Hi. Swell. I was just wanted to talk about this. I was talking to my mom about it, but. So our generation has this very different idea of dating than past past generations. I mean, I remember my mom and I were talking about this, and she was like, I don't understand why you guys don't just go out on dates and date each other instead of doing this whole hook up thing where you spend a night together and then you never talk again
Alyssa Reyes
@mediamind · 1:28
I'll talk to you, text you, entertain you, whatever. But I'm not going anywhere near a hookup. And the guys that would take me on dates, I would love that. I think it is something that guys just pass over. They just want to skip to it. And if they really like the girl, I personally think they shouldn't. But other girls are different
Nimisha Dhami
@NimishaDhami · 0:30
Hi, Katie. This is a really interesting topic. And what I feel about it is that one of the reasons there's a huge difference in the past generations and now is that we as this generation has been taking upfront decisions about what works best for us and exploring our possibilities. But it was not quite prominent in the last few decades, but considering us, we have been quite prominent, active
Cassidy Waterson
@cassidywat · 2:04
So if you really did not care and we're just doing it for fun, I think that's when hookup culture is beneficial because there really are no strings attached. But in the long run, I think it just kind of takes us away from what intimacy really is about. At least in my Reyes, intimacy is different for everyone. But I don't like sharing experiences like with that just on a whim or we're randomly
Isabella Croston
@isabellaa · 1:05
And I think definitely there can be pros and cons and it definitely just depends on the situation, honestly, because I think every situation like that is different and yeah, so I really enjoyed this post because that's a really big thing at my school as well. And I don't think people really talk about it that much
Xander Brooks
@xanderbrooks · 0:52
But honestly, I kind of wish our generation was like older generations in the sense that people actually go on dates and there's more romantic interactions rather than one night stand, so to say. But yeah, it's pretty interesting how our generation has had a complete shift in that sense
Celine Guzman
@celine · 2:57
Hey Katie, I think this is like a really important conversation to have cause I feel like a lot of hookup culture connects to like party culture in College. And I feel like at a lot of universities, like party culture and party eating, I guess are like a really big deal. I'm a resident advisor and I notice a lot of residents not in my building specifically, but just residents in general that are mostly freshmen
I am constantly confused by dating in the modern age. I don't know about you, but it is so confusing nowadays. I feel like people don't know how to communicate and express that they like each other. And it's a weird time to date for sure
Yeah. I think it's one of those things that definitely varies, like College by College. I feel like I go to a College where that kind of runs rampant. And it's also, like a ton of factors that can contribute to hookup culture that you don't think about. Just from my own experience, we go to a really big beer drinking school that is Super Greek life heavy
I agree. Especially with it now being 2022. I think there were these, like, certain standards. But as of now, like, there's no rules you have to follow. There's no timeline or anything of that. I know for me, too, like, I'm in a really small College town as well. And there's really not much to do here on the weekends Besides go out and drink
Carissa Pike
@carissa · 1:32
Something that came in mind with this topic, which I think is so interesting, by the way, is how many people haven't been on a date at this point. So I'm a junior in College and I still will know a bunch of girls who have never been on dates. And they're completely amazing people. There's nothing wrong with them. They're amazing, but they've just never been on a date because of this hookup culture. And things with dating is just different nowadays
That's such an interesting point. And I'm glad that you actually brought that up. I'm right there with you. I'm actually in that category. I feel like personally, I have never been taken out on pike a property. I feel pike. It's always just been like, come over, hang out or in a social setting or something like that. So it's fascinating to me too. Pike really how we've shifted from it being solely just States
Hey, just saying, just to add on to my last comment, I think it would be So Psychopathed, a series on hook up culture in College
abby cornelius
@abbycornelius · 3:09
I've actually had pike a really interesting experience with this because not interesting. It's actually the same as everyone else's. But I, you know, throughout high school, I always had a boyfriend, like, a very long term boyfriend. So I never really did that. And then we broke up. Like, so I had the whole summer to kind of be single before College. And my friends were like, oh, you should get Tinder, Pike. You should hook up with people
Kenzie Kettwig
@kenzie · 2:44
But I don't think that there should be so much emphasis on doing that if it's outside of your bounds. Additionally, I think that personally, for me, I don't think hookup culture works very well. I'm the type of person that needs an emotional connection with someone in order to develop attraction and things like that
Katie Callahan
@katiecal · 2:36
And on the other side, if you really do like someone, you have feelings for them, then don't be afraid to take it to the next level or I don't know, something like that. It's like everyone in our generation is so scared of putting a label on a relationship that they're going to go through all these Hoops and jump through all these things, these Hoops for nothing, and just end up getting hurt in the long run
Jomarie Almeus
@jomariexann · 1:33
I feel like you essentially commodify yourself or sell yourself into getting a partner and hooking up with them and going to the next one. While it is fun in a sense, I feel like it is kind of greedy and I feel pike. It plays a part with having a short attention span. Well, not much of a short attention span, more of instant gratification. And because of that, there's not really room to have a long lastingly should blossom because of it
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
And I think that this is a big problem that people have and that they don't want to ask the person that they're involved with, what are we or do you want a relationships things regarding their history because they feel like it makes them seem desperate or needy when in reality you just want to know what you're doing and so that you don't form unhealthy attachments
Margaret Latenser
@Maggiel6 · 1:51
I think the hook up culture is hard because girls will get judged for their body count, but they'll also get judged if there is no number on their body count. So I don't know, I could probably get into this more. I definitely think it's frustrating just from the judgmental standpoint of how other people will look at a girl, but they really won't look at the guy because a relationship is two ways and you kind of need to be on both ends
Jomarie Almeus
@jomariexann · 1:27
And I do agree with the body count thing. There is a double standard. And I really got to stop. We're all grown. If you're really asking for a body count at this day and age, don't Katie at all. Because people lie. And I feel like what matters more is if they're clean and there's no STDs or STI's, then their body count per se. And you also don't know what people have been through
Sasha Runyen
@sasharunyen20 · 1:34
And there's not a ton of advice you can give to someone on that, which I find to be the greatest struggle because I'm like, how do I support my friends in this? But it's like you're not tied down to this person. So it technically is okay, but at the same time, they're getting emotionally hurt by it. So I feel like it's a very hard thing to navigate, and I really don't like hookup culture
Finley Ave
@finnave · 4:03
And I could definitely see where that fear is coming from because yes, it has been on a decline, but it definitely isn't dead. There still are people out there that like to date and are romantic. I wouldn't say I'm necessarily romantic, but I date and I also engage in hook up culture in College. Just kind of depends on where I'm at in my life. Yeah, where I'm at
Felisa A
@felisagreatgal · 1:45
And I think also the older generations, even though maybe they were going on more pike consistent dates with the same person, that doesn't necessarily mean that they were on the same page or that they didn't get ghosted or that they were in open communication with each other about what they wanted. I just think that we just have redefined a lot of things. And I think that's mostly for the good
So it's very easy for women to get attached to the person, me or female gentle who is giving you the feeling of ecstasy for a moment you're feeling really good and that you start associating that kind of feeling with that person even though it's not intentional. So a hookup should probably be never be repeated with the same person because it can cause interpersonal connection with them. So it's more for women than men. I've seen so purely from my friends and others perspective