Hey, swell people. Good evening. A couple of questions for you. For those of you who grew up as an only child, is it tough to be an only child? And not only when you're a child, but as you grow and become an adult and don't have siblings, has that been hard for you? And another question that's for anyone, whether you're an only child or you just want to jump in the conversation
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:49
So she did not have any children to really play with. And her family kept her sheltered a lot. So she didn't have the normal school experience that most of us have had in public schools. She went to a private school, a small private school, so she did not really get to experience a lot of things that normal kids experience in their upbringing. And she spent a lot of time with her grandparents because she had nobody to play with. She didn't have any kids to play with
Carly D
@Astroality · 2:52
He wants siblings probably more than he wants anything in the world. Now, I will tell you, he is a Taurus and Taurus, their main focus in this life is to have quality, healthy relationships, and family is extremely important to them on every level. And he just is, like, fit to be tied with me right now because he doesn't have any siblings
Geetika Kaushal
@Gkaushal6 · 1:46
And ultimately, what happens is when their kids grow up, they get an addiction to gadgets rather than their relationships. So even if you're having a single child, it's totally fine. But parents should make sure that to give proper time and make their children self independent so that in the later stages of life, even if the child will be alone somehow, somewhere the children should know the importance of relationships, family values, and moreover, they'll be a self motivator
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:14
And I love that because what it looks like to me is this is a person or a couple that's free. They're free to be with each other. They're free to reproduce. They're not worried about how we're going to do this, how we're going to do that, because it gets done. Things are going to work out. Things are going to be okay. But when people are, like, calculating our kids, we're operating from some sort of fear
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:19
That's the staying power right now, that's part of the staying power in our relationship is that our kids get along great and they like each other. And so that's real. Wow, it's great that you hear your son's heart and you even know how important relationships are to him. And so it's not like something you ignore. You're like, oh boy, cut it out. You hear it and you fill it
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:00
If you're not intending to really give your heart and soul to raise these children and to love them, then you can definitely be doing it for selfish reasons and the kids are going to suffer. That is so true. I know parents who have kids without any kind of plan, they just keep getting pregnant because they're not responsible and they don't have a plan to raise these kids. So they have a lot, but there's no plan to raise them, like you said
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:57
Kiwds, you are you are hilarious. And I'm convinced that something something's not quite right with you. Oh, my God. So having children let me just say this. It's so I have two children. One I pushed out naturally. The second one, we had to have an emergency seat section, right? I will tell you, from my experience, the C section was worse. C section was worse. It's surgery, and so literally, all kinds of chance of infection
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:28
Hey, Nikia, thanks for chiming in. I didn't realize you were an only child, so thank you for sharing that. But having your uncle there like a sibling, so you get the idea of well, not the idea, maybe the benefit of having another child in the house and having to share and having to adjust to their personality and things like that. Yeah, definitely
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 2:16
I don't know all of my brothers and sisters, I mean, because my father has so many kids and I never got a time the time to spend time with all of them, but again, I never grew up in a home by myself and I'm not the only child, so I really don't know what that's like
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:17
Hey. Good afternoon, Mo. Better. To be clear, you are always welcome to my swell. So hear me out. When I do a swell and it says invite people, it usually gives me, like, at most five or six people to invite. And that might be I'm sure it's just the algorithm. It's probably people that I recently commented on their swells that show up first if I had to guess, right?
They always mentioned problems that came with it, the fact that they craved companionship throughout their lives. And that really sticks with me. I have two brothers, older and younger, and I'm really close with both of them. My older brother moved away when I was a teenager, and so we've managed to keep in touch, which is a beautiful thing. But my younger brother and I, we talk every day, you know, and I love having that relationship with him
Shesha Singh
@s30 · 2:28
They welcome all your thoughts and everything. But still, there is a generation gap between parents and the children's. So for me, it's like having a sibling is the best thing in the world. But at the same time, if it's seen like, as you said, that is it selfish for parents to stop after getting one child? I have no one to comment on that, and I don't think it's their own preferences
You. This is a topic that I can address with some familiarity in that I am an only child and it is hell. I suppose it has its good points in that you get all your parents attention, but it also has its bad points in that you get all your parents attention. Ah I begged my mother and father to have one more child, and of course the decision was up to them and they didn't do it. I remember when they were not having trouble
Henna Khan
@MommyChronicles · 2:02
Hello? This is Hannah. A great conversation it is to hear that whether is it fine to have a single child and how is it to grow up as an only child. Although I have two younger siblings with me and I am a new mother. I have a baby who's now ten months old and am every day thinking when I think about his childhood and when I think about his future, I always think that he should grow up with a sibling
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:01
I mean, that makes a lot of sense. If you don't see it in your heart to love more than one, if you don't think you're going to have the finances to raise more than one, then why even have one? And that's easier said than done. But that your statement makes a lot of sense. It makes a lot of sense
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 2:09
Also siblings, the relationship I have with my mom and dad is very different than the one I have with my sister or the one I have with my brothers. I don't think one is better or worse, but they're different, right? And so everything you said is spot on. There are things you could tell your siblings that you can't tell your parents. And either it's just especially when we're younger and we don't want to get in trouble for certain things