Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 6:03
#SwellRewind | One Problem dating over 40: People have lived most of their life without you
Also, what do you do in your life if you're dating to really make this new person feel welcomed and not like they're brand new to a life that's well lived, but you actually have space for them because you've been waiting for them and you're going to welcome them in? Let's start a conversation. Thanks for tuning back in to the swell. Rewind. Talk to you soon
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:42
Yeah. If you like the person, you should be willing to make adjustments for them. And if you don't, then tell them that you're not interested and leave them alone. You know what I mean? But, yeah, this is a really good topic. Can't wait to hear what other people chime in with
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:39
So when we get together in person, it's going to be different. And it was not because you know what? At the core, they have built these friendships and these true, tight relationships as kids. And me coming as an adult, trying to be their cousin friend, it just didn't work. So that happens, too. So let me do a part two and I'll respond to your part about relationships
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:09
Yeah. So when it comes to dating, like, you mentioned, people not having time, I'm actually the person that doesn't have time, but it's not. How can I put this? So I worked with family relationships coach in 2020. I came across these people, and they really helped me. And one of the things they did help me with was not to be so busy. And so I have time set aside specifically for dating. Like, Saturday night is my night
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:30
Because if I'm with this guy and we're together and we're going to be together long term, potentially married, then is he somebody that, do I want to raise children? No, I really don't. I don't want to have kids. I don't want to have to be like, okay, on these weekends, your kids are coming over. On these weekends, my grandkids are coming over. So what weekend does that leave for us to go and do things
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:58
The kids especially could be a point of contention because even though they're kids and they're younger than you, a 25 year old child has been with their parent for 25 years and you're coming new on the scene, so they still got more time with the dad than you do. And it's like you're coming in as a new person and they'll tell you, well, this is how we do things. The baby mama stuff, that's a whole thing, too
dee felton
@MrDee · 5:00
And then we both ended our relationships around the same time. And then we just kind of randomly met and got to know each other. And it's been good ever since. But I definitely understand what you're saying. Yes, it is difficult as you get older. I made a swell that I put in a draft, and I'm going to publish it probably soon, called marriages of inconvenience. Because there's so many things in marriage that we take for granted to
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:43
They do parties and barbecues and things like that and I get to hang with them. But then I kind of realized they've been hanging for a long time and I'm going to be the outsider. So it's just so funny where we think about things. But I definitely want to talk about the inconvenience of marriage. And I'll tell you something that happened tonight. I was on Facebook, and one of my friends posted that trend. Everyone says so
Phyllis Allen
@MamaMinnie · 4:55
So imagine that a man asks you out to dinner, and you say, yes, and you're excited. You're going on a dinner date. And so the day arrives, and it's about, I don't know, 230 in the afternoon. And he calls you and he says, okay, I'm going to pick you up in about an hour. And you're thinking, an hour? That's going to be 03:00 we're going to have a hell of a date
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 5:00
Like, there's a guy that I'm friends with, he's 60. We did date for a little bit a few years ago, but he was married for like, 20 years, I think bad marriage, no sex, that kind of thing. And so when he got back on the dating scene, I'm telling you, mama Minnie, he was like a teenage boy. He just was getting allen the booty cheeks he could get because he had been married to this one woman