I love it when I do blanket statements that are very subjective because let's face it, everything pretty much is subjective that anyone could say with a statement of a title as well as five minutes only in an audio voice broadcast, right? So here's our new one. I put this post on a lot of my social media platforms and got a lot of responses from them. And I'm interested in the Swell community's thoughts on this so discussion. What are your first thoughts with this statement below?
Andrea Potvin
@GoodEnough · 0:58
So I've had this happen to me plenty of times, and it's almost like you just get beat up mentally. And when it's all over and said and done, they feel they won and you feel mentally exhausted
Bo Freeman
@MHNmaven · 3:04
But they're believing that you believing it, and you're believing it, and you're taking it to heart, and therefore they're winning. Like you said. Such a great description. I feel you on there. And I know you have a connection with this because you've shared before, and so I knew you would be one of the first people to respond. I just knew it because, yes, smoke and mirrors. The dance. They dance, right?
They feel whatever, and they dominate other people, oppress them and turn their culture into something it's not, tell lies on them, gossip about them, spread these rumors, like just anything they can do to devalue that person, dehumanize that person and separate, make them feel like savages
Eric Owens
@EricG · 1:32
Or if they've done something wrong to you, maybe they feel guilty about their own actions. They paint you as a bad person. They convince themselves what they did was justified. Or maybe they're trying to save face. They're worried about their own reputation, so they're trying to make you look bad to protect themselves. Maybe they're a manipulator of others. That's a possibility. So if someone turns against you, they try to make you look bad in the eyes of other people?
Bo Freeman
@MHNmaven · 2:39
That's totally it. And I can see that perspective 100%. Oh, my gosh, 100%. Such such a controlling time. Such a wrong time. Yes, 100%. Oh, my gosh. Thank you for sharing. Peace and beach
Bo Freeman
@MHNmaven · 0:50
Oops, I screwed up, but I'm going to make the other person look bad so I don't feel so bad about myself. I'm controlling the situation that I screwed up in instead of rising up and being a better person and handling the situation like you would want somebody to handle. And that is going and having the conversation and apologizing and all of that. So very good. Thank you much for responding. Peace. Let me check
I 100% agree with this thought. I have seen it before, and it's resonated with me, because this is often the case. I believe that I've dealt with a lot of immature people who fail to be introspective. So they really don't know themselves and don't understand how they're being received. So they tend to project onto others. This statement has truly been the case in my life
Bo Freeman
@MHNmaven · 1:29
I love that. Perfect. Perfect. Thank you so much for your contribution to the conversation. Truly, truly appreciate that. And I want to wish you a blessed evening and peace and beach
rhea kanojia
@rheally · 0:59
I realized that we are always going to be a bad person in someone else's story, right? Like, take a common scenario where two people, A and B, had a fight and nine out of ten times, if A is a manipulator, then A will look a will make B look like a bad person. And being in B's shoes is not a great feeling where there is a state of helplessness and you cannot share your side of the story as well
Wow, what a great statement. And an interesting one to get people's opinions and perspectives on, right? Because the first thing I thought when I read and heard that statement from you is I thought right away about context and how everyone in the world is perceiving our reality differently. At any given time, even in something as basic as a dinner setting, two people across the table could perceive that exact moment entirely differently and thus asking ourselves, what is the actual reality of the situation?
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Bo Freeman
@MHNmaven · 2:10
You're beautiful. Your thoughts are beautiful. And I thank you so much for taking your time to apply to my broadcast. It really, truly has touched me a piece of each
Bo Freeman
@MHNmaven · 3:21
And here's the thing, to not judge others because we don't know what somebody else is going through. And right now everybody's going through something. I think we can agree with that. So that's kind of the basis of me posting this discussion
You. So this is the first time I'm listening to your discussion. First time I'm going to respond because it really intrigued me. I really enjoyed what you're saying and I actually listened to everybody's responses below and I actually enjoyed all that. Why do they need to feel good about themselves? You never know what's going on in their life. This is true
Bo Freeman
@MHNmaven · 3:12
Hello, Layton. How are you? Thank you so very much for listening to the broadcast replying and sharing what resonates with you. I'm sorry to hear about the bullies. I can relate to that because my son has been bullied throughout elementary a little bit at the beginning of middle school, but he's actually a lot better now. He's gotten into sports and things, and he's really taken the high road on some things