D Pardes
@GivingVoice · 1:40
Session Two: The Space Between Notes - 3 Tips
Session two comes to you Friday, December 11, 2020 and I'm thinking about silence. Sometimes giving voice to an idea means actually bending your your ear towards silence. The power of the pause, even when the pause has an airplane driving right through it like you're hearing right now. There it goes. I'm thinking about the humility of lingering in silence, especially when words fail you and you just are sitting there without words, and there's nothing
D Pardes
@GivingVoice · 0:52
So if we just decided we know what that person was thinking, we'll never know what they were thinking because we filled it in with our words. So it's okay to sit in the silence while someone else thinks it's really shockingly. Okay. Actually. So you could try it the next time you're about to jump in and think you're about to save somebody. And it's really hard for some people, but it's worth building that muscle of restraint
D Pardes
@GivingVoice · 0:36
What about when you don't have the answer? I know this sounds obvious, but some people like the sound of their voices so much that they'll try to answer a question with a bunch of mumblings and replacement words that actually bring no value and just more or confusion. I love to say, I don't know. I used to be afraid of it. That whole sentence kind of made me nervous. But now every time I say it, I sort of feel released somehow
D Pardes
@GivingVoice · 1:36
When very high emotions have hijacked your brain, it's good not to speak and don't get me wrong. I love a good slobbering soliloquy. I really do. But in general, if I'm in state of feverish, anger or sadness or confusion or fear or loss or whatever, I'm not going to call up a colleague and brainstorm about a work thing, and that seems obvious
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 2:24
I'm going to take away these things and implement them not just at work, but in my private life as well. It's like a check, isn't it? Thanks, Deborah
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 2:18
Oops I posted that I was going to add some more. My friend, who is one of the most geniusly bright people I know. He was a scientist who works for the government. He actually worked in the area of grapes viticulture and the science of grapes and growing them and turning them into wine. And he had a couple of accidents, not just one. So he's had two brain injuries and the last one affected him more than anything. He doesn't work
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:29
And I've brought that into a lot of practices that I do, especially when I do work with other people. And I really find that the answer I'm looking for in a situation, especially if I'm leading a workshop or something. The answer is in the room because someone else just said it, and it's less work for me. And it's more exciting for the engagement of people. So this whole idea of listening really hard
Karan Dev
@Karan.Dev · 1:40
The more he saw, the less he spoke, the less he spoke, the more he heard. Why can't we all be like that wise old bird? And I think this just ties in with all the points and situations that you mentioned. Never. So thanks again. I really enjoyed it