Watch your step…The ladder of Patriarchy
And the reason why I say that is because I have seen it. I have lived it, and I can still witness it. And what I can say about this is that, yes, this can very easily be seen as one sided where the mail is more dominant and we can trace it back to males. However, I do see that still in today's society because this is still so relevant
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:52
I think things are really shifting, and you bringing this to the fore with a warning, like, let's make sure we're watching what's going on with our sons and daughters and parenting and family. We can watch every step and we self correct our response to it, and we help people self correct their own trajectory. If they made a decision that clearly comes from a place of misunderstanding, it's time to have open conversations about it
And it's beautiful to hear how you mentioned the celebratory of the strength in your nephews. It's beautiful. And I feel like today in our families and just anyone that we talked to and we know there's children involved or people in general that are open to this kind of conversation that it's great to just becoming vulnerable and talking about these things, being uncomfortable with the uncomfortable as he's. So thank you so much for responding. I hope you're having a beautiful day
Yes, it's a latter that goes on forever and ever. I mean, I experienced in my household, you know, I was a young single mother, 23 years old, having my first child. I was a senior College. My mom was very upset at me. More upset because of what it made her look like. That same year, my brother, my younger brother got his girlfriend pregnant. And he was praised. And she was very happy and looking forward to being a grandmother
Thank you so much for responding and sharing this part of you. I really do appreciate it. It's so very unfortunate, right, that these things happen or that people that we may know or even ourselves that have gone through these type of situations. And like you mentioned, and this, I've seen so many different times throughout my life where mothers who have younger daughters who are having children, they're more worried about what the people are going to say about them specifically
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:43
So I think how we break the system down is we have to reexamine what a family is. It's not a patriarchal dependent thing going on here. It's two parents trying to make it the best they can for their kids. Nowadays, some women still want to be Housewives and things of that nature, and that's totally cool. But there's a lot of it's almost like an old custom for one person to be having a job while the others staying at home
But I feel like families, whatever it is that we're seeing today, a lot of these things do derive from power. And how are we going about this? How are we teaching our own children? How are we each day practicing the idea of equality? And what does that mean? We're. And so yeah. Thank you so much for sharing your response
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 4:42
So it's just kind of like this very twisted sort of psychology that feeds into itself. And I find some of these things, these really extreme forms of these kind of toxic masculinity and things like that and the suppression of women and policing of girl bodies come out of survival. And then just a twistedness different things happen to people growing up. And then it definitely makes them react in a very extreme way. So that's kind of what I was thinking about
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
diya sabapathy
@diyasabs · 2:33
Hi for me. Personally, I haven't seen people around me behave this way, but it's a very real thing, of course. And a lot of guys have it. And about me nature keep reserving it. I think to an extent that's true as well. And I agree with everything else you said, too. And nowadays I see a lot of things about toxic masculinity being said for the past year, actually, like 2020, like on Instagram and stuff
Enfinit Evolushun
@Enfinit · 4:44
And that ego or wherever it came from, it's spilled over into my relationships. And it was weird. It was weird. My brush with toxic masculinity was weird. It's all over the place. And now I have kids. I have a feminine energy son, and I have a masculine energy daughter, so that s*** can be passed down through the DNA, too. Man, I got a lot to talk about. I got so many angles with this. That man
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 2:30
And those are your tools, and they're not great tools. But those are the tools for that environment. So I guess the larger question is, how do we change that before people are adults and maybe just can't get unfortunate, you know, and that's it. I hope everybody's having a great afternoon. Oh, shoot this evening. Alright. Later
Enfinit Evolushun
@Enfinit · 3:35
But mostly the 20 year olds tell me what they've gone through when they were younger, but I don't know if it's getting better. I don't know if it can get better unless minds can be impacted, training, education, giving them hope. This is a hopeless atmosphere. It's such a hopeless atmosphere that they don't care. They don't care about lives. They'll snuff your life out here
Thank you, Dya, for responding to this. Well, if I am not pronouncing your name correctly, please correct me. So. But yes, to get to your point about how some boys being raised to not cry. And I do agree with you how this can very much impact them when it comes to expressing their emotions. So this connection of sort of feeling, right. When we sit with our emotions, we're trying to figure out how am I going to heal from this?
And what you mentioned about you growing up in a toxic environment with brothers. And it really touched me when you said that one of your brothers was loved, and that's how you were able to be loved by him. And so that was just, wow, thank you for sharing that. And seeing you here, your energy is amazing. You tapped into it. You have accepted. Yes, I am a male. But hey, I don't only have masculine energy
So when you see, like, these kids being sexual or whatever, it is looking for this relationship, being intimate, that it's a way of them probably not being able to articulate themselves. There's something there, but it's that being said, right. Not that I'm saying that that's what's happening all the time when it does come to teenagers, because obviously it's a natural thing