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I mean, how hard is it to type the O for okay or to actually type out all of the word good morning? I don't think it's that hard. I know on my phone there's predictive text, and so as soon as you start typing one or two letters, it will populate what it believes you were saying and you just tap it to select the full word for me, a person who is a lover of words and a lover of the way words flow together
Matthew Z
@ChangeMyMind · 2:01
Hey. Hey. Good morning. Hope you're doing well. Just got your Swell post notification up on my phone here about pet peeves or quirks of texting. Do have to say you would probably be annoyed if we were texting back, you and I generally, because the fact that I do tend to abbreviate GM for good morning. Not so much K for okay, I do type out okay, but good morning, I abbreviate GM and then good night
Eric Owens
@EricG · 1:02
Hey, good morning, Eric. Here. Thanks for the invite. I agree with you. I think the one of the most annoying things is when you're trying to type the predictive AI nonsense is correcting your spelling when you know you had it right. And then when it is done, it's making your grammar look bad. So when you know you're spelling it right, it's making it wrong. It's making what you're spelling wrong, basically, which is nonsense
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 1:36
My major texting pet peeves is texting. I like getting text messages from certain people, but by and large, I find that people people just want to do small talk with texting. It's like I get it. The letters are small. That doesn't mean small talk. I think small talk via texting is painful for me. How are you doing? How's your day going? Oh, my f****** God. Really? We really are doing this right now
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 1:54
And I will respond back to him and say, hey, look, mom is at work. I'm glad you're okay. But you could send that in one complete message. And he will say back, oh, I did that to be funny because I know you don't like it. Or, I did it because I know you will respond faster versus me sending it one message. So he's very much so aware that he's doing it and that it's not my preference
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 1:47
I had to pause my response because someone was asking me for help to a location where I'm at. Swell. I lost my train of thought that I think I was talking about predictive facts. But anyway, I also wanted to compliment on your podcast picture the motivational podcast and the five steps to greatness. I thought that was awesome. I am her underscore C. Su
Lauren Garcia
@lala · 1:31
Because I know that you're on your phone playing with social media. Why can't you text back? I'm not going to run after you. I'm not going to chase you. I'm not going to call you. In fact, I'm not even going to text back until you text me back. If that's 4 hours from now or six days from now, that's when you're going to get a response. That is such a texting pet peeves. What are you doing?
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:03
There wasn't that he pretty much set up the date, and we didn't communicate anymore until the date, like the day of the date. He confirmed our plans and then we met for the date. And I found it refreshing. I believe I asked him about that. I said, Are you one of those people that don't like texting in between? And what he said to me was he believes that level of access is earned. And it was so powerful, just that one simple sentence
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 1:24
Now, I can't say all guys are doing this, but there is some political social hierarchy at play. When a guy who is perfectly well incapable of texting you and will see your text and will leave it on red is doing this deliberately. Maybe there could even be some intimidation. Lala, maybe you are intimidating this guy into wondering can he say the right thing to you? Will he somehow trip up and get ignored from you in any shape or form? Men are idiots. Boys Incorporated Out
Lauren Garcia
@lala · 0:17
Hey, fried oreo. Thanks for the feedback. I had no clue that Boys Incorporated existed. But don't worry. You're secret safe with me. So I guess do I just keep ignoring, or or do I send a hey, I'm still here text?
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 1:40
Oh, Lala. Inside of every man is a small little boy. That came out wrong. But when you think about it, there are instances okay, sorry, just beside the point. Just drop the act and say, hey, what up, bruh? I don't know though, because this is very peculiar. Lala. Most men equate the power to you
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 2:01
Yeah, JJ, that's great that you found somebody that cuts through the malarkey and gets right to the point of what exactly it is that you desire. But I must admit I am one of those, quoteunquote, pussyfooters. Not in a kink sort of way, but if a lady wanted my ugliest toes in her thing, I'd actually think that would be a turn on. But anyway, that's besides the point. I'm on the fence about getting to know people in the flesh
Lauren Garcia
@lala · 1:25
Let all the guys know that it matters what you say, not necessarily the repetition of making sure you're doing it, that is the second part to the pet peeve is don't send me something that is so repetitious that I now lose interest. Because it shows that you're not purposely vetting. You're not going to take time to find a date that matters. I hate going to the bar. I feel like everyone asks that
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:38
I'm not coming to him and saying, oh, are the other girls you with have long, luscious hair? Are the other girls with are they smaller or bigger than me? Are they darker or lighter than me? Are they this? Are they that? Screw that. Look. He has sought my attention out. He's texting me to say, when can we get together? So that says, enough
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 0:44
Well, Lala, duly noted. Thank you on behalf of the Girls Association for enlightening us men and boys and f*** boys and simps, etc. E we will take heed with your warning and we will now speak intently or otherwise cut our tongues off. But we will also practice her sisus son's approach and we will MultiText you until we have your attention. And once we get your attention, we probably will say something meaningful then. Thank you very much
London Reads
@Londonreads · 2:08
Hey. So mine is sometimes the GM for good morning and H B for Heck birthday could be annoying to me, but not so much. I feel like it was more of a pet peeve of mine. When it comes to Texas, when someone takes so long to text me back, I hate that, knowing they're not at work and 2 hours, 3 hours, 5 hours, 810 hours a day. I just can't stand it
Lauren Garcia
@lala · 3:16
If I am giving you my time, I am intentionally setting time for you. If I want to go on dates, if I want to have a text conversation with you, if I want to f*** you, I'm wanting to do that. And I think that puts me in a better head space for dating. But because the dating game has changed, it's not the same. Excuse me. It's very much so. A game of chase, but then a dead chase
Diane Lou
@DyloThaGoddess · 4:17
I've done this online dating apps, and whenever a person comments or messages me and they do K or GM or GN, I don't respond. Then also a pet peeve of mine is when I double text. So I'm a back to back to back text. If I text you something and you reply to just one part of my text, whereas there's a whole other part to my text that's irritating to me as well. Oh my gosh, that's so triggering
Lauren Garcia
@lala · 0:29
Override. Oreo, thank you so much for this app. I cannot wait to see how dating trends change. Or lack of tongues in a men's mouth. I'm just kidding. But seriously, this has been a fun conversation, and I appreciate all of your wonderful insightment. And I will look forward and look differently. And look proceed with caution. There we go. That's a better word in the dating apps
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:21
Don't text me life threatening things because I am not 911. Which is emergency services in the United States. I don't know where you're based from, I'm not 911. So lou need to call emergency services, get immediate help, let me know where I can find you so that I can come see about you. But I should not be the first one to call and please don't wait for me to call you back if you're in a life threatening situation
Lauren Garcia
@lala · 2:05
Yes, you you have absolutely 150% clarity with what Lou want in life. And I think that that's super important because the dating scene has changed. I think as men, as as women, as black, white, purple, green and yellow, we have standards for ourself and what we want in a relationship
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 1:08
Thank you for your response and participation in The Swell Girl. Yes, I completely feel you on that. Like I said to someone else, I have my responsibility read, receipts turned off because I don't want anyone back to checking when I did or did not receive a message. I have integrity and I'm honest. I will let you know. Yes, I received your message this morning. I have been productive today and my plan is to respond to Lou this evening
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 0:20
Oh, my gosh. I appreciate your sense of humor. That whole cut your tongue off. That was so Game of Thrones. House of Dragons for me, I'm like to the wall
So unless you're my mom or my wife or my brother or somebody like that that is intimately close to me, don't send me ten text messages in a row unless your house is burning down. And every single time I have received that many texts that once the house is never burning down. It's always for some dumb reason or something that could have been relayed to me via a phone call, a simple phone call. I don't know why people put so much effort sometimes into texting
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 2:50
After 10:00 p.m.. I consider after 10:00 p.m. Late. I'm old, but as early as I wake up sometimes I wake up as early as 430. Now, people closer in my inner circle, I'll text at that time if something pops up. And I don't want to have that thought or question or comment, get lost in the productiveness of my day. So I will text them at that time
phil spade
@Phil · 1:33
Lala, I wanted to respond to your radio silence. Swell here. I will fully admit I have done this before, and it's not been very often, but I have done it where I mean to respond, but I get sidetracked, I get busy, and then all of a sudden, it's buried in a bunch of other texts. However however, if that happens, I'm apologizing profusely for that. I feel terrible about it
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 2:08
I am doing something. I'm sitting on the couch in silence. Or I'm sitting on the couch watching TV. Sometimes to prove a point, I'll answer the door. Something scantily clad to emphasize I did not have plans for you today. But anyway, that is how texting and an immediate phone call lands for me. It's like, okay, I text you and then I respond. And then they're like, well, let me call
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Nick G
@NickGweezy · 0:55
The quintessence you see is my pet peeve. So just FaceTime me or something. Good Christmas. But it's just lazy communication, man. It's not even on a computer where you can type and think about what you have to say. That last part. Think about what you have to say. Or just send a voice note. It's 2022. Come on now. Leave me a voicemail. Send me smoke signals, I don't care. Just don't text as crap
Lauren Garcia
@lala · 0:39
But I think it's the same on both ends. If someone's busy and they just don't have time for a conversation, shoot me the same text. That's what I was doing today. I work today. I can't just respond back, and I respond back when I can. And I think we're both on the same wavelength when that happens
Lance Watson
@lwatsonjr · 3:21
I get it all the time and really sort of a sore spot with me in this abbreviated texting world, this norm that's been established in some weird way I can't even remember. And I've been around, I'm dating myself now, but I've been an adult and functioning in the world way before the innovation of texting technology
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:29
Thank you for responding to this swell. Listen, that wid. When you said it, my first initial reaction was why would that bother someone? But that was the whole point of this swell, was so that I could understand and listen and just get different insight. Right? But the more you kept talking, I realized in my history of texting and receiving text messages, I too do not like wid
Quwanna Fields
@Quwanna-Ebony · 0:27
My biggest pet peeve is when someone has, like, a long story to tell me and instead of them just calling me, they decide to text me literal paragraph after paragraph after paragraph of things. After a while, I am over reading it. Just call me and get the story over with within five minutes. Instead of texting me for an hour. I am over it
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 2:40
Or the other component to that, the cousin to that is where they will then send the message as a voice message. And so I have these series of voice messages that are long. My mentor does that, love him to pieces, but he will send about five or six voice messages back to back
Tiffany Edwards
@mrspoetic · 1:02
I think it's just a lot of lazy people out here that don't want to type out the actual word. They rather just abbreviate it and keep it moving. But me, I'm just like you. I like to just see the whole entire word
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 1:06
Hey. Thank you for participating in my swell, tiffany or Mrs. Poetic. I am her SEASU. SEASU is a Finnish word for all of the other elements of being resilient. I'm also known as JL. And I get it. I totally can appreciate where you're coming from. And how do we get back to really being intentional with our words and how we are communicating with each other, like becoming a lost art
Tiffany Edwards
@mrspoetic · 0:42
Hey. Thank you so much for responding back to my comment. It really means a lot that you took the time out to listen to it. Yes, I am very poetic. I'm a spoken word lyricist, and I am am a lover of words. And I know which words to use in the correct format once I get familiar with this platform, because I just joined this platform today, I'm going to be posting up some of my poetry
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 1:49
I find this question very interesting. I have several pet peeves when it comes to texting. Here are just a few. The paragraphs, the endless paragraph. Paragraph after paragraph after paragraph after a paragraph. It's annoying. You could have had a full fledged conversation if you wanted to say all of that. The second thing, there is no tone when it comes to texting because you answer yay nay. No. Yes. Why no? People were mistaken
Tayane Leite
@laytcheety · 2:43
Hello. I'm new to this platform, and I just came across your post, and it's I think it's funny because I feel like, for me, my biggest texting PITB eve would be texting itself. It's not that I'm a bad texture, it's just that I don't know if anybody else feels this, but I just feel anxiety towards my phone in general. First of all, I hate when people call me
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:46
What I equate it to is back in the day, I'll say back in the day, because I'm in my 40s, where you had the house phone and the house voicemail, and there was an understanding that you wouldn't always get an immediate response. Majority of the time for my family, we were sitting right there. My mom would be like, don't answer that phone. I don't feel like talking
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:00
I just want to see whatever beautiful photo I have selected as the wallpaper locked screen or either home screen. So I get it. I totally get your quirky phone preference
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 3:45
Oh, I just wanted to know if he was going to bring ice cream to the party. And then people start asking questions and then, oh, I remember what you see. And then they screenshot it. It's too much. Texting is one way of communicating to people. Short things. Be there at seven. No, I'm not going to work today. To your husband or wife or to your children. I do think that's one of my pet peeves
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:17
But of course no one is up and replying that early. But what you will get, starting about nine something, is the sporadic responses that could likely continue well into the evening. Late night, the next day, then it'll break and then five days later someone else will pick it back up. But now we'll give the birthday text a good ten hour run. The other messages are completely unrelated from did you pick up your medication from the pharmacy? Oh, the dog is playing
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