No, Your Feedback is Not Welcome! Can You Relate?

And she works with a myriad of people who really need her and ask her to show up and take risks and create something from nothing to give to them as her clients. She has been a product designer for many years working with Corbett and of course, with Disney, which is a big gig for her. And now, Interestingly enough, she is a full time student at UCLA, learning about architecture and interior design. What a courageous thing to do to just jump back into that world

Sometimes you need to only connect with those who’ve been through it. Welcome Amy! @Amy-Ilyse #brenebrown

Darrisha Daniel
@Dee94 · 1:22
Hey Deb, thanks for inviting me. I love this Renee Brown. I need to get into her cause that quote is very much still resonating. I feel like how I approach these type of people is I just kind of. Sometimes people just need to talk. Okay, I get it. Then say whatever you need to say. But at the end of whatever they have to say, if it hits me, it hits me
Amy Ilyse Rosenthal
@Amy-Ilyse · 3:49

What if we all bothered to ask before giving (unsolicited) feedback?

I don't know that everyone's opinion about anyone else's story is important. And I think that's a distinction we haven't yet sort of cracked. And I think that the quote and Brunette Brown sort of try to get at that right. Because one is like giving your opinion or feedback about something while not necessarily speaking from that place, means you don't actually have the experience to offer actionable insights, which is kind of what feedback is
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:19

inside hierarchy its harder

And how do you try to create an atmosphere where people respect experience and the specificity of experience before they think they know what somebody needs to hear? If someone is above you but they've never done your job and you're below them, they might not understand the challenges of your job, but they're going to roll in there and say, well, you probably should do it this way. And you're, like, rolling your eyes
Amy Ilyse Rosenthal
@Amy-Ilyse · 3:48

You can tell people how you want them to tell you what they’re thinking!

And I think that recognizing that sometimes just allowing people to talk without feeling the need to respond to what they're saying is a way to manage unsolicited advice and feedback, which she spoke to and I think is right and brilliant and a really good strategy inside the work environment. But this is a really tricky topic because you're going to have people above you who have no idea how to do the thing that you know how to do
Charlie Floyd
@damonnomad · 3:32
Another thing I consider is that it is often the case that those given feedback are relying solely on their physical senses to observe phenomena primarily through site. The problem is that to see involved more than opening the eye and exposing the retina to the environment. In essence, the mind witnesses through the eye and directs the eye what to see. So if the mind is insufficiently programmed through lack of experience, misdirection will occur
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:44


And you're right. We all come from our own perspectives, and sometimes that's the most valuable, and then it's the most dangerous at the same time. Yeah, it's a lot I know why it took you a long time to think about this, because there's a lot to it, and I want to grow. I want people to reflect back. I want people to let me know what they're seeing in me and my work