The Daily Swell
@daily · 1:32
What ❓ do you wish people asked more?
I do wish generally when we met people, though, we asked each other more interesting questions. And I feel like the questions I'm usually asked the most when meeting someone new is, what do you do? Where are you from? How did you meet the person that maybe you both mutually know they're very easy questions. And I totally get that. But I think if I had to pick a question, I wish people asked more. It would be, what do you love to do?
We don't tend to ask these kinds of questions on swell. And you know what? I'm kind of okay with that, because everything is out here for everyone to hear. And I think sometimes these conversations can be a little more personal or at least like them to be. And it's been a long time since I've been in a situation to have a conversation like this
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:13
But it would be more of an organic scenario. It would be like something. Where me talking with this person. I would be like, okay, I feel compelled to do this with this person. Let's go there. Let's talk about it. But most of the time, I'm just trying to get home. I'm trying to get home or to work. That's the main thing that's on my mind. I'm not at all concerned with making sure I have deep conversations
Rae Lahnie
@Raelah · 1:21
I would love it if more people asked if where you are today is where you imagine yourself a year ago or two years ago, and if the answer is no, are you happy with this shift? And if that answer is no, what do you wish could have happened? And is there anything you think he's going to do today that might get you a little bit closer tomorrow
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:22
So small talk can be perfect for me because I have to go somewhere. So I don't necessarily feel like having a 40 minutes conversation when I have things to do in the day. But other people, it could be different. And I guess I'm trying to fit myself in the head of an everyday going person. And this is probably why art is as rich as it is because it's not meant for everybody
Rae Lahnie
@Raelah · 2:38
Hi Dewuan. I hope I'm pronouncing that correctly. Reyla is how I pronounce it, but Rey is fine as well. You brought up a point that is actually made me laugh because I agree with it and relate to it a lot. Definitely. There are people that we have absolutely no interest in delving past that exterior with them or listening to their more inner thoughts. So that does bring up another layer of consent
I'd feel a lot more comfortable talking about regular, everyday stuff, and it's definitely got to be something that doesn't make me or the other person uncomfortable. So maybe I'll start off with something, say, related to food, food, I think is one of the safest bets for small talk
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:14
More often than not, people do assume that I know the latest score of the game, one white man and elderly white man I was in the McDonald's just blatantly said, hey, you must play football with a body like that older white dudes dudes like in the 70s or 80s. And I told him, no, I actually don't play sports. I read comic books and listen to podcasts, and he laughs. So there's always a way to have good conversation from that