Why dont people talk about grief? #AskSwell
You. All right, it's time to ask Swell. And the question that I have for today is, why don't people talk about grief? So, as a grief educator and griever myself, this was something that I did not understand until I was a griever. And what I found from my own personal experience is that we avoid talking about death, we avoid talking about dying when that is going to happen to all of us. It is inevitable
Andrea Potvin
@GoodEnough · 2:54
You. Hello. I really appreciate this, especially grieving myself. The thing that comes to mind right now is it just dysfunction. We can't model what we've never seen. We can't model support that. We've never seen somebody be supported in a grieving situation. I just feel like grieving myself. I would like to share with people if people had the capacity, but I'm really noticing that there's not a lot of people that do
And I just feel like that maybe some people don't talk about grief much because they've just never experienced it, especially at such a deep level. I know that I had never really experienced it until my son passed away. And now I have a completely different outlook on death and on grief and people that are grieving and how to respond to grief
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Trupti Bagde
@Justbeingtrups · 3:14
Ah thank you for asking such an insightful question. And honestly, this topic has been on my mind unknowingly or knowingly for a while and I thought it was a perfect opportunity to express my opinion or express my thoughts on this topic. Actually, it so happened that recently a very dear friend of mine, she lost her husband under very tragic circumstances. And I and my other friend, we had gone to offer our condolences
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:21
But overall, we're all blessed and it's what we choose to do with our lives that make a difference. But again, I don't view because I grew up in a way that death wasn't viewed as necessarily sad. Yes, we miss people when they're gone, but as I get older, I realize that this is just a part of life. People are going to transition. They're going to transition to that higher level. But I do feel that they never leave us
Because if they look around and they see nobody else is doing it, or people are associating maybe shame to this or even fear of judgment to this, then they can then adapt and acquire that same thought belief and exhibit those same patterns. So it becomes this consistent cycle of not discussing it, not talking about it, not going through it. And essentially that's how we process grief. We have to process it
You. Thank you for saying hello and thank you for joining our conversation here on grief and sharing your personal experience with it. I know there are so many others that can empathize and that can relate to the deep pain that you are feeling with the death of your son. So thank you for sharing his life with us. And one thing that you really explained is how even through death and through grief, how hope can be expanded
So that's one thing that is really interesting in what you're bringing up, is how we respond to these different emotions, how we need to learn to sit in that discomfort. When we can sit in that discomfort, we can truly give the support to that person. What they need and what they're seeking is, yes, this is one of the most hardest and tough times in my life
The more that we can talk about it, the more we can process it, the more that we can find things that work for us to carry our grief so much better. So thank you for saying hello. And for those of you listening, you can follow me on any other social platform at hello, I'm Grieving and would love to say hello to you. All right, thanks. Bye