Losing Pieces of Your Identity
I think what I'm kind of realizing now is that losing these two key pillars of my life is making me kind of reevaluate who I am and what I mean to others and how I identify with myself. So just wanted to start the conversation about how grieving also involves grieving a part of yourself that is dying with these lost connections and lost pieces and how birthing a new you. How does that process look? What does that process look like? What are the challenges of birthing that new person?
@aqdjwbak · 3:50
And your brother sounded like you two are twins, and I can't even imagine. I've never had a sibling pass away, but I've had some close friends. Some close friends die. And not just the shock, but it is very much a piece of you that dies too, because you experience something and you want to turn and tell them or call them and you can't
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:39
Like, it kind of asks us to know if we're willing to love so deeply that we're willing to let go of the part of us that goes over to the other side. But I do think that it's like a physics problem. Energy and energy out. So nothing ever goes away. It just transforms. I've been there. I feel really compelled to just share a book I wrote with a therapist about grief that I actually read as an audiobook here as well
I miss you, I love you, I want us to work. But, yeah, his behaviors are the exact opposite. So just in a place of not wanting to be jerk back and forth, I have decided that the best thing to do is to just focus on that moving on piece, because how much can you really allow someone to bring you before you just say, enough is enough? And I want my marriage, I really do
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:58
And in my experiences of loss and on my healing journey, I have come to realize that what's important is to understand that all things come to an end. And if I'm prepared knowing that all things will come to an end. Whether it's I will retire from a job. Or move from one position to the next. Or move from a position to start a business. Or move from one level of my business and evolve to another. Or scale it to a different avenue. Et cetera
But I'm also going to have to, like you said, do the inner work, which is something I've been doing since starting therapy in January. And as my therapist and I continue to do that inner work, I'm uncovering more and more about myself that answers those questions of what was I looking for and what did I expect
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 2:24
Tap into Crystal Curry on Instagram. I believe it's crystal I e on instagram. I believe tomorrow, September 6, she's hosting a free. She hosts these periodic webinars. I know she's not taking new clients right now. I believe she is not. But she will host a couple of times a year virtual conferences and in person conferences, very small groups because the work is very intimate. In our work. I attended in person last fall. Her Healing the Inner Child conference
Not just my waistline, because it did, but you're. So you expand, and it's usually not a pleasant process. I'm sorry I don't have more input, but I just think it definitely goes through a lot of the heartache and grief in life. And the more love that you had, the bigger the heartache it'll be. But thank God for that, right? Again, I'm really sorry