What Does Friendship Mean to You?
I recently had a friend of mine reach out to me and she was really perplexed over the fact that it's like I really don't have any really good friends. I said, Well, you're talking to me because ever since Cobbt has happened, I don't have anybody to confide in and have a real deep conversation with. And she's also the type that she's a very jovial happy person and is always needing to go out and go out with friends and have a few drinks
Shahnaz Ahmed
@bookishpodcast · 4:54
And in a sense, I put myself out there with a very few people because they return. That when I need something. They're there for me too. And we have conversations that are deep. I really think there is a sense of because I'm an introvert. I prefer those kind of friendships. I don't like just hanging out with 25 people and saying, hey, How's it going? How's it going? No, forget it. That's just not me
Catherine Xu
@Gardevoir · 1:31
And sometimes actually, I feel like I have maybe anxiety or depression a little bit. And I found out no one to talk to even though everyone thought I'm a very outgoing person. And I like to laugh and enjoy doing a lot of things. But life changed a lot here, but it's starting to get better now. I started to explore new hobbies that can be done at home, like reading and playing piano. Yes. So like, a little bit better now
Sreeja V
@Wordsmith · 0:38
I guess my journey so far helps me sift through or gravitate towards people who can help me be a better version of myself. That for me is the gold standard
I met some, whether it was one night meeting somebody or whether it turned into a few weeks or a few months. For the most part, I enjoyed all of it. But I also realized now, in retrospect, looking back that a lot of that was, I think part of it was escapism on my end because I was just trying to get out of something that was going in my head, post divorce issues, having to do with my kids and my ex wife and all this stuff
Savija, thank you for your comments as well. Wonderful stuff to hear. It's interesting. I had a project that I started but never really continued with it's still floating on the internet. It was called of Building a Better Joe and it was something that I wanted to pursue as I worked on building a better version of myself. Like you said, I would explore different things with life and ultimately, yes, the relationship is all we have when everything is said and done
Shahnaz Ahmed
@bookishpodcast · 0:11
Joe DiMeo. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. That really brightened my day. I was like, oh, my gosh, that is so awesome. So thank you very much
I'm very content being alone, but that may also just be because I'm kind of exhausted lately, just from the pandemic and everything like that. I've been quite exhausted. So I find myself needing a little bit of more alone time. But friendship to me, I don't have very many super close friends. I have a lot of acquaintances and people who I enjoy interacting with and who I appreciate very, very much
Catherine Xu
@Gardevoir · 1:02
Hi Joe. Thank you for sharing your own story to me. The way you explain about friendship. Really like philosophy class I can take from. I never thought about treating friends as like bookshelf that I can arrange diversity to me. Friends always happen just naturally
They can really empty you out emotionally. And when you need something, they're nowhere to be found. So I think over time that's when you establish, okay, this particular friend, maybe they get downgraded to an acquaintance and they just go on the bottom shelf and you say, okay, there's no problem with Billy or there's no problem with Susan
Catherine Xu
@Gardevoir · 0:45
Seems like I took the superficial meaning of the metaphor to be used for friendship. I'm so glad that I can learn something so such valuable about life as well. To me, I actually don't really share my dark side to my friends at all. It's always my positive and sunny side to my friends. And for some reason yesterday I just didn't even think about when I talk about the dark side as well to you guys
Hi, Catherine Joe again. So I was listening to your last swell where you talk about how you don't share your dark side or the side of you that you just don't want to reveal. But my my personal feeling is that in my definition of friendship, like the people that really matter, those are the people that you're the most transparent with, and they know both sides of you. I know that I have a few friends who I can be vulnerable with
Catherine Xu
@Gardevoir · 0:41
Hi Joe, were you talking about to be vulnerable to some friends, to open completely either the dark side or the sun to the friend I was searching my all my friends. And then I do have some friends like that. But I just haven't got in touch with them for so long time, since we are completely far away, in different countries, in different life. And it just suddenly feel like I should contact with them
Catherine, how are you so glad to hear that you reached out to somebody isn't amazing. The power of just the conversation. Here we are. We don't even know each other. And all of us are just exchanging thoughts and ideas. And that can lead us into a different direction, a better direction. And, yeah, I hope to hear more about it. Let me know. Obviously, you don't have to