Welcome to Auntie Ann's online dating series. Tip number one is to be yourself. Yes, it's a cliche, we've heard it all before, but this is really gonna help you have success with online dating. So let's go through this list. No filters. I know Snapchat has some amazing filters. Your face is gonna look super clear, your eyes are gonna look shiny and bright
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:49
I will say that on my photos, on my dating profiles, I give a variety of me with and without glasses, me on a regular day with makeup, me without makeup, and me when I'm going somewhere special and I got my lashes on and all this stuff, I do put a full body pic. Men still ask for other pics, a full body, even though I have pictures on there, like, showing, you know, just different personality, they still ask for pictures
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:06
But I think one guy did have their faces blurred, so that was pretty good. But I'm interested in that site for parents. I'm not actively dating right now, but I'm interested to know the name because that might be something in the future. Even though I always say I have kids on my profile. And, yeah, men do sometimes ask for different pictures, even if you've got full body pictures
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:22
So if I'm showing a picture of me standing by the falls to kind of give a guy an idea of how I like to do adventures and travel, well, that picture is eight years old, so I might want to include it in again my gallery of pics to kind of show, hey, this is how I enjoy life. But it's an old pick. My face looks different, my body probably looks different. So it's only fair to use most recent pics
Michael Knight
@MK1981 · 4:59
And I kind of noticed, like, there's some really key factors that I never noticed that I was doing when I was dating or even how I chose my wife and the same thing for my friends. But there is something that I am noticing. For one, I think, like, physically, I think men are very forgiving in terms of, like, looks
Michael Knight
@MK1981 · 3:35
You have to really take an easygoing approach to this because, remember, this is a stranger. You don't know them, so you're getting to know people. And it's like a step by step process, because that's another thing I used to find a lot of when I was dating, there was a lot of women who would want to jump into something really fast and serious, and you don't want that pressure, especially if you have a high pressure job
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:11
I'm like, what does it have to do with the price of tea in China? But anyway, getting back to online dating. Yes. Some of the things that you address I'm also going to do in subsequent parts. I mean, this series is probably going to be three parts at the most, but there are some things I'm going to address. But the height weight proportion is a really big issue because like you said, it is about your health
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:22
Okay. And I actually, I don't, I don't go hard for dating apps. I really don't, because I think people use it the wrong way. And that's kind of my heart in this series. It's there, but I think there's a way to use it and navigate it, because ultimately you want to get it offline and get with the person in real life
Michael Knight
@MK1981 · 3:26
Cause divorce isn't usually good for the guy. I mean, we have to actually start being a lot more honest about it. It's not good for the higher earning person. I don't really think it's gender based. I mean, nor like, you know, more than likely the man earns more, but it's really about who makes more money
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 0:40
But it's not a solely women oriented space. Not at all. Not for this series or most of my swells at all. So thank you so much for your replies thus far and any reply that you want to come through with in the future. Thank you
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 5:00
And then when it comes to health, you know, nobody's perfect. I went to school with people who were athletic, who were skinny. Guess what? When you get in your forties, them pounds compounded on for those ones who never had a problem with weight. One of the girls I went to high school with, she was so sweet. She was a cheerleader, so, you know, and she doesn't judge anyone. She never did. But now she is heavy
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:40
And then as far as the friendship thing, I have dated amongst friends. I don't suggest that either. I dated my best friend's brother for a long time, and it was back and forth. And then when I decided he wasn't good for me because he was on drugs and different things like that, and I backed up, it caused our friendship to be over. I was friends with her for over 20 years
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 2:03
Hey, Keitha, thanks again for chiming in again and offering your perspective. Definitely. All valid reasons for sure. The work thing, you do have to be careful of the job because a lot of jobs have a no fraternization policy and it usually includes definitely, you can't date below your rank. Right? So that's pretty much. But this works best
Michael Knight
@MK1981 · 3:15
That, um, the in your eyes song that Phil Collins. That's what I actually proposed to my wife to, like, sign over my head and all. All the stuff. So. Yeah, like, I'm a sucker for all that stuff, too, but that's just not real life. I think the most successful couples that I've noticed in dating are usually the people who go through this process
Michael Knight
@MK1981 · 4:04
So I kind of wanted to respond to a couple of things that you were saying in your response, and I appreciate you responding to me. And I was thinking more about what you were talking about with the health aspect. So you're right to a degree that, like, everybody's health is precarious. Like, none of us know where it can turn, but there are things we can do
MJ Brewer
@Mommas_Jungle · 1:20
I am so glad I do not date. First of all, I do not wear makeup. I don't take the time to put it on. It's a lot easier to put a filter on, even though it's lying, but I don't take. Second of all, you know the little head with the big body? Uh huh. That's me. I have a 20 pound head and a 600 pound body, so you lost me on that too. So that's three strikes
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:01
Hey, good morning, Michael. I'm driving, so I hope this comes through pretty clear. Yes. I love the group accountability you mentioned in your reply. That's pretty much what it's been traditionally, people. So, I mean, let's think about it. Before the Internet, what was online dating, it didn't exist. Right. I remember AOL popping up and people having chat rooms and things like that
Michael Knight
@MK1981 · 4:28
Because I think that's something we also really need to talk really deeply about, is, why are you attracted to the things you're attracted to? And this might not necessarily be for people like us in our forties, but it might be something that we kind of relay to younger people and try to kind of maintain that. Cause it's weird to me that we have so many educated women within our community, but they still go for and date dudes with, like, neck tattoos
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:30
There's a reason, whether it's mental, whether it's genetics or whatever, there's a reason, just like there's a reason why everybody is taking all these weight loss shots and soon they'll be popping up like gremlins because they don't. It's not being researched. I have a friend right now, actually, who is dying because she took those dang shots
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:26
I'm just looking for a good time. I think that's weird. The ones that have their dogs, especially when they have their dogs really close to their face. And I'm thinking, do you let your dog kiss you? Seriously? Ew. No. Swipe left. What are other ones that I am? Oh, the ones with bad grammatical sentences. Okay. And that's a two part
MJ Brewer
@Mommas_Jungle · 4:01
And I certainly am not friends with a whole lot of teenagers, but I just thought that was funny. And by the way, I'm like, twelve years older than you. Something like that. I'm glad you have a man. You hold on to that man, and I'm just gonna keep watching movies and pretend that those are my men because that's a safe way to do it. If they pissed me off or something, I could just turn the tv off
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:30
Like, I've seen pictures where it's a group of guys, and I'm like, well, which one are you? Because that one right there look good. And if that's not you, I'm going to need your homeboy's number. Like, don't be advertising for nobody else. You know what I'm saying? But anyway, thank you so much for chiming in. Bye
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:41
That profile has you about 30, 40 pounds, smaller face, skinnier face, you know, made up, glammed up, and then you come on the date looking like your normal, everyday self, which is fine, but that's who you should be promoting. If this is who you want men to see, this is who you should be promoting on your profile. But I agree, some of these filters have just gotten way out of hand on some of these photos