My posts have been a constant stream of just stuff. When it comes down to my writing, my movie reviews, my opening conversations and dialogue about all this different stuff, because it's fun. It's interesting to see where everyone's different mindsets are at and also have that encouragement that I've been getting to actively put myself out there and not be so scared to do so. So let me know where your headspace is at. Have you recently made new friends in your adult life?
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 4:55
And so I go onto this app, and I have found that on this one app, they have a side for making friends with people and another side for looking for someone to date. And I just randomly was like, okay, yeah, you can put it out there on that side too. And there's one lady that I've been talking to that unfortunately lives 42 minutes in the in the other direction. But we are planning on meeting up
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 2:38
They're spread. And I love the relationships that we did cultivate from this platform. And you can cultivate relationships from this platform 150%, but they're just not right next door. But it does help on you practicing friendship and what you bring to the table and what you expect to receive. So just hang on to the people that you find that you value that have the values that you want in your life
Franklin Finds Out
@FFO · 4:53
I have to laugh because as soon as you started talking about a dating app that has a friendship set, I was like, sounds like you're talking about bumble. But that being said, you're right. A lot of it. It's easy to make friends online. This is something that I learned at a very early age and I think that's probably another contributing factor as to why it can be difficult to make friends in the real world, so to speak
DAYDAY Mcclenton
@KINGPOPOFLA · 2:08
Hey, how you doing? Thanks for the invite. Well, making friends in my dark life, I think it was, like, neutral, you know what I'm saying? Because of the life I live. I'm well loved and stuff like that, you know what I'm saying? But good morning. Now, when you move to another state trying to make friends, it's kind of weird, you know what I'm saying?
Franklin Finds Out
@FFO · 1:51
And then to your point, just making sure the people you f****** trust are actually worth putting that trust in. Because I've been burned before. I think all of us have. So it can be a dangerous game when you're trying to meet new people and you're like, this is also I should actually make a point. I used to always talk about like I used to hang out with a lot of my coworkers and stuff, especially
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 3:12
It's like crazy driving out there. So locally, you're going to have to go to the bar. And I am the quintessential quintessential sorry life of the party. I am when I say people love me. They love my energy. When I go with friends to the bar, which has been a very long time ago, but we end up with everybody at our table by the end of the night, I will go to the bathroom and come back with four people
Franklin Finds Out
@FFO · 4:55
Just do the d*** thing, and you'll be fine. Because the reality is and I've experienced this plenty of times go out. Do the thing. Begrudgingly. Sometimes you'll just be like, oh, I don't want to do this. But then you f****** get there and you're like, F***, I'm so glad I did this
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 5:00
And I meet people because I'm doing things and I always go to these events and I'm always collecting someone's number. We're exchanging numbers or we follow each other on social media with the intention of connecting and possibly building something, but then it falls short. I don't know how to do the follow up. I'm not the best at calling someone and saying, hey, it's Angela. Remember we met on Clubhouse and we exchanged numbers. I don't know how to do that
Jordan Tepper
@JordanTepper · 4:08
I was actually at one yesterday and collected a lot of cards, made a lot of contacts, and I'm on Clubhouse, but I'm not on Clubhouse. At one time, I was pretty active on it. Now it's just I can't find anything I can relate to. But now for the follow up, if you have their card, you have their number. Hi. It's Ange. Great to have met you at such and such on such and such app
Jordan Tepper
@JordanTepper · 2:51
But you and I, if we're together in real life, we would be friends because I think we understand each other, and I think we have a lot to relate to. Well, have a great Friday, and I'll be here in your response
Jordan Tepper
@JordanTepper · 4:17
And to be one, you just have to ask. And it's not a cult. I'm sure if you do some Google searches, you're going to find some right information, some wrong information, but I would love to talk to you more about it. I would love to be in that book club. I love the horror genre, and right now I'm reading a book called Alice, which is like an alternative way, like Alice in Wonderland. I love Stephen King
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:34
So I think, like I said, we're all kind of in this awkward. How do you follow up? But thank you so much. Also, you mentioned your birthdays in a couple of weeks and I'm curious when's your birthday, because so is mine. My birthday is June 5. And so I'm just wondering if your birthday is around the same time
Jordan Tepper
@JordanTepper · 1:06
You. Yeah, I can totally see that following on social media. Even when I was at this networking event yesterday, I was like, Are you on Instagram? Okay, here's my instagram. I got your instagram. We'll follow each other on the gram. I think that's a new way of you of keeping in touch because you could still see what they're posting and what they're up to and staying in their comments
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 0:20
I love it. Big gemini energy. I am a textbook Gemini. Like literally my picture is probably in a dictionary or the zodiac code from Gemini. So it's like so cool to meet other people who obviously share personality traits. I love it. I love it
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 4:19
I think it's what I've programmed myself and other people have programmed me to believe about the person that goes into the bar alone, right? Or whatever. Alone. It's a little bit of social construct, I think, as well, because of the way things are viewed or were viewed when I was growing up. My dad no problem walking into a bar alone. A female different, like I said, east Texas, long, long time ago
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:27
We have, like, this chat group and messenger, and of course, after the lunch, everybody's, like, on fire, wanting to chat all the time and share but now it's been a month, and all the conversation has died down, and nobody has talked about making plans to do anything else for the month of May. And so that's pretty much how adult friendship goes for me
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 4:10
Dive bars are amazing. And the thing about a dive bar is usually there's going to be a handful of people in there, and that handful of people are going to be mostly people that came by themselves. And I will be the chick that's over there helping up the drunk that just fell off the bar stool that nobody else really wants to talk to. So that's an idea. I didn't even think about that. But going to a little die bar sometimes, that'll be fun
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 0:19
So I had to add I'm going to need you all to listen to the song that I added. Dive bar beauty queen. It is so good. I love it. I love it. And I don't know why she's touching my stomach, but we were out at the bar that night, so that's when I actually had friends. Or actually, that's a coworker. But I hope you enjoy the music. Let me know
Franklin Finds Out
@FFO · 3:00
It's funny how you talk about, like, you get together and like, oh, my God, we should do this more often because I hear that all the time too. Like, when I've hung out, like, my girlfriend's friends and stuff, I'm like, I really like all of her other friends and everything, especially since they're all couples too, so it's easier
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:58
But when it's your mom, it's a little bit different. And they couldn't be there for me, and they knew me. And even though I'm a very private person to some aspects and I don't like to show my feelings, they knew me enough to know that I needed help. I really did. And so, like you, I went through a phase where I had to work on myself
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:59
And we'll reach out to them and there'll be over 80 plus comments of yes message me DM me. I like going to brunch. I like going to festivals, I like traveling, I like doing this, I like going to the gun range and crickets. You won't hear anything else from this person. Which goes back to what I said sometimes people like those labels because it's just a security blanket
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 0:33
Hey JL, I was curious. Do you have you just y'all just have the one base group, right? But what if you do branch out in the sense that you have different pages for different areas or different groups for different areas that can then merge all together but be kind of maintained by others over that area? I don't know if that makes sense, but that's a good way to spread out in my opinion
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:06
Hey, y'all, I'm looking for a recipe for such and such. Anybody have a bomb recipe they want to share with me? Things were happening like that in the chat. It was like, yes, engagement connectedness. We love it. And then it quickly transitioned. I think we had a good 72 hours of that. And it quickly transitioned to just people posting business cards or business flyers or what they're selling or what service they provide, so on and so forth
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 0:51
But if you did want to branch further out, I think that's just a great idea to have everywhere. But I just appreciate that you are doing it at all, because that's a good thing to have. So good luck with it. For real, I hope every thing works out good
Franklin Finds Out
@FFO · 3:22
It's just an unofficial organization, right? So in my mind, the first thing that I think of is and I think this could also be just indifferences in age gaps too, because what you have could be broken down and it kind of serves the same purpose of like, meetup. You could even have discords and subreddits. It kind of serves the same function, right?
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:42
And just hearing it from you and the way how you've put your spin on it has been confirmation. We appreciate it. And, yes, I agree. When people seem to interpret something as a free for all, when there's no perceived value, right, when there's no supply and demand and the value is cheapened, people tend to take it for granted. And when you have an entity, so to speak, where you have to sow a seed into, it becomes more intentional
Franklin Finds Out
@FFO · 3:49
And that's kind of like Sales 101, right? You're going to have tons of no's before you finally get that. Yes. But the reality is, if you set up this, you set X amount of dollars, you set a time, you set a date, you put all the information out there. Focus on the people that show up. Don't focus on trying to sell it to the people that are asking these questions
Laura Monk
@ThriveLauraMonk · 2:45
And as far as what works, I have found that the best thing for meeting new people and then possibly having a friendship blossom out of that would be to join clubs, let's say a bowling league, for example, or an art club or maybe joining support groups or a church or some sort of meetup activities. You can go on meetup and go to activities, joining classes, things like that