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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:22

Is Being Authentic a One-time Choice or a Process?

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And I thought that combo of being a wellness coach and being someone who was quite spiritual would be a really nice mix to talk about the grit of authenticity, not the word we read in all the journals of inspiration, but really, which is why I love Renee Brown so much, because Renee is about the grit. She's about the work. So welcome, Lisa. Thanks for being here

Let’s get into this. All are welcome! Kicking it off with Lisa Ginn Crozier @Authenticity3

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Charlie Floyd
@damonnomad · 2:53
I don't know anything about being authentic in certain terms. I have heard the term many times in very many contexts. I know how to out to use the idea in the rhetoric and insert it into conversation properly, but I've never studied it. I don't know how it works in sociological terms or psychological terms
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Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 5:00
That lingo is like something that is best left on a LinkedIn profile or something like that. So in aspects of one day you want to decide to be at or a process. I think there are people that don't even think about this stuff, but people can affix these labels on them. They're this, they're that it seems that especially in this day and age, the more labels you can have about yourself, the better
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Lisa Ginn
@Authenticity3 · 4:55
I've worked with thousands of people through a weight loss journey and a wellness journey. And it's been an incredibly fulfilling part of my life. And I have had some time in seminary and I've been a worship leader for many years on and off at some different churches. And all of those things are exactly how I would describe what you said when you said projecting out how we want people to see us
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:14

@damonnomad @FryedOreo @Authenticity3

And the layers that you talk about, Dewuan, what is the best version of ourselves and when do we want to put that out there? I think that the practice that Brene Brown is talking about is really the practice of knowing your limitations and knowing your environment. And I don't think it's a one and done. I think it's a really deep seated, almost privilege to say today I'm going to be this person or this deep part of myself. And what is authenticity?
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Lisa Ginn
@Authenticity3 · 5:00

@damonnomad

And I was letting that be my identity instead of behold me and all of it underneath the parts that I like people to see and the parts that I don't like people to see. And actually what I've seen in the workshops that I lead with other people, when I can create a space or when I go into a space, first of all, it's safe. It needs to be safe. I love that you brought up that fact that it's just not safe everywhere to be authentic
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Lisa Ginn
@Authenticity3 · 3:53

@FryedOreo

Is this something I want to work on or not? Maybe it is. Maybe it isn't. I'm never going to be perfect. It's not going to happen. And that's okay, too. But there are areas that I can prioritize and decide. Okay. This is where I want to start working on me. I don't think it has for me
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Lisa Ginn
@Authenticity3 · 5:00

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So I so agree that this is not just a one and done thing. I completely agree that this is a. It's a becoming. It's unknowing. It's a growing. It's a fluid target that moves on a daily e basis and kind of like intimacy. It deepens. I think. I think we can develop intimacy with ourselves the more we know ourselves. But that takes the hard work, that takes the scary stuff
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Lisa Ginn
@Authenticity3 · 1:31

@DBPardes

I hope it's okay to have a part two. Sorry this went a little bit long, but that whole, you know, getting back into that whole belonging thing, when I'm finally to the point where I'm okay with me, I'm able to connect with people on such deeper level
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:23

@Kendy_ @Authenticity3 @damonnomad

And also, Lisa is falling down to the lowest part of her sole physical, spiritual place, where her addiction became at least I'm speaking directly to you, where it became the trigger to delve into that kind of process of unmasking all that pain and then emerging into the beautiful soul that you are now
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@LadyO
Ophelia Johnson
@LadyO · 5:00

@damonnomad you are so raw and true.. It takes work

They're your lies to yourself. They are your moments that you've had in this life from the time you can remember. They're your defining moments, the things that have made you the adult that you are today. And when you can look at those things and you can accept them for what they are, for who you are, for how you were brought up. Someone once said that childhood lasts forever because whatever has happened to us in our childhood, we carry with us into our adulthood
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Ophelia Johnson
@LadyO · 2:43
Hi, Deborah. I love this one. Sorry. I've been away for a little while. Just been busy with classes and trying to get my certification and accreditation and everything else. But, yeah, this is beautiful. And authenticity. Just being so true to yourself and loving every minute of it, loving yourself, self care and recognizing the people who steal your energy and the people who actually grow from it. I try to think of myself
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:18

@LadyO

Now I'm questioning authenticity. I'm questioning that buzzword that we name to say to somebody, oh, they're so real. But I think it really comes down to the safety issue. I come back to that. I know that Lisa was commenting on that as well. If I'm going to be real with you, I might not be pretty to you. And is that okay? What's that contract like with a person? Is that contract explicit or implicit?
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@Manisha10
Manisha kumari D
@Manisha10 · 0:14

# authenticity

Of course living authenticity does not mean doing what you want to do all the time. There is dedicated balance to strike between authenticity and need to be socially connected and valued
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Ophelia Johnson
@LadyO · 3:40

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That part of you that they weren't really aware of. And then as your own being, can you suppress that and just say, okay, you know what? I really don't want to go there with you because I care about you. So let's just end this conversation. You know what I mean? It's kind of like instead of to keep stoking the fire, you just kind of let it go down and just say, okay, that's a trigger for me
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Kritika Saraf
@ksaraf1312 · 0:01

#sayitomswell

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