Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 5:00
The things people do not tell you abput pretty privilege, the glow up, and becoming THAT Girl’
You're like this overall amazing person, the person that you were probably in the inside of that shell of a shy little nerdy girl, or whatever the case it was before you blew up. Or maybe you were a chubby girl, and now you're fit and you have less acne because your diet is better and you're taking better care of yourself. So whatever that person that you were before, just because you were a little fat girl doesn't mean you were ugly, necessarily
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 5:00
And once I got those things, I still struggle with the same insecurities I struggle with from the puberty years. That was not that favorable and how people view me because of it. So when I started to date, like, even though I did have boyfriends when I was in 7th grade and stuff like that, but when I started to date in high school, it was kind of like, do this person really like me?
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 0:34
Last one making this short, but just know that that's going to be something that they're going to throw in the mix. They're going to bring up the fact that, hey, your hair is not done today. What's up with you? Or they're going to say something about your appearance. They're going to always expect a certain level of pretty from you, so keep that in mind. But I want you guys to chime in
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:36
I love it. I absolutely love where I'm at and where I'm going, my level of confidence. And again, not that I'm confident every single moment of the day. There are days and there are moments that I've been authentic about those on this platform and also in real life. I'm just like, oh, I'm overthinking and analysis, paralysis and all the other things
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:59
But once they get a taste and experience of where I'm at in that girl status, it then shifts to them misinterpreting my actions and my statements. From a space of insecurity I'm not even going to say jealousy, but from a space of insecurity, I am what she just said and what she has done. And a lot of times the things that I'm saying and doing is about me. I'll get silence. All of a sudden they're not available
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 2:42
So just telling people, hey, do your face like this, wear this type of clothing, work this type of job, or start this kind of business and you are that girl, it's a little bit misleading. We have to do the other work. We have to know that we're going to lose people. We're going to have people that say, who do you think you are? Now we're going to have people that are saying that you are not anything