Like, lots of sharing. Now I have two children compared to my parents, five kids. And they both grew up almost in different generations because they are 16 years apart. So my sons don't have to share. They have their own room, they have their own clothes. They're not wearing hand me downs because of their ages. So did I in the attempt to give them something I didn't have. Am I now missing giving them the very valuable things that I have learned?
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:17
If you got to keep pushing for respect and you're going to respect me, if you got to keep doing that, then there might be something that you dropped as a parent where the respect doesn't come naturally. Maybe I'm just throwing it out there, I don't know. And so if you're so worried about losing respect or an authority, then it's probably something that you're not doing right as a parent. But just a thought, but I definitely appreciate your perspective
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 3:38
Hey, dear Aunt Ange, this is Erica here. Thank you for this swell. And I don't have children, so I can't speak on that portion of it. But what I can say is, children of today do have more stuff. They have more people who advocate for them. Whether it's, you know, for the better or for the worse, they are exposed to more
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 5:00
But I think I did go a little bit softer on him in some ways, and so for that, I do think I should have been harder on him. In some ways, that is a regret that I have. But in other ways, I think my children turned out just fine. My daughters, they're just fine. My son is he's okay. He's learning. He's going on his path
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:43
And no one really stopped to think, wait, is this kid capable of doing what I'm asking them to do? Is there a delay, is there what have you? And so, thankfully, now we do have more say, kids have more say. They definitely have more resources. A lot of it could be used as an excuse and entitlement, but you got to take the good with the bath. There's definitely more help, not only for children, but for parents
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:05
She talked about parents putting their fears on their kids. I grew up with a very strict mother, but I grew up with a very strict mother because she grew up with a non strict mother. My mother was allowed to do whatever she was big enough to do. And there was no bedtime. There was no come downstairs to get your breakfast in the morning
Jordan Tepper
@JordanTepper · 3:02
And we also tell them that when we're making dinner for them that they might not appreciate what we're eating right now, but a lot of their friends are probably not eating the same thing that we are. Not that we're eating extravagant or anything like that. But you wouldn't see another eight year old eating hummus or just like or Brussels sprouts. I don't know. We just eat a variety of vegetables and we just don't give our kids food
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:57
And I think that's an important thing, too, because there's so much around food insecurity, and not just, do you have enough to eat, but there's I want to say food trauma, if I can say such a thing. And just by way of example, once again, I have a friend who you we often eat because we're friends, right? We often go out to eat. And it was one time I sat and I enjoyed a meal
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 2:22
I regret the fact that I allowed them to do this or allowed them to do that. Because I look at my life and I say, oh, God, my parents would have killed me if I'd have done that or said that, or they wouldn't even have gave me the opportunity to try that. Okay? Do not try them. And these kids are so mouthy these days
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:43
It wasn't trash or anything like that. But I don't want them to have to feel like in order to get a couch, they got to go to a yard sale or something and get furniture or whatever, or else they won't have any furniture. They'll be sitting on the floor. I don't want them to feel that way. I want them to know that, okay, we have enough money for you to get a nice, modest furniture set
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:56
Hey, thanks for inviting me to this post. I will say that I do struggle with finding a balance, with discipline on my kids. But as far as a generational curse for my children that I'm breaking is I'm allowing them to be who they are. And I can say that I support them and I want them to succeed and I want them to be them. I don't want to be influence on who they're going to become
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:35
Heck, most of the time growing up, my mom didn't even have a car. So for my son to be able to drive himself to school and to work definitely overcame those generational things, and that was a blessing. I did help him with college. He earned a lot of scholarships, but I also know that there's so much money out there. And so I remember having this huge, thick packet of scholarships, and he wrote his essay
At least I should see that you are putting efforts. So then we'll buy it. So yes, buy giving them everything without efforts, I think we will make them weaker for the challenges in life. This is my perspective. Thank you
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 5:00
In addition, as far as being too easy on kids, I think that it's easy to think that in this day and time, kids have it easier than in the past, because children in this day and time don't seem like they don't have any boundaries, or they don't respect boundaries, and they don't respect boundaries. They don't care about consequences, none of that
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 2:52
Hey, Auntie Ange. Okay, so my time ran out, and I was to leave it at that. But I decided to come back. And to be more specific on What I was saying, I was actually thinking about doing a swell on father son affection. And, you know, back in the day, it didn't sound right. And even in this day and time, it may not sound right, because men, especially in the hood, they take things the way they take it
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 2:06
But we know, unfortunately, a lot of these adults ain't worth a darn, and they weren't back in our day. And so a lot of kids suffered because once the adult said something, that was it. And so now kids do have more voice, more of a voice. There's definitely more laws to protect us. But now the imbalance comes where I think it comes in, where now it's like you can't say nothing to a kid