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:54
And it wasn't just pain of him and his son having a broken relationship, but it was parental pain for him. And so I could feel the pain. And so watching this documentary now, it makes a lot of sense, you know what I mean? Because in the documentary, he said he hadn't talked to his mother for like, 20 some years. I think he said 20 some years. I know it was over 15 years since he had talked to his mother
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 3:44
I've seen my father a few times throughout my life, but, you know, I didn't have children and then not be in their lives. So I understand what he's saying and it makes sense, but sometimes we can say, you know what? I'm not going to be an example of what I went through. So, anyway, thanks for inviting me to this, Tanya. Have a great day
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 2:25
But what brought me to tears more than anything was his mom's. The fact that she didn't even believe that this man could be Kirk's dad. Because DNA doesn't lie. You can't change your DNA. And I felt so bad for Kirk because his mother still basically didn't acknowledge him and the fact that it was important to him to know. So, anyway, thank you so much for this
Ann-Gela Kaye
@DearAuntyAng · 4:50
How are you going to call this boy? Want him to call you auntie when you had no hand in raising him? When this man was being raised by an elderly woman, all alone, had no siblings, no cousins, he was talking to the stars, and you want him to bow down and call you auntie? Where were you when he needed you? Why didn't you raise him? Auntie? Woo. Girl
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:57
You're trying to wing it and do the best you can, but you don't really know what to do because you've not had an example of stability. You've not had a father example. And, I mean, like Mo was saying, that's not necessarily an excuse to mistreat or not be able to raise your children well because you did not have an example in your life. But it certainly helps
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:06
And he did not have an example of a father growing up. And so, like you said, it's not an excuse to not be there for your children and to not be the best example you can be for your children just because of what you did not have growing up. If anything, it should motivate you even more to be a better father, because you know the pain of not having a father
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:24
And she would come by and see him every now and again, but she would never take him home with her. So he did not have any relationship with her. I don't know what's going through her mind, but it's kind of like he's having to parent her today
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:53
It. Hey, SIS. You were spot on with your analysis. You were spot on. His mother, I believe the term is arrested development. When you experience childhood trauma, you become mentally and emotionally stuck at the age of the trauma. So I don't know what all happened in her life growing up, but she did seem childlike
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Bernard Harmon
@iambernard · 4:57
Hey, Tanya, let me let me chime in on this, this topic. And I did watch the video, the documentary, and I just have whole bunch of questions. Being a filmmaker myself, doing documentaries, it was a well put together documentary. It my question is, what are we, the viewers are to take from this? This documentary was filmed and edited over a year ago. And just so happened it comes out recently
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:31
And my hats off to you for raising four daughters by yourself. Wow. My dad is a girl dad. And my hats off to the men who have all daughters. And raising daughters, that's a big accomplishment and that's big assignment. And, of course, my condolences go out to you on the loss of your wife as well. But thank you for rising up and taking care of your daughters. You made some excellent points, so I can't debate any of it
Bernard Harmon
@iambernard · 2:34
And like I said, again, it didn't mean that that's something you have to do. It's something you made a will to do, because actually, the truth of the matter takes two parents, because it takes two to have one. So thank you for listening to my little spiel, but it that's it. Thank you again. Have a great one
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