I mean what I say. And I say what I mean. I feel what I feel. Why should I have to suppress that to make you feel better? If it's something that I feel, why is it important for you to feel better in how I feel? That's just how we're conditioned, programmed and conditioned to take into consideration other viewpoints than your own. But I say to you today, apologize less, express and feel more
Carissa Pike
@carissa · 1:01
And so many people have told me that I need to stop apologizing. It's definitely a bad habit, and I need to just save it for when I'm actually really sorry if I actually did something wrong, not for these smaller things or things I can't control or whatever. But I really love this topic and I'd love to hear what other people have to say about it
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:14
I have some theories that aren't scientifically proven or there's no scientific method behind it, but it does sort of feel at times that some people can just be conditioned to be a certain way. It's not so much something they deliberately do. It's something that they're kind of taught, something that you're kind of taught, something you see in public. You'll hear somebody else say it and you'll hear your parents say it or whatever
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:10
Generational trauma. For me, that seems really vague, for we haven't been able to clinically diagnose anyone specifically or any route specifically to confidently state such a claim. Trauma would be more in the professional of psychiatrist, and it could be an example of nature and culture, but I don't really see how that can appeal to people of color specifically, as that really just seems like a condition of being human, for we all are people that experience the emotional spectrum
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Krish Sehrawat
@KrishSeh511 · 0:35
I actually accepted everything that you said. Because apologies is when you do a mistake. I mean, when you don't do a mistake, your heart doesn't say you do a mistake. You. Your whole body doesn't say you. It's just a metaphor. When your whole body doesn't say you've done a mistake, then why do we just say that I apologize. I mean, that is just pushing you back. That is just. I making you feel bad
While people who aren't people of color can experience generational trauma, I do think it's more prevalent within POC communities, especially speaking from a black perspective. Active things such as shadow slavery, where sexual assault, physical things of that sort can manifest themselves into depression, anxiety, things of that sort and can affect your parenting styles, that can be handed down through generations and generations, and that can affect the way in which you express yourself emotionally
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:26
I think it still harkens back to that, regardless of the generational trauma or the gender or whatever it may be. All these things I consider to be filters that don't allow you to be yourself, and that is the vulnerability, I guess for some people that can or women I guess in some ways can encounter is saying this thing or doing this thing, where can it affect their standing? I guess that stuff to me is more exciting rather than fearful