Part 2 Emotional Safety
I wish I could tell Little Jess that her anxiety and fears will be dealt with so that they don't end up controlling her. I wish I could tell Little Jess that she'll be okay. Honestly, when I was saying these things out loud, saying that, I wish I could tell little just this or that, there was a huge part of me that just kept saying she wouldn't believe you. She wouldn't trust that what you were saying was real
There's so many wonderful conversations on swell about childhood trauma and just growing from that and I don't know, I think as well as like a place of recovery and self discovery and all of that, so yeah, that's really beautiful. I guess one thing I was curious about was, if you do see your family, how do you, I guess, respond when you are with them? I guess. Thank you
Who would have thought that the adult self now the person that you are now who you've grown up to be, could be the person that helps heal the younger you? I just never thought that I'd come to a place like this. When I was growing up, I had a really good relationship with my parents, but that's because my younger self didn't know any better. Like, I didn't know I was being emotionally manipulated. I didn't know that I was being emotionally abused
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Zaire Ukuu
@zaireukuu · 4:05
But for yourself, you try to create something that you want to be aware what you want to portray yourself as, or you distract yourself from what you're not and try to make who you are. But I always think about if I was able to see myself again, I think I'd actually cry. But the best thing that I would tell myself is, just go, hey, everything will be okay. Everything's going to be fine. Just keep pushing, just keep moving forward
And people can change from that, but you haven't chosen to. And so that's when boundaries come into play. But I'm still just in this healing stage of I just want to be able to love my parents without any expectations of them as my parents, because I'm past the point now where I need parenting from them, but I'm at the point now where I'm just as much into adult as they are. I don't want to just see them as broken people