Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:50
PORTION CONTROL: Looking at your bites and bits. What’s on your menu and it is a balanced digital diet?
Also, what does it mean to be having purposeful social media, not like mindless, but mindful, what does that feel like? And really making a delineation between our workspace and our home life and sort of sanctifying the two and making sure we're not bleeding into each other so much that we have no distinctions. So those are some of the topics I really want to cover. Tyno, first of all, I hope I'm pronouncing your name right. I know that you are
Taíno bendz
@tbendz · 3:10
So I'm, I'm from Sweden but has spent quite some time there. And the first time I was 17. So this was in 2005, six left Sweden without Facebook, didn't exist. Spent the year in New Zealand and it didn't really stuck there
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:45
And I'm sure you cover this in your book, but from your perspective, do you feel like there is a culture that's similar to the Alcoholics Anonymous culture where it becomes so ubiquitous that people just have sort of code words and everyone kind of goes, oh yeah, right, we're not going to do this right now. Like, we're not going to drink right now. We're not going to do our phones right now
Taíno bendz
@tbendz · 2:09
My aspirations are to be a part of a tipping point of a cultural shift where this unhealthy disconnecting technology use has become normalized. You know, no one lifts an eyebrow if you're out with friends and you pull up your phone, and then everyone else pulls up their phone. This morning, I was picking up some bread with my kids at a cafe, and you see couples, a beautiful, sunny morning. You see two couples both sitting on their phones
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:53
And I feel strongly that if if a cafe or a public space does not provide WiFi, they actually need to take the next step if they really want to revolutionize this, which is what are we replacing it with? Because sometimes people need icebreakers, they need cards on the table with prompts, they need 05:00 in the evening event that happens where there's someone facilitating something
Taíno bendz
@tbendz · 1:58
One point you mentioned I'd like to challenge a little bit, which is that you don't feel anything when you're using devices. I'd love for you to explore on what you mean by that because a lot of one big issue of it is that we have the Dopamine release
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 3:53
So I think the primary thing I like to talk about with the digital wellness is where are you in your body at any given time, and have you fed it, have you watered it, have you bathed it, have you walked it, have you caressed it, have you stretched it? And the body leads everything else. So can I do that when I'm holding my phone? Absolutely. Is it better not to hold my phone? Absolutely
Taíno bendz
@tbendz · 3:23
It's an interesting first of all, it's quite different depending on where you are in the world, I think, and also on a local level. So I spent a couple of years in New Zealand, where some schools were really on the forefront and banning mobile phones in schools. Not really perhaps supporting youth in digital well being, but at least recognizing that, okay, they don't need to have access to their phones during school time, but that could become that