@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:19

Do you live alone?

But yeah, how was your experience living alone if you do live alone and if not, do you want to live alone? You can keep it between us. I'm just curious. I want to know what song your mind. I don't know what song that is. I forget, but somebody out there probably. I don't know if you'll know, because not a lot of you all are black out there

#singlelife #freedom #silence

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@dzakyem
Dzakye M
@dzakyem · 3:52

@Dewuan Housework and relationship / Presence = comfort or restriction?

Hello. D one? Yes. That's a personal question. And it isn't that clear to me in what direction you're heading for or what your incentives to speak about it. Some people say that living together kills your relationship because if your partner or yourself have a different way of living in relation to keeping the house or the apartment clean and getting organized to have something in your fridge, then it can bring up quite a lot of issues. Yes
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 2:58

What’s your answer to the question at hand? @dzakyem

But for me, it has become some of the more peaceful times I think, especially these Sunday mornings before I head to work. It's always a time of reflection for me to kind of start, because this is how I start the week, usually Sundays. I would like to know, do you live alone or do you live with somebody? And how is that impacting you for better or worse, all that good stuff
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@AverageJoe
Average Joe
@AverageJoe · 3:10
We don't have any problems that way now. Maybe I'm incredibly fortunate, but I think that that's what relationships are supposed to be. And so maybe that's what happened in your case, too. Maybe you were just in the wrong relationship, and it soured your opinion of things. Who knows? Maybe you're like, you don't know me, man. She was the greatest thing that ever happened to me. How dare you
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@dzakyem
Dzakye M
@dzakyem · 2:33

@Dewuan Trying to be clearer this time...

And I also wanted to say that in a relationship, sometimes women experience other couple or the living together differently than men because possibly when they were children, possibly girls miss their father more than the boys miss their mother. If a other is at home constantly, then the presence of the mother is always there. So later on in life, men tend to resent the presence of the woman. They didn't feel free when they were young, free from the mother's presence
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:50

I don’t care what "they say", I want to hear your experience! @dzakyem

Yeah. Zachium, thank you for responding again. I just want to interesting that you didn't answer the question. Do you live alone? And you went about out these ways of talking about something that didn't have anything to really do with what I was talking about. And you're reading into the hashtag freedom and what that could imply. And you're talking about my mom or asking if it Rayga Bell with my mother being Domineering, which she wasn't
@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:53

Yes, I am probably more selfish than you. 😆 @AverageJoe

Average Joe, thank you for responding to the swell and the judgment I felt from your judgment was heavy. You said when I hear people say relationships are hard, I say, Well, they shouldn't be work at all. That was like a subtle way of saying, hey, you're doing it wrong, buddy. I found that interesting. And also am I to believe that you lived alone for a week? That's not enough time to really say that's a break off my shoulders
@dzakyem
Dzakye M
@dzakyem · 1:03

@Dewuan

Hello D one. Yes. You know, if I had answered directly, I don't live alone, but somehow I live alone because we have some space. Yes. Perhaps I should have done that. I don't think I wanted to sound educated, but with somebody is asking a question and you have the impression I had the impression. This can't be it. I mean, this can't be a simple question, because if it were, would my answer be interesting?
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@AnimangaNation
ANIMANGA Nation
@AnimangaNation · 1:48
This is Eman, four and three from animanga other nation. Do I live alone? No. I actually live with my parents, my mom and my father. I guess you can count two dogs and one cat. I don't know if that counts. Do I want to live alone? Yes, I do want to have my own place. I do want to have separate houses. When I eventually move out, I would say I'm 28 years old. So I just like that independence
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@Mtwadamela
Mtwadamela Ijogo
@Mtwadamela · 0:00
You
@AverageJoe
Average Joe
@AverageJoe · 3:43
And then you're finished with that. I can't suggest what other people want out of a relationship because we're all different. And I believe that's exactly how I ended my swell by saying, Well, I don't know. We're all different. Who knows?
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 2:13

You’ll have that soon. @AnimangaNation

So I remember kind of going at it prior, like, kind of starting to look at the places, but I was overwhelmed with the responsibility and the effort you got put into getting your place. All the would be and whatnot that came with it. It just was lost upon me. I never actually did get my own place. I was paying rent at my mom's, though at that time. And I understand where you're coming from
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:58

Thank you for your responses. 🤝 @AverageJoe

I mean, I guess you've already explained, but it's interesting that you had got that from that. And then when I was talking about my situation, I was just sharing my experience and how I became how I got into a situation where I lived alone. So I thought that was important to mention, I could have just easily said, do you live alone or do you live with somebody? But that's boring as h***
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:59

Troll 🙋🏾‍♂️ @RealPokerMan

That chaos is interesting to me. It never gets old. But as I've gotten older myself, I'm not as thirsty for it as I used to be. Again, I was talking about living alone. I didn't really think that was a trollish topic, but for whatever reason, Average Joe got triggered by the topic and by what I had said to him in his response to my topic. So yeah. Was it what I was looking for for him? No, not really. No
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@Mtwadamela
Mtwadamela Ijogo
@Mtwadamela · 1:54
Okay. Okay. So so you admit, Dewuan, that you do not. I'm just getting into this conversation. I've been listening. I did comment earlier, but, you know, it's getting funny now, so, you know, I just want to join in real quick. I want to comment now, Dewuan, first off, it's okay to be a troll, man, but have some relevant s*** to say. At least you know what I mean
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@AverageJoe
Average Joe
@AverageJoe · 1:46
Ah, sorry, man. I've been out all day. You know, I got home from work and I went out with friends and went to a Mead bar. We drank cider and we drank Mead. And I'm catching up on the idea that you are are a troll. You're a known troll, right? And I guess the only thing I want to ask is how old are you? Are you seriously an adult that goes out and tries to be a troll?
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@Mtwadamela
Mtwadamela Ijogo
@Mtwadamela · 1:50
Try to spark something that will affect some positive f****** change, man. Instead of just adding on to the bullshit that's already out here, we already know it's the bullshit m*********** is out here trolling and doing all kinds of weird s***. But I guess everybody has to really play their position, because for me, I was kind of entertained until pokerman put a boy on blast
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@Brooke415
Brooke C.
@Brooke415 · 1:44

I like an INTJ who can give the BM credit for being a Nostradamus lol

It's having a little bit of mystery, a little bit of separateness. That's just my personality. So I'm in agreement. And the longer you go on your own, the more comfortable you are. That way, it takes a lot of compromising to be in someone's face all the time. Not ideal. So there's a time to be separate and a time to be together. And I enjoy living alone
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:55

@Mtwadamela

It was silent, and I've had this happen with other people, and I can understand that can kind of be a way as it can be hostile. So when you have responded with the audio, I kind of figured the direction you're going in, so it's all good. Honestly, man, hey, this is a platform we all can use, right? We all can use social audio. This is just how I'm using it
@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 1:41

🙇🏾 @AverageJoe

Average Joe. Thank you so much for responding to the swell. Once again, I know it's conflict is not easy, but I can respect a man who can handle conflict well. And you had mentioned you asked about my age. I think you already know I'm younger than you, right? I'm 36. So I'm guessing you must be like 50 something, right? 60. 50. Something like that. Boomer. No. Are you a Boomer? Whichever one fits the bill
@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:26

INFJ! @Brooke415

I never actually heard the original song yet, but there you go for that. I wasn't of that idea initially, but my ex certainly was. She ended up wanting her own bedroom. And I remember I was very hurt by that. But no, I kind of understand it now to have some identity of you and some sort of thing that is you still. And I mean, that's what makes you stronger with somebody is having your own
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@AbeMartinez
Abraham Martinez
@AbeMartinez · 4:49

@RealPokerMan @AverageJoe

Don't shut other door. That would be unwise. That's why I've never even considered blocking him. I may have muted at times just because I couldn't listen for very long, but I always turned it back on because it's always interesting. Sometimes he goes into huge posting sprees, but that's okay. That's who he is. And I find it interesting
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@AbeMartinez
Abraham Martinez
@AbeMartinez · 3:04

When I lived alone

Alright. So now I'm going to try to answer your question. I have lived alone, but I do not currently live alone right now. I'm perfectly happy living with my wife and kids and I don't see that changing anytime soon. I found that the times that I did live alone were some of the most depressing and difficult times for me. Yeah, that's when I remember being more depressed than ever
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@Mtwadamela
Mtwadamela Ijogo
@Mtwadamela · 2:12
Dewan, man. You sitting up talking like everybody's stupid. Like, don't nobody have no type of intelligence to figure out what you're doing because you're just so advanced and far above everybody else that we just can't comprehend what other the f*** you're doing. Stop, bro. Stop. The world does not need another smartass n*****. I'm just being real with you
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@Mtwadamela
Mtwadamela Ijogo
@Mtwadamela · 0:09
Oh, and by the way, the way you pronounce My name is MTO. De Mela. It means he who greets with fire
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:44

Thank you, good sir. 🤝 @AbeMartinez

But anyway, thank you and I will get to your other swell as soon as I get out of this house because I'm was kind of running late right now being on here
@Mtwadamela
Mtwadamela Ijogo
@Mtwadamela · 0:34
Man. Eman. What a clown. Come on, Bruh. We try to make some progress as black people right now. We not trying to get it set back another hundred years because you don't hear it with some childish s*** that you say you can't even explain why you do. Come on, bro. You got to move better than that. You got to move better. Mtwo. De Mello. That's me. I move better, man
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:29

ISFP @AbeMartinez

I'm pretty sure you have strong tradition with your family. Now, with you and your wife and your kids are certain things that you all do as a family that's very sacred to you. And you build a lot of photo album in a way, you have this photo album of experience for you. And these things have deep meaning for you, like photographs and whatnot probably. Okay, I'm going all over the place, but something tells me you're a lead introverted sensing type
@MerTroutt
Meranda Troutt
@MerTroutt · 0:14
Nope. I live with like 40 elephants and ten geese and 14 Ducks, aka two boys that are less than a year and a half apart
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@MerTroutt
Meranda Troutt
@MerTroutt · 0:04
And at least four Pterodactyls. At least maybe six
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:06

I appreciate your passion 🔥 Mtwadamela

Mtois. Mtwadamela. Thank you for sharing with me your name and the meaning behind it, and it definitely suits you. The passion. I don't remember saying that I was smarter than anyone or above anyone. I just said sometimes I can be misunderstood and my views can be different. I'm not smarter than anyone else. I'm a high school dropout, so I'm pretty sure you all got College degrees and passed high school. Right?
@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 1:08

🐘 🐅 @MerTroutt

Well, Miranda, it's good to know that you see so much in your children and the power that they willed. And you describing them as having, you know, the force of a lot of large creatures in the Animal Kingdom
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 1:09

Thank you @AbeMartinez and @RealPokerMan

Well, I want to tack a Martinez here. Thank you once again. And I'm also going to tack you, poker man, and I'm just gonna keep it short. I am who I am. I never said I was anything else. You are who you are. Are we even now, or will me continuing to admit to what I am be a problem? If so, that's your personal beliefs. You know what to do. You've been on these ads before
@Mtwadamela
Mtwadamela Ijogo
@Mtwadamela · 4:41
It's actually a good thing because, you know it as well as I do. The more controversy sales controversy. That's why Jerry Springer is so popular. Like I said, man, I don't knock you for nothing. You're doing. You don't get under my skin. I was responding according to what you were saying that's all. And I have passion about certain things that I heard you say. Did you say specifically that you were smarter than me?
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@Mtwadamela
Mtwadamela Ijogo
@Mtwadamela · 2:28
And you know what? Let me say something else real quick, because I don't know how old you are. I'm 53. I don't know how old you are, but let me just say this. I used to live by myself for years, so don't know if you have kids with you or if you're just literally alone. But I do know how that can be when you are alone with nobody, because I have been there. I live by myself for years
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@SeekingPlumb

Amazing... @Dewuan @Mtwadamela @AverageJoe @RealPokerMan & every1 listening

It's also ironic, assuming that most of you are here for the purpose of having dialogue. You really can't have honest, genuine conversation without listening to the other person. Just my two cent. Not that it was asked for, but there you have it. And Secondly, I will say this. I do not consider Dewuan a troll. I haven't known him as long as some of you have. I've known him since my anchor days. I'd say at least four years
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:59

Momac.. is no longer here. 🤷🏾‍♂️ @RealPokerMan

You heard average Joe mention that buzzword troll, and you just Ray for it. It was like you were finally able to not be alone in this. And you said they a bunch of people. Me and Momack, we still are tight. I talked to him every now and then. He's out there in New York. It went through a lot with the COVID and everything hit New York pretty hard, but, yeah, he's living a real life. He's not a social media dude
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 0:06

Thank you for your feedback. @RobbinMilne

Well, Robin, thank you for your thoughts. I appreciate you commenting on this. Well
@AverageJoe
Average Joe
@AverageJoe · 2:41

@SeekingPlumb

This goes out to Christina. I'm really perplexed at how you listen to all this and figured out how everybody is equally to blame for what happened here. Other guy puts up a swell me and Zaki try to respond to it, and then he decides he's going to run his condescending a** internet gimmick like other dude has a gimmick or something, right. And then we go on to learn. Well, he labels what I said to him as being triggered
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 0:44

Wow..... @RealPokerMan

Yeah. Poker, man. You cussing. You're yelling. I really don't know what to say to that. Honestly. Like what? Seeking plum. Really? I don't know, man. This Internet stuff is something else it can get. You really caught up in other heat of the moment, feelings and emotions. But I this is one h*** of a thread. I'll say that
@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 0:27

What else is on your mind? @RealPokerMan

So how much more do we have of this to do? Poker, man? What else can you think of that was atrocious that I did. That is unforgivable. Let's do it, man. What else? You seem to have a lot on your mind today. Let it all out. That's what we're here for. To grow
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@Brooke415
Brooke C.
@Brooke415 · 1:39

Oh my.

Oh, wow. I probably have nothing to say at this point. I don't even want to reply because I hear a couple of guys cussing. Devon, what did you do? It sounds like you all are playing into whatever type. If it's true what you're saying about him, he's some kind of dramically. And I don't know why you're instigating further. You probably want to just walk away and ignore him at that point
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 1:37

Thank you all!!! What an amazing Swell this has been. 🙏

I'm thankful for everybody here. I appreciate all of you for commenting and I Harbor no ill will towards any one of you. Honestly, thank you all. I appreciate the conversation so far. This has been a blast. Honestly. Honestly. Wow. The range of emotion within this particular topic. And we didn't have to talk about Donald Trump once. Who would have thunk it that people can feel outside of politics. I mean, really, I almost should just retire from Swell
@Mtwadamela
Mtwadamela Ijogo
@Mtwadamela · 3:54
Hopefully he got a GED or something, but I can just listen to him and tell. He probably watches a lot of TV and talk shows and listens to a lot of podcasts. And he probably sees himself as this great podcaster, reaching out to the world, challenging everybody. But it's just he's by himself. He's sitting by himself alone
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:09

@Mtwadamela

But yeah, hopefully this helps because you had mentioned a couple of times the companionship thing like no companionship is fine with me. Actually, I had broken up with someone because it was a little too much companionship for me. So I guess there is certain healthy levels that I need to kind of get used to more with that in terms of the opposite sex and stuff. My preferred sex that I like of gender and all that stuff. But anyway, what else? Yeah
@Mtwadamela
Mtwadamela Ijogo
@Mtwadamela · 0:22
Everybody say it with me mtoire. Ray it again. It's DeMelo very simple
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 0:49

I think I nailed it. @Mtwadamela

So if it's not on a Coke can, it's going to be hard for me to get it. So my apologies. I'll eventually nail it down. Let's try it again. Mtwa. De Mela gold. Right. I think I got it now. M Twah Damela
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@Mtwadamela
Mtwadamela Ijogo
@Mtwadamela · 0:03
Very good young man. Very good
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@Eman
Eman Harazin
@Eman · 2:38

I'm fighting for it

Not all, just few cases. And some people say that. No. Why do do you live alone? Have to at least live with someone? I mean, for example, I want to live alone and for me, because I want to live alone. I want to get married, unfortunately, just to leave my parents'house. And that is something that I don't want. So I'm fighting just to travel, to live alone, to be the master of my decision
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@FryedOreo
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:32

Keep the fight alive! @Eman

Is it a way of you trying to convince your parents that this is a path that you want to take and that they should love you for it and to h*** with what others are saying. You had also mentioned that as well within your community and culture, that it can be frowned upon to seek independence and want to live alone. You get ostracized to a certain extent
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