Turning the enemy into a master teacher: when a broken heart breaks open
And he was in the process of getting a divorce, and it became really clear that he was not actually ready for relationship s. And I was actually okay with that. I was really okay with that. And we were in the Bay Area, and there's a lot of very liberated thinking around relationships. I won't even call it liberated, just very out of the box thinking. And so I was living there at that time, and I said, you know what?
Michael Slade
@Freshslade · 3:52
However, I did want to leave you with a question I wanted to ask, because you mentioned it, and you said at one point, it just stopped being about him. And I want to ask because I feel like there's always some sort of impetus behind when our mind shifts in that way. Like, when did it stop becoming about him and why did it stop being about him? Was there anything that drove it? I mean, sometimes we do have epiphanies that seemingly come out of nowhere
And the only way I could do it is if I understood it inside and out to the very depth and also what it is to experience the kind of pain that touches the deepest core wounding, which is what happened to me around childhood abandonment stuff. So it's like this touched that, but it brought me into this greater expression of my soul journey and my relationship to love itself and was like, how big can my love get?
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Michael Slade
@Freshslade · 1:21
Yeah, I really love to hear that because not to go on about my story or my depression or anything that I went through, but just a little short snippet about it the same it was like the same solution in a way. I was struggling really hard for a really for a long time. And what really helped me was when I capitulated, I surrendered. And not to give up on life or anything, but I gave up on me needing to be right
And I had moved in with her kind of early on and there was a roommate that she previously had intimate relations with. And at first it was no big deal because our love was new and it was strong and it was exciting and there was no doubt. Well, eventually that roommate left because it just felt out placed and that was that. So we dated for quite some time and then as things hit rocks in our relationship and we knew things were over and I was moving out