Why can’t we as men and women get along and coexist together as one
And then our kids look at us like there's no way I'm not going to go into a job or I'm not going to bend a relationship that doesn't serve me well. And they're choosing, you know, not to get into long term relationships. And it seems like they don't even really communicate or contribute to one another's lives. They just choosing each other the same sex. So has that been your experience? And what's the dynamics behind it?
jalina upchurch
@YaGirlNikki · 3:54
Instead, it's about material stuff, money, who is doing this, wanting to be with more than one person. All these number of factors that play a part to why men and women cannot coexist like we used to back in the day. All right, well, hit me up like me, follow me. I would do the same for you as well, and you be at peace and love the question
Because they've been born into a whole lot of selfishness. All right, thank you, SIS, for your insight. And I'm just going to sit back and wait and get your wisdom on what effect you think that's having. Is it good? I just might can't see the good in it, but I love to see that people are standing up for themselves and not taking crap
jalina upchurch
@YaGirlNikki · 4:55
So you take what happened to you in a previous relationship and you use that relationship in every future relationship that you be in, not trusting that person that you meet, not giving them a chance. And now you start thinking to yourself, I can do better. I can be this person. I'm stronger and I'm going to do me and I'm going to be who I want to be
And I think that when the stories begin to be left behind, let's say when we're talking about men and women, a man being told by a society that he used to be protector and provider in a world where women are told we can be anything we want to be, those stories don't fit anymore, right? So we're shifting and growing in the ways that we are
But if we just don't have our hearts vulnerable to somebody, I'm afraid we're going to be a distinct group of people. Even animals need one another. And that's the scary part long term, is that we grow to feel that we don't need each other and that's not good. I really do hope and pray we don't get to that point and we realize and wake up and as you said, that the young people are woke
And that's where a lot of the conflict comes, because of those transitional stories and narratives that make you feel like, hey, you're taking it too quick or you're not going fast enough and we lose connection. So one of the things you said and that just getting into the shoes of what a man think and feel. I've tried that. That's very hard. So I just resound to, you know what? I'm going to be a lady
jalina upchurch
@YaGirlNikki · 4:55
And yes, you're right, we have to go out there and pretty much wear his armor to protect ourselves from men like that because they still exist to this day. They're still around. And that's what makes it even harder to coexist and why we distance ourselves and why we isolate ourselves because we don't want a man to tell us what we can't do and demean us, put us down as women, say that we too emotional to do anything
Also an attempt of how would I feel if I were in that position? And of course, I'm never going to really be able to imagine it, but I feel like and maybe this is just fooling myself, but I feel like it gives me at least a little hint, a little peek through. A keyhole to try to understand what they're going through, to try to have empathy and compassion for them. At least more so than if I don't even do it at all
But I think in some ways, I'm asking too much of the men who are specifically hate women or are very sexist because they wouldn't even dare put themselves in our shoes, because they see themselves as a step higher. I do not like one bit hierarchies. I think they're a load of horses. Sorry, I just do not I think that yeah. Anyway, that's another conversation I'll stop rambling at you now. All of it to say is, I am with you
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:55
Hey, lady. L. This is JL. And great question. I follow a group of men on YouTube. I'm actually planning two of the men from the panel planning their seminar for men in New York in April. And you can find that information on their YouTube channels. But one of them is Mr. LaCario and the other one is Miles Cunningham. Anyway, I would say it's males because there's a difference between a man and a male running away from their position as a man
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
jalina upchurch
@YaGirlNikki · 1:46
Hi, this is your girl Nikki and I love your response on how you distinguish the difference between men and males all you hit it on a nail. It is definitely a difference. I was married 16 years to a male, a sexist man that would tell me all kind of things and which kept a woman all between us because he did nothing but demean me and tell me say mean things to me all the time
Okay, just listen to your swell. Yeah, I thought it was interesting that how you were talking about asking the question why do men and women basically just don't get along and why is there no spark between men and women nowadays to where everything is just kind of topsy turvy and upside down from a men perspective? To me, it's a very complicated manner. To me, if you boil it down, I'll put it like this. It's kind of a twofold thing
