It's just never been my thing. And so I'm actually quite happy that my sister and another brother of mine decided to be cremated because one of the hardest things for me during any funeral is to see the person be buried in the ground, right? To see that coffin being lowered. And so I respected the fact that they chose the rod of cremation
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:00
But I'm not especially close to my sisters. And I think you were. So I applaud you for being mature enough and whole enough to take a stance. To know that maybe it's time. Whatever you do, I just wish you the best. I really do. I wish you peace. And more than enough. Bye
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:25
When a few years ago or when my mom first passed, I used to mad at people because they would be crying and all that stuff. And I'm just like, okay, I had processed it differently, but I had to understand that everybody isn't the same. But what's good for me is what's good for me. Just like what's good for you is good for you. So if you feel that way and that's what you want to do, do it, girl
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:02
Hey, Evelyn. Thanks for your reply and your words of encouragement. Yes, my sister and I were very close. Absolutely my best friend. So her death has been hard. But because we're so close, I definitely really feel like what I was feeling in my spirit is not a coincidence. It's like her saying, girl, if you don't stop wearing me around. It's like I can hear her voice. Like, ange, stop
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:51
Hey, Kitha, thanks for chiming in. Thanks for your perspective. Yeah. When it comes to know, as painful as it is, I think that's probably why I was the one. I did so much for my siblings when they passed. I was the one that did their was. Listen, my house was sort of the point of contact. I did all those things
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:40
As for me, my children, if they want to keep my ashes, they can keep my ashes. And if they don't, then they don't have to. First of all, I won't be here, but it's not that big of a deal to me. And as close as you and your sister were, you pretty much know what she would want or not want. But I'll be praying for you. Grief, it doesn't ever go away
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:10
But obviously, everything's stone and granite, and it's very upscale, very expensive. Again, people have their total preferences of how they want to go and what they want to do at the end. But that seems like a waste of money to me, especially being me being one. And don't go to no graveyard. It's like, don't spend all that money for a stone granite encasement, because I ain't going to go see you no way
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:30
And that is what I had to forgive myself for, for not doing it during that moment and then losing him two days later. And so I've done the work, and I'm continuing to do the work, and like you said, grief forever a part of the fabric of who we are. And so I'm in a different space that doesn't call for a guilt tripped that I put on myself
