The good news is that we are capable of unlearning the inner systems and they don't serve us, they don't nurture new ways of growing in our life. We humans can look like creating new systems to hold us when we are deemed to be at fault. Systems that are more compassionate and caring and not really a way of running away from your responsibilities, but creating a space where you acknowledge the responsibility, acknowledge the pain, deal with it, and move forward towards growth with the right mindset