Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:55
In Black American culture we tell our daughters to focus on books and not boys…but, are we wrong?
Some women will say it's because men are undependable, and if you don't have education and a way to fend for yourself, you'll be left without it. But I heard yesterday on another podcast that a famous feminist and I don't know her name actually retracted the statement about deadbeat dads and said that it was a lie
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 4:41
We teach them how to do things that will be conducive to a woman that would be productive in society. But with our boys, we allowed them to stay out late. We allowed them to smoke marijuana. We allowed them to curse. We allowed them to do things that we won't allow our daughters to do. So when you ask the question, what is it about boys that are made the enemy? Well, we are making them the enemy
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:53
It wasn't until we got past the civil rights movement that you started seeing an increase in fatherless homes. And so since I'm almost at my time, I'm going to leave it right there. There's so much that can be talked about. Girl, we could have a whole panel on this. But thank you so much for this topic, and thank you for inviting me to be a part
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 5:00
But we want our daughters to find good men, but where are they going to find them at? We don't even know what direction to point them in. We just speaking off the cuff because a lot of us are not good examples. I'm not saying all of us, so there's a lot of work to be done. But even though there's a lot of work to be done, I want to end this in a good note
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 2:03
Truth be told, it's not that big of a window. God bless those of us that are seeking love and marriage at this age. God bless us. God bless my aunt, who, at 76 will is engaged. Yes. It's like her third, I think actually her third husband. Fourth marriage because she was married to same guy twice. Thank God for those stories. But they are few and far between, right?
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:23
So women have a role to play in this, too, because if we're raising our sons and if our sons end up not being sugar honey iced tea, as they say, then who's responsible? Because if he was in your house, honey, you're responsible for that. So that's part one of my reply to you
Farika B Redux
@FarikaB_Redux · 4:57
I mean, I said single, young, unweded single or having children out of wedlock and especially before they were even out of high school or out of college. So she thought that she was doing me a favor by trying to steer me away from that stereotype
Farika B Redux
@FarikaB_Redux · 4:46
So then we have the black female. She becomes a different statistic. As I mentioned, she either wedlock or din, or she focuses on being independent because she can't depend on the quote unquote black man. And so she will start to grow older as the statistics have been placed by other people, and she ends up childless and unmarried, unweded and single, basically for the remainder of her life
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:36
It wasn't the family shows, it was the Living Single shows in the course of the 90s. It was a lot of that, really. I'm an independent woman, I'm a 90s girl. A lot of that was the theme, and a lot of people, I won't say fell into it, but they followed that path because it was like, yeah, I'm not going to get married