Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 2:53

Debate: Debating is healthy for your pysche.

I feel you. Okay? All right. Sorry about that. But I feel debates are healthy, and I feel people don't do it enough. They want to avoid it. They want people to agree with them all the time. They want people to be cool and energy to be right. Sometimes you got to screw that. You know what you really want to say, but you ain't saying it. Sometimes if you don't say it, I'll say it for you

And you’re probably not doing it enough. #debate

Jordan Tepper
@JordanTepper · 4:01
It I really like your swell cast and I think also part of youre, youre swell cast comes off of youre youre delivery and your demeanor. You come out, you're a very dry sense of humor and I love it. And sometimes it's hard sometimes it could be hard for someone to decipher if you're being serious or not. Also the tone of your voice. You have a very bellowing voice, very low, madly voice, radio voice of and that also adds to your drama
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:31

@JordanTepper

And again, I'm used to that. I'm not a person. It's like you either like me or are you just not really into me or you hate me or you love me. I'm kind of one of those types. But I like to feel I want to have discussion to balance out the point of view, especially when I feel the point of view is very biased
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:30
We're not supposed to think alike. We're not. Opposites do attract. Right. That's how you learn and you grow. Now, some people do not most people I should not say some people. Most people do not know how to debate. They turn it into an argument. We can be talking about religion, we can be talking about politics, we can be talking about relationships. And it's people expressing their point of view. I love it
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:01

@Luchianna

And I may not always have agreed with what you had to say, but when it comes to debating, I feel that, like you said, that aspect of feeling is not required and necessary and it doesn't really do any good to come to the forefront with conversation. Now, as you stated, people can get passionately involved with the topic or two or just in general, or someone may be left leaning while the other is right leaning, or et cetera, to where it can get personal

@FryedOreo

Okay, my short answer is that I agree with you, but I think that it's a bit more complicated because people will use the word debate to describe several different kinds of scenarios. There's the kind of debate that you mentioned with politicians. It's very structured and the goal is really just to present different sides for anyone who's listening and sometimes to counter each other, but not necessarily anything else. I don't think I'm going to do these descriptions justice
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:09

@SeekingPlumb

And the guy was looking at my pictures, he was calling me fat, he was this and that stuff. He was saying that I like sex dolls because I had this topic on sex dolls. It was interesting how he was piecing together this dissertation of disrespect when he didn't really know me, for one, and he didn't really seem to kind of want to get to know me either
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:23
That doesn't mean I'm 100% right and everything, but yeah, I don't see a problem with debating. Like I said, as long as the conversation is fruitful, everybody's being sharpened, meaning we're growing from this, we're learning from this. We're open to new ideas, we're open to new thoughts. We're even opening open to thoughts that are opposite of what we believe

@FryedOreo

It's not about one upping them or dominating them, but instead, can this argument stand? And if not, can I construct one that's even better? So it does stand and it does become sort of competitive. And I've done that before. Not as much as I once did, because I think to some extent this might be about feeding my ego instead of it really being I don't know
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 1:49

@MsColes77

Hey, Tanya, thanks for getting back to the swell cast and accepting the invitation where we talk about debates and no, I don't think we have formally or really directly debated it's just a matter of your viewpoints are the type of viewpoints that I typically debate with people about, so so, let's say, for instance, your post today, right? Talking about the friend zone and being friend zone and someone choosing you kind of out of a limited option of choice
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 2:54

@SeekingPlumb

Ahead. Hey, Christina. Yeah. It's always fascinating to me when a person does say that, you know, I want to debate or I want to argue and things of that nature. And that was sort of the catalyst for this idea of this topic, you know, to take on that sort of moniker and see what it feels like. And I must admit this isn't my preference of debating. And I think I'm more like a conversationalist like you are describing

@FryedOreo

I like that from one devil's advocate to another. It's too there's some people I think, that really appreciate when we can do this of, like, not only see what perspective they're taking, but let's flip it around. Or these are the implications of is that really then your stance or whatever it might be, and then there's other people who really, really hate it and they'll lash out
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 1:53

@SeekingPlumb

So if we can determine why some things are common sense, maybe we can realize that it actually shouldn't be so common. That's why I'm such a big fan of these sort of platforms being able to speak in this way. And, yeah, it's always fun to be a part of a great conversation, but it's interesting as well to be maybe the antithesis to a conversation as well. Thanks for responding

@FryedOreo

And that's difficult when I'm like, come on now, I just want to look at this idea. I'm not trying to say anything about you, but it's like no matter what you say, there's no way to really convey that for them to see and understand that because of the way that they operate. And I'm not saying that one is better or worse. One is better for me

@FryedOreo

I don't know if you're doing this intentionally or not, but I wanted to say thank you and I appreciate it regardless of whether it's intentional or not, but I like having what feels like a conversation one on one with you instead of the conversation with the podcaster. Duan. Not to say that I don't appreciate the podcaster Dewuan, I do. But it's nice when there's the back and forth that it feels more like this, um, conversation. You know what I mean?
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:23

@SeekingPlumb

But yeah, it's all for the love of conversation. It's all for the love of spreading and receiving information. So yeah, thanks. That's funny, I've heard that a couple of times as well, where someone could say, it almost sounds like I'm like rehearsed with what I'm saying

@FryedOreo

So every single time my hand shoots up, but because I always had my hand in the air to answer the question, it got to a point where they wouldn't call on me anymore because they wanted other people to have space to do it, right? And so even if I had questions that didn't anyway, it didn't go well
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:13

@SeekingPlumb

So I'm going to give you an example. When I was talking about the belief week in this week and that week when I talked about the belief, you had said you didn't consider it a social construct. And that stuck with me because although what we do with the belief can turn into a social construct in and of itself is human, I would feel that it's something intrinsically we all have. So I felt you were technically right

@FryedOreo

That's just funny to say out loud. Anyway. That's a long time to not have had something on the grill. Do you know? There's just something about it that's really tasty. I don't even remember what that tastes like anymore. Anyway, I'm living through you vicariously as I imagine your barbecue today and then it microwaved on Monday. I just remembered something. If you want to show, like a magic trick to your kids?
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15

Welcome to Swell!

Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:28

@SeekingPlumb

I've been on some apps, Christina, where they've stripped away the ability to respond. You can't even respond. It's wild to me. And then you only can make three posts a day. Just imagine that. Imagine if Swell only gave us three posts a day. So it's like I've been in so many different alternate universes of Swell that having it here is nice, but at the same time, it could be better yeah

@FryedOreo

It's been a long time since I don't remember very much. And then to where it is now, I'd like to think that I know there are so many apps that started with good intentions. I just hope that these carry through and maybe, just maybe, the app will draw people who are really interested in connecting with one another and not misinformation, not hate, not whatever right? We can have disagreements, but we don't have to be nasty about it
Farika B Redux
@FarikaB_Redux · 3:03
I was not invited. But I'm inviting myself to this. And I am a person who likes to debate. I personally distinguish debating versus arguing, right? Like I don't like to argue. And by arguing I mean I don't like to I have a point, you have a point, I understand your point, I let you have your point. Make a point. You make a point that to me is debating. Arguing is I have a stance, you have a stance
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:15

@FarikaB_Redux

You. After careful consideration, the panel of judges of the voices inside my head confirmed that it is permissible that you have responded to this swell. It's okay. That was outlined in The Swell. So you're fine, and you seem to have great perspective on debating