So I was thinking, I don't know if I like this person and there was no warmth there and can I trust this person? So this person talked nonstop. We talked for probably half an hour. And I think it's safe to say they probably talked for 25 to 26 minutes of that 30 minutes. And maybe I'm exaggerating maybe they only talked for 20 to 25 minutes, but they talked nonstop very quickly, didn't ask me any questions
Is also important. Are we similar or not? Do we have things in common? Are we interested in the same topics? Is all part of liking the person? I think that's certainly what that's possibly what you imply by stressing the factor of liking as the first factor. Anyway, that's my take on that. In other terms, don't necessarily find these Socalled teachings useful, but perhaps other people may find it useful. There you are
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:56
And I think as you get older, you have all these things sort of intuitive that they're part of your intuition, and it makes life much more organized and relaxed and more able to step into this spontaneity of connecting because you have all these great life experiences that taught you all this and you don't need to think about them. So this reminder of these three ideas just come in and they're there. And I don't think that they're bad things. I think they're really good things
Greg Dickson
@ElasticBD · 3:59
I can be conscious and present about something that's going on, but I may not actually have the awareness of the actual awareness around why I'm doing it, or I may not even be aware of the impact that it's having aware of the impact it's having on me. I can be conscious and present in the moment, but not aware of the escape energy that I'm projecting. So it's pretty interesting. It's pretty interesting. Thanks for weighing in
Greg Dickson
@ElasticBD · 5:00
But I think in terms of the work environment that you suggested in the professional or in colleagues, there's definitely judgment going on, especially what I find when I talk to more people that are in the education system. I realize you're a teacher and I don't have a teaching degree, but I've been teaching and coaching people for decades around business
Michael Benner
@AgelessWisdom · 3:24
Your question about the difference between consciousness and awareness is one that's been debated in philosophy and metaphysics and spirituality. And of course, it's all about definition and semantics. There is an absolute version of both of those words, and there's also a relative version. This is usually what it comes down to. And then people are free, I suppose, to select their own definitions
And Incidentally, in relation to the word conscious and consciousness, I thought about the expression self conscious in English, which I had to learn because in French we don't have that in the same meaning. And if you're self conscious, are in a way shy and you are somewhat ashamed of your body or your presence. So it's certainly not related to any responsibility, but just being too much at a distance to what we are, what we express
Deborah, interesting take on the idea of consciousness for me. Your take on that is related to forgive me if I'm offending you, but your American way of thinking that intellectualism is bad and intuition is good. But to me consciousness is not intellectualism and it's similar to intuition or something like that. And by the way, when we say somebody is selfconscious, it's similar to what you said. It's an embarrassment to be self conscious
And even personally, their way of managing or being wise with what they have experienced can really make them interesting. So I simply don't give much of a d***. Yes. Because for me, these titles don't entail much. That's my take. The other one, what you mentioned about expectations is very interesting. As you said, answer to Deborah. You said it's related to safety, feeling safe
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Greg Dickson
@ElasticBD · 3:05
I guarantee the quality of the conversations will be totally different. And the relationship, I would think, gets off to a better start anyway. So that's what feedback I want to get. I'm curious what you all have to say. How about that
Michael Benner
@AgelessWisdom · 0:41
I think that's listening without judgment, and that's an expanded awareness to avoid busying your mind with judging and guessing and qualifying and quantifying. You just listen to a person and you're interested in who they are, whoever they may be. That's what I would think. It was just nonjudgmental awareness, which is expanded awareness or higher consciousness. Right. Cool. Thanks
Hello Greg. Yes, I agree with you. Suspending judgment is certainly a good way of meeting people, and trying to be opened is also something fun. We can tell people what our first reaction is because we can't help having some judgments and some reactions and it can also feed the conversation. The problem is somehow when we judge people behind their backs or not openly and just turn our backs on them while they speak, some openness in the discussion is good
Greg Dickson
@ElasticBD · 2:13
Hey, Zachi. Feeding the conversation. I love that. I love that. It was interesting. Friday we were at the farmers market and we were selling my wife's soap line of soaps, handmade soaps. And it's interesting. People go by, people make eye contact with you, they look at your stuff. And so then I would ask a question and draw them in and the conversation would begin
Greg Dickson
@ElasticBD · 1:27
And you just kind of notice things rather than sitting in my own body, in my own bubble. When I expand my awareness, it's like I'm able to move out of my bubble and just be like you say, nonjudgmental awareness and just be with people. Just be in the moment. It's such gift. Such a gift
And I could hardly get any words out. And the only thing he wanted to talk about was this. His own version of, like, the dungeon, the Dragons game. The thing you do, like, you play the characters on the board or whatever. And he made his own version of it. And that's literally was like 90% of the conversation
Greg Dickson
@ElasticBD · 1:38
I'm thinking these people need to have some listening skills and I actually think when people talk that much it's a significant sign of significant deficit of a lack of confidence that's the reason they keep talking is because they don't want to give any room either or maybe an unkind statement attention, horrors that need the constant attention of people or they're really lonely but I really think it's a confidence issue because if you are confident in who you are you can sit and listen and spend time with anyone provided you can control your emotions
Varun Aich
@varunkaich · 2:09
So, hey, you know, I really like the part about likability. You know, it's really close to my heart because I'm not a likable person by many, but I ensure wherever I need to be liked, I am actually professionally, I take care of that. So in fact, I'm loved, not just liked, but otherwise in my personal circle, I'm not a very likable person because I'm considered rude and learned and all of that