And so I'm starting to wonder what is going on in 2023 where men are just going solo dolo and not even trying to ask women out on a date. I remember as a Gen Xer, as a child of the, that guys would ask you out. They were a little persistent sometimes they didn't take no for an answer. But we thought it was funny. We thought it was cute. It was nothing that we really paid a lot of attention to
Nidhin George 🔷
@geo_rhymes · 3:30
This is a reality that a lot of men are living with, are dealing with. And I don't want to brush it off as just a man problem or a male problem. I think it is a collective problem. And one of the primary reasons, I believe, is that maybe both men and women approach dating with a lot of past baggage, a lot of unresolved trauma or issues which then reflect on the other person or the person that they're trying to meet or get to know
Glenn Mann
@GlennPriceMann · 3:56
And if it doesn't, they don't know how to react to it. And like I said, I think a lot of men are I think men are more sensitive than is often betrayed. And I think a lot of men are probably just trying to protect themselves, protect their egos from being hurt, from maybe being labeled something inappropriate. And I think a lot of women who are more independent ever before are finding that some men just don't know how to deal with that in a healthy way
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:55
I will say that I am a person who is very talkative and very I really like to get to know people's minds. And so I do talk a lot. When it comes, I want to know how you are, why you're like that, what goes you have, what passions, what you don't like, what you're willing to deal with, what you're not like. A lot of things as far as relationships that past, it does affect the future
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:52
That behavior that was once deemed as innocent and it was largely innocent is now being vilified as potentially dangerous behavior. And it's like, okay, it's not dangerous at all. But now we've become hyper aware of everything, and that hyper awareness has taken the fun and the joy out of dating and meeting new people. And so I don't know where we as a society go forward, because men and women need to connect
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:41
Hey, Glenn. I often ask to myself the same question do men and women like each other anymore? Because like you said, there's bitterness on both sides, there's resentment on both sides. There's anger and lack of trust on both sides. Men don't trust the women. The women don't trust the men. Men are blaming women, women are blaming men. So as I was responding to Georhymes, I said this chiam has developed men and women
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:03
And I'm not saying that, of course, in the early dating stages, you should be aware or discerning when something truly requires your attention and something that really, truly is a red flag. But as I was telling one of the previous respondents, I said, we have become so hyper aware these days. We think everything is a red flag. Everything
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 5:00
I think that as women, we've lowered the standard, and we need to raise those standards back up. We need for men to treat us as gentlemen, and we need for men to take us out on dates. And then here's the thing. After
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:18
That is not a date at all. Like you said, it's a precursor to sex. 99% of the time, it's a precursor to sex. So if you want to take me on a date, take me on a proper date. Pick me up or meet me somewhere and let's have dinner. Let's have ice cream. Let's have coffee. Let's talk
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 2:21
There you go. 50%. That is a very high percentage. I would have never guessed that work off that because, wow, that is extremely high and very surprising, I would say. For me, I haven't really seen much of a difference when it comes to menopause or how they approach me. And I haven't seen much of a difference regarding other people that I know either. But I do know that people do feel that way. I've heard people say things like that nowadays
Adriane
@Royalcapability · 3:01
And a man or men will approach you. They will look at you, they would flirt, they would comment, they would make a joke, have you laughing, all that. Like she said, they would press and it's like, okay, if he's not going with us, if he's not going to end up with us at the Waffle House, somewhere out to the club, he's going to end up with somebody, just like Ms. Coles said
How much of a bad business, bad loss that I'm taking, that I'm taking into consideration to be with someone, you know what I mean? And it's tough. It's like, is it time for women to start approaching men? Because if you have a single mother, she takes on masculine tendencies. You have a single father, he doesn't take on feminine tendencies
I don't know, maybe it's different for women than it is for men, but would you want like a not ultra, but like very, very feminine man, you know what I mean? Like, if it is drama that he hiding behind you or didn't ran and got in the car and you in the club or in the restaurant and trying to figure a way out, you know what I mean? Or sit down and talk to you like a girlfriend
javon johnson
@motoblanco · 5:00
I just think, really, the social I think our society is changing. I think the social climate is changing. You know what I mean? Nowadays you can't go to a supermarket or even a bookstore and make eye contact with someone and say hello without taking a chance that you might be viewed as kind of creepy or kind of overly friendly. As sad as it may seem, I think that's what things have become
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:11
And so, yeah, I can understand why men would not want to approach women, especially. Like I said, they've been conditioned to believe that friendliness is not normal or safe. It's not safe to be friendly. And everybody wants to go viral. So even if you do approach somebody, everybody wants to go viral. So then everybody's got their cameras on. They're trying to film the interaction. They're trying to film themselves turning you down
javon johnson
@motoblanco · 1:35
Hello, everybody. This is Javon. Once again. Actually, thank you, Ms. Coles, for responding to my post. That was a very well thought out message. But I actually swell didn't allow me to finish my first post. And I just wanted to say that we all just have to use our common sense and see through all the cynicism and nonsense that goes on out there. Because I think at the end of the day, there's nothing wrong with a hello and a smile