Men don't trust the women, women don't trust the men. And a lot of times women, when they have an opposing opinion about something or an unconventional opinion about something, the first thing that people want to yell is that she's bitter. She's bitter. And it seems like bitterness is thought of as something female because we don't hear people talk about men being bitter
Sean Cleveland
@No_Manuals · 4:51
And then it's funny, we raise women to be more sensitive in a society and then we treat that sensitivity as a weakness. It's crazy. And then young men are raised to believe in material things, to chase power, to chase wealth and stability and things like that. So is it any wonder that when one group is taught one thing and another thing, group is taught another thing emotionally that is so difficult for the two groups to come together?
What I have noticed, and I'm not saying this is indicative of everybody, but my experience has been some of the men that I've dated in my thirty s and forty s have just had an they just don't know how to treat women. And they just, you know, and women, too, don't know how to treat men. And maybe it's the type of women that in men that each person has been exposed to. But people carry stuff over
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:25
I you think this become a knowledge, and I think for for most of the part it is right. Bitterness is a condition of the mind regardless of gender. And there are a plethora of types of genders out there one can associate themselves with instead will come to bitterness. So if we all know that it's a human emotion, an active stimuli to reaction of things that have happened to you or that were said to you, how on earth did this become something that only women exhibit? Patriarchy
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:26
And so, yeah, it definitely has affected our generation. Well, our generation on up the perception of marriage and relationship, because people believe that if you don't come into the relationship perfect, then it's not going to matter. And we tend to hold people to standards that we don't even hold for our own selves
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 0:55
Hey, Sean, you just made some excellent points. Excellent points. That gave me a lot to think about. One point you made that is so very true is that as women, we are taught to be more sensitive, more nurturing, and more expressive with our emotions. If we cry, people want to know what's wrong. And when boys cry, they're often told to stop crying. Because you're a boy, you're not supposed to be crying
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:02
But you guys are always thought to be like rational people, logical people like you all don't deal in feelings the way we do. Even though it's a feeling being expressed in that moment when it comes to men, it's not thought of as a feeling. Yeah, I will say that's very patriarchal right there. You're right with the red pillars
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 5:00
And then she asks, where is the mountain climb for the young African American boys here in America? Honestly speaking, I don't think there is one. We learn from what we watch on television, what we watch in social media, what we watch on how people carry on in the streets. We're never taught how to be in touch with our emotions. Everything is like very gender specific. There's an issue with crying
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:28
And so I think that there are a lot of men out here who truly desire intimacy with women in a healthy way, but because they've not experienced it in a healthy way, they don't know how to really look for healthy intimacy with a woman. And we need more men to teach other men how to have healthy, intimate relationships with women outside of sex, but to be able to develop and build relationships with women just to be able to understand as best we can each other
And you have your own blueprint for manhood, and you're not at a broken state and searching for some type of guidance or direction, so hungry for it without having the capacity to you know, like my grandmother always said, listen, what somebody's saying to you, but don't throw the baby out the bathwater. And sometimes you have to because the baby is a little demon. So that's what a lot of the man is fair stuff is about
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:49
Well, they've long since been separated, but yeah, I guess I would just say I was raised around competent women who respected and valued human life. So in turn, that's something that I too value and respect. So I do feel the manosphere makes some decent points in terms of personal growth and development and health and fitness and finance and all that sort of stuff. Those are honorable things to live by
JJ Young
@MorningGlory · 1:15
And basically, in building relationships, emotions can't be in control, whether you feel comfortable communicating or not. We need to build effective, efficient communication channels. Basically, we need to talk and listen. And when we are not heard or feel that we're not heard, we need to have positive ways of responding so that our health and wellness are taken into consideration and so is the other person's. Thank you