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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 3:15

Addiction & Recovery : Join Timothy Harrington in Conversation

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Well, and for being a part of this conversation, and I know you spend a lot of time in a program you call sustainable recovery. And the tagline for that program is addiction is a family issue. There is a family solution, and it really struck me when I read that I was like, that is about the context where you wake up every day who you engage with every day. And I want to quote something that Timothy says on his website

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Timothy Harrington
@aaiou1 · 4:43
And as a result of those things I experienced when I was a child, it created an environment that was not on purpose stigmatized because where drug use exists and where it has existed for at least modern times, let's say 100 years has gotten a bad rep, has been criminalized and discriminated against and marginalized. And racism is a big part of this. It's a lot to unpack
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:53

Step one - language and initial engagement @aaiou1

We can even role play if you want. But I just really want to start going square one, which is people that we know in our worlds. How do we start the conversation
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Timothy Harrington
@aaiou1 · 2:40
So what do I see? What do I fear? And then what do I hope and hope is the resolution. Hope is the process of the nonjudgmental non shaming, nonblaming aspect of this process of this engagement of this relationship. I tell people we have this fear of, like, culturally, we're acculturated and socialized to mind our own business, and that's just not healthy. It's not about busy bodies. It's about what I see brings up these fears
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:54

What does high functioning mean?

Sometimes when you start hearing over and over again that it's not your problem and people start affirming that because that means that we're just living in a non judgmental society and let people live Yolo. But let's say I'm going to compare this to something parallel, which is people who are very obese can go to places to help intense obesity because it's a life threatening situation and they tend to go to these extreme places to get help
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Timothy Harrington
@aaiou1 · 5:00

#relationalawareness #compassion #kindness # boundaries

Yeah, that's always been an interesting thing. People saying or categorizing somebody as a functioning alcoholic or functioning addict, both of which, of course, you know, I don't like labels are for bottles and cans, not people. But regardless, I understand the question because it exists because we're just not asking the right question. Let's just start with, Am I an alcoholic? It's the wrong question
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:34

A day in the life

I understand more now because of how you frame things. I understand the work you do. But to look at sustainable recovery, your program, can you highlight for us a typical day in your life so that I understand. And we understand what it's like to be in this conversation a lot. And the variation that you must experience on a daily basis, from person to person. What's that like for you, as a practitioner, as somebody who's committed your life to this
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Timothy Harrington
@aaiou1 · 5:00

#breathe #bepresent #stayoutoftheresults #kindness #loveeachotherup

If I'm curious about the other person that I love and care for, my love and care doesn't Trump anything that they're going through. It is simply the space that I let them rest in. That's all anybody wants. They want to be heard. They want to be witnessed. They want to be recognized. They want to be valued no matter what
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:05

So grateful/ let’s keep this going organically

And it's the nature of this app. And it's the nature of all things. That iterate. And I think we're in a place right now where we're so complicated as people. And when someone like you comes in and sheds light on kind of tools that we can use to help each other and connect better with each other, this is invaluable. So thank you so much. I noticed you have some conversations on your own swell cast super excited about that
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Indy Rishi Singh
@MysticScientist · 2:50

Does connecting with cultural IQ improve addiction recovery?

Whether it's dancing or music or art that comes from different cultures, does that help with addiction therapy like that? Tapping into the roots of where we come from, our genetic memory that's literally encoded inside of us the dances that people did. That's physical intelligence, right. The emotional intelligence required to do art and that art being passed down through generations and hundreds of years. Do these things also help and contribute in strengthening addiction recovery? Like, does it improve that?
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:50

@MysticScientist

And it's just so beautiful that you just are able to drop into the sort of the seeds that really are planted in all of our hearts around how vulnerable are we? And how can we truly rise from things that's so oppressive? And it's just very moving. Thank you so much
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Timothy Harrington
@aaiou1 · 4:46
That has caused us to get to this point where every single day in the media somebody likes to remind us 1000 people died of multidrug toxicity overdose in this country. I read every day and I want somebody to stop quoting the numbers of people who are tragically overdosing without mentioning what things are being done to solve this problem and what the drastic changes we need so that we can avenge the losses. It's the great losses that have already occurred and to prevent future loss
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