@everythingjay
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 4:33

Dating Chronicles: Can you date someone unemployed?

Because if I had it outlined, then I wouldn't even have this much questioning to do, right? Because I would already have been told him, like, hey, I don't want to talk to you. And when I originally met him, I told him, like, I recently got done dating someone else. I just want to kind of breathe a little bit. And he was kind of adamant about that. Now I know he will go away
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@DearAuntyAng
Ann-Gela Kaye
@DearAuntyAng · 4:49

Girl, no! Heck nawl!

But I like to listen in because I like to hear what men are saying to other men and about other men. One of the things that they always say, that men date at the level that they are. So a lot of these women who will accept the guy with no job, I mean, no job, honey, not even a minimum wage job, what he do all day but no job? He'll date you if you let him
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@DearAuntyAng
Ann-Gela Kaye
@DearAuntyAng · 1:54
We'll let that person get to where they need to be, because if they're pounding the pavement looking for a job, which I hope they are, that should be enough of their focus right now. They should not be trying to date anybody. And if they are, that means they're not dating seriously, and they're not dating long term
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@Renee_Slay
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 1:39

@everythingjay

You. So anytime that I have because, you know, I've been in horrible relationships, but anytime that I have accepted a thing, right, that like like somebody not having their s*** together as far as a job or something, they always ended up a problem. Him and I was excusing the problem. And the excusing the problem is my problem, you know what I'm saying? So my opinion is he's been here that long and he hasn't gotten a job
@MsColes77
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:23
Hey, wow. Your dating adventures are just that, they're adventures. As far as dating someone without a job, I would first need to know why they don't have a job. If they are between jobs, meaning they got laid off or something unexpected happened with their job situation, and they are hitting the pavement looking for a job, and right now they just don't have one. I would be friends with them first before I would start dating them
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@everythingjay
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 4:13

Part Two! Dating Cheonicles: The unemployed brother dropped me today!

I thank God for my employment, and I thank God for actually being able to find a part time employment this fast because I needed it for the car. The economy is definitely going through a lot of things right now, and I'm understanding of that. I just feel like it's so weird out here in the dating world. Like, I have people that I feel like are not communicating enough
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@DearAuntyAng
Ann-Gela Kaye
@DearAuntyAng · 3:30

@everythingjay

But I had to start a job and it's actually the same job I have now. But I've been promoted six times because I'm serious about working and what have you. But I couldn't go to a funeral, not after work. I got out with the family doing everything, but was the first day of a job. So I don't know who passed. He said family member. Doesn't sound like it was his mom or something like that
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@everythingjay
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 5:00
And to be completely honest, like, with him, I just wasn't liking him that much anyhow. Outside of the fact that he has all of these other red flags and character flaws, I really just didn't find an interest in our conversations. He would say things like, it doesn't matter. I can be with anyone because I'm like, what if you don't like this? What if you don't like this about me?
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@NeophyteSavant
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 2:34

@everythingjay

Especially if you are enabled body, especially if you don't have any children, or even if you have a child or two or whatever the case may be. The kids are in school. I know sometimes times are hard
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@NeophyteSavant
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 1:37

@everythingjay

Hi. So I wanted to come back on here and add something. I mentioned that I can date someone that's unemployed, provided that they're driven, motivated, inspired to do something other than not be employed. Because I don't know how a person got that way. I don't know a person's circumstances. We just went through the COVID pandemic. Some people lost their jobs. A lot of people lost their jobs, and many were unable to bounce back
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@everythingjay
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 4:58
And I've seen people actually grow with men that actually dated one of their clients. They're still together to this day, so it can happen. But it's like, you got to tread lightly with it's one of those situations where you got to tread lightly with dating someone like that. You got to just figure out their character
@everythingjay
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 3:53
You're in such a bad position where you can't work and you can't even have a conversation about doing basic dating things. It may not be the best best time, but thank you so much for chiming in. I really appreciate your feedback. Bye
@Andrea_Speaks
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:56

#dating

And so I understood it later on. But, yeah, if somebody doesn't have a job, I would say let them get themselves together. If it's meant to be, it'll be. You can remain friends. But I wouldn't be romantic with them and definitely wouldn't be sexual with them. I would just keep it on a friendship level. Maybe you could encourage them and then go from there
@everythingjay
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 3:47
And I get we all go through something, but I guess I'm the person that it depends on what level of s*** I'm going through to be focused on trying to get with somebody. And I'm just being 100% honestly, it just depends. And for him, I felt like he was just all over the place in no position to look for somebody
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