Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:30
Social Media / Is There A False Sense of Intimacy that Is Dangerous / Unsafe?
And I want to post this article to start a conversation, maybe with Dr. Flynn if we can get her on as well, but also with all of you to talk about your experiences with being vulnerable on social platforms. Have you been on clubhouse, specifically in live rooms where you've talked and shared rooms that have welcomed conversation like that? And let's talk about swell
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:02
By the way, it's got an incredible flow of important issues that are facing Black Americans today, and they really dig into some powerful conversations that really contribute to this whole idea of inequity and resources. So make sure you read this before you comment just because it really speaks indirect specifically to that community. But I think there's an overarching conversation that could be had that's more inclusive
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 5:00
And I feel like as a person that I work in different contexts, and I have groups that I sit with, they allow me to sit with them, and we talk about different religious trauma. That would be the context for me. And even I personally, I'm not a therapist or anything like that. We're just having conversations, and I would never call myself a coach. I feel really uncomfortable about those. Not that people can't have different trainings to allow them to be coaches
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 5:00
But I always make sure that I do that responsibly and that I often check to make sure that I'm not triggering anyone. So I do have occasionally people reach out and say, hey, I've seen a post. Can you help me with this? And I always start off with I'm happy to listen to you. I'm happy to have a discussion. However, I won't be telling you what to do. I am not a mental health professional
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 4:59
And if you are going to open up discussion of anything like mental health. You should always have resources you should always have. Like in the UK, we have Samaritans, which is a hotline. You can call and speak to somebody that can support. If you have suicidal thoughts, they can talk you through that and then they can get you some help. There should never be a conversation open about that without putting something like that there and then sign posting
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:59
And I say that in loose quotes, he's gotten in problems where he's giving people bad information in terms of mental health. And also he's outright dismissing one who has trauma as nothing more than something they can just think themselves out. Of all it takes is to walk over hot coals and there you are
Professor Z
@Professor42 · 4:02
And then initially I think my first well, I talked about how I discovered Swell and within one to two days of using Swell, I really began to like it because I started to identify people that brought great conversation, made good points about conversation and really were interactive with Swell. It sort of feels like a community. There's thousands, maybe millions. I think maybe millions would be an overestimate, but I can at least say there's 1000 users
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:38
But the continuity is really the concern for that that I have. And I think that what that doctor has as well is where is the continuity and where is the professionalism? And you speak so eloquently about it. I think it's a bit of a wild west, but I think that the safeguards are they're trying to put safe Pardes out there?
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:46
Hey, Duan, I just want to shout out the specificity of your comment around therapy versus something that's therapeutic. And I just want to say that for someone who's been in social audio as long as you have, and as long as I have the therapeutic experience of connecting is in its own world. That can be about talking about what we like about food or a movie and also how we're feeling that day
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:07
And I'm just glad that you have kind of found your niche, and you're careful to be aware of people that are just their intentions are not good. But that one scenario we talked about when a guy was stopped talking and the other gentleman kind of put him down. That's what I'm talking about. Like, what kind of safe space is that? Especially if they're talking about stuff as vulnerable as wellness. Yeah
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:18
It's about where are they coming from, Where's their kindness, Where's their soul at, and how they're presenting that in the conversation. That's the roots of community. And I think that's really where we can win here. And I really appreciate you reflecting on that this particular conversation because I think it's very, very relevant
Ophelia Johnson
@LadyO · 4:29
What's the emotion you're feeling right now? How are we going to deal with this? What's our goal? When we walk away from this session, we've had some very difficult moments. You need them to be okay. You need them to be able to feel like I can breathe. I feel much better. I've released that I've dealt with it. But to just regurgitate things and events that have happened is not the way to help someone into a place of healing
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:07
You know, it's interesting to talk about the volume of a lot of ears listening in towards something and the anonymity implied in that amount of people and the permission it gives people to feel sort of anonymous, but then they show up and they unfold and they have this experience and then that anonymity is the opposite of what they actually probably need. They need to feel seen and completely considered fully, not just as a disembodied voice. Right? It's really interesting
We're literally trying to create a space where, yeah, you can have fine. Plug in whatever you want. You want to plug in through audio? Fine. You want to plug in through video. Fine. But what about knowledge sharing? What about accruing information and data and information, local information and turning that and having conversations inviting different players, having also maybe a process where it's not just like, oh, here's your issue
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:56
I love the idea of bringing people together who have had a shared experience and then sharing the knowledge of not just that experience, but how it can be coordinated into more of an actionable club that actually help change societal opinions, change, ultimately, legislation. But what you're really bringing forward here is how connected things are a personal experience, becoming a shared experience, and then that becoming something that becomes an agenda for a particular group of people in the society