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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 3:33

Session 14: Curiosity - do you have it, truly?

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I think when you have interpersonal relationships and you're having trouble and you really are wondering what's next, or you're wondering why a person is sad or angry, and you approach that wonder with a deep sense of curiosity, but not in a way that you're trying to say instead of saying something like, here's what I really think is going on. You say I'm really curious about what's going on

Leading with curiosity won’t work if it’s not real

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@Marconorth
Marco North
@Marconorth · 2:25
It's really nice to explore not just by yourself, but as a shared experience to find out a completely mundane answer or really complicated answer to something I can say from the documentary film world. The greatest thing you can do is ask a question that can only be answered by making the film. So yes, you have to write a lot of proposals, and you have to show this deep understanding of your subject matter before anyone's going to give you a grant or any financing to make a documentary
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@TobinT
Toby Tullis
@TobinT · 2:33
And then I start to turn the wheels and figure out how I'm going to create into existence. This thing that wasn't created before that is where my curiosity is at the moment. And it's also got the smattering of all of the other topics because information is so readily available, it allows us to be a little bit more curious, I think. And I think it's awesome to have that
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@Swell · 0:15

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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:47

@Marconorth @TobinT the creativity of curiosity!

I appreciate both your responses so much, and I love that we've tackled two big areas where curiosity is King, and when you have it, things go really well because embedded in that message is sort of almost a collaborative spirit of, like, let's see, let's see what's about to happen and not get in its way
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@PKBriggs
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 1:51

@DBPardes interesting 🧐

So a space where I feel like people want to understand that would make me feel safe. And I guess that will bring the conversation. This is a very interesting thing to think about. Thank you for bringing up. And I hope you're having an amazing day. Peace
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:07
It just is for me. It's not something where I am deliberately laying the groundwork by saying, I don't even really say the word that much. When you had mentioned it, I actually have to look up the word. What does this word mean? And yeah, I do that a lot. I do that every day of my life, but it's more like poetic for me. It's more organic. It's a love language for me. Curiosity
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:09

@PKBriggs @FryedOreo

But in this particular giving voice, I really wanted to poke at this because I think that there's a lot of people talking about curious conversations and you're really what you are doing, or is it just something you think you learned because you read a book about curious conversations? Anyway, great conversation. And I'm staying curious
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Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 1:10

I feel you 😁 @DBPardes @FryedOreo

So I feel what you're saying, is this a thing or are you actually actively embodying kind of practice? And what does that mean? But anyway, I love that you asked it. And I guess poke the burrito bear or something. You have an amazing day. Bye
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@soulcruzer
Clay Lowe
@soulcruzer · 5:00

@DBPardes

And I remember hearing that too growing up. But don't forget the second part of that is satisfaction brought them back. Curiosity killed the cat. But satisfaction brought him back. So I always make sure that, you know, complete that phrase because absolutely satisfaction will bring you back satisfying your curiosity. The other part of it, I think, Deborah, that you mentioned about people using curiosity as a softening word
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:44

@soulcruzer critical filter !

But satisfaction brought Hima back. I did not know that was the second half of that story. I didn't know the phrase critical filter, either is very interesting. I didn't have a word for that or a phrase for that. And now I do. Yeah. As a journalist, I always feel this obligation to try to push away agenda, but that's sort of false, right. Because I have agenda. I want to learn about the person. I want the story very interesting
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@TARASNOWDROPS
HIMA BINDU
@TARASNOWDROPS · 2:12
Good power of anyone leads to a good curiosity. Like there are different shades. Even in the curiosity, it comes from the positive energy. If the energy is positive, definitely the shades of the curiosity is going to be a fruitful conversation and a path of positive direction which can lead to a good circle of collective bonding where with the curiosity itself leads to a higher perspective connections around the globe, wherever we are working, even being the home with the family members
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:30

@TARASNOWDROPS

Hey, Tara, it's great to hear your voice here. And I love that you pointed inward and made sure to sort of connect the dots of someone's internal. Sort of. We have to be curious for ourselves before we even have that sense of what you call positive curiosity outwardly. It's an inside job before it's an outside job. I really like that. Thank you, sir. Much
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@TobinT
Toby Tullis
@TobinT · 2:05
But it's not so focused on a specific item that I might be curious about that person, what makes you tick or what's your passion about what it is that you do or what are you reading or anything like that
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